A question to bisexual men on this forum, or others who might know the answer.
Are bisexual men attracted to certain types of women? Like women with boyish figures? Women above average height? Women who have a dominant personality? In other words women with some masculine traits.
I think my answer can be found in the following questions: Are straight women attracted to certain types of men? Like men with hair? Tall men? Assertive men?
From what I can tell, the only common element shared by bisexual men as a group is that they’re attracted to both men and women. Other than that, they’re as diverse as any other group of people lumped together by what gender/s they are attracted to.
This is my anecdotal experience (has this been researched? I kinda doubt it). I messed around for a while with a bi guy (which I was cool with because hey, mmf threesome maybe? ) and we talked about it some. He was a laid-back guy with low standards for appearance, and would frankly have sex with pretty much anything that walked and didn’t smell like a dumpster. He was also pretty young though, only 20, so he was in the horniest stage of his adult life. I feel like a lot of non-bi guys have similar standards for their choice in partner, at that age. I don’t feel like his bisexuality had an effect on what he did or didn’t find attractive, except that his range of potential partners was double the size of a non-bisexual person.
He was both romantically and physically bisexual. He wanted a romantic and a sexual relationship with me (a girl) and had had both with gay guys in the past. I say this just to highlight his “type,” since there are people who are attracted physically to both sexes but would only consider a relationship with one or the other. Or vice versa.
I have to question, upon seeing this quoted in its own context, whether you think all straight men have similar preferences in women to other straight men. 'Cause they don’t. Chubsters, skinnies, blondes, redheads, tall, short, blue eyes, white skin, brown eyes, black skin, huge boobs, no boobs… there’s really no universally attractive type to all heterosexual males, despite what media stereotypes would have you believe.
As a bisexual, I tend to prefer women with some masculine traits, or guys with some feminine traits. Really butch guys, or really femme girls, don’t usually do it for me. On the other hand, I’m strongly attracted to really butch women, and really femme guys.
But those are both very broad generalities. There have been plenty of times where I’ve been attracted to someone who doesn’t fit those criteria.
No, I don’t think that all straigt men have similar preferences in women. My thought was that maybe bisexual men in general prefer women who are more on the masculine side considering the fact that they also are attracted to men.
Is it likely that a bisexual man would be attracted to someone who’s very feminine, let’s say Marilyn Monroe?
Exactly. The question isn’t settled by what straight men (or straight women) are attracted to, because straight men are not attracted to other men. To my perspective, there’s a WORLD of difference between a man being attracted to this type, that type, or the other type of WOMAN, and a man being attracted to another MAN. It’s a completely different, HUGELY different, game-changingly different dimension of sexuality to me as a straight guy. A whole other world. Now, to a bi guy, it may not be that big of a deal – or maybe it is: hence the question.
It does not seem unreasonable to me to wonder whether a bi male, who is different from straight males in having an attraction to men, might have an attraction to women who in some way resemble men. And since his sexuality is different from that of straight men, what straight men like doesn’t address the issue.
ETA: This difference doesn’t necessarily mean that bi men as a group MUST have different taste in women (compared to straight men as a group), but to me it means there’s no basis to assume they necessarily DON’T have different taste in women.
I’m a bisexual woman. The women I’ve dated have been quite a diverse range of body types, although most have been quite girly. The men I’ve dated on the other hand have all been more of a consistent “type”. Most of them were like Steve Rodgers (aka Captain America). The comic book version, not the Chris Evans version. So per the OP: no, I have not dated girly men, nor manly women.
I disagree that heterosexual men don’t have a type. It’s a very vaguely defined type, but there are some standards that more of us have than don’t. If not, then there would not be so much agreement on who is hot.
I’m not exactly sure the exact criteria, but I know that, when I talk to guys about hot women, we all seem to pretty much agree who is hot and who is not. I’d guess an 90% overlap, easy.
This sort of thing would make an interesting study, not just for hetero and bisexual men, but also lesbians and bisexual women.