I keep debating whether I should pack up and move back to Japan or not. It would really suck for me, but it may be the best thing for my kid, on the other hand, that’s not a for sure. Some pluses would be: We’d have money, her dad’s loaded. Here, (USA) I keep a part-time schedule when she’s with me, and I get decent support, but we would be somewhat lacking cash-wise. She has family there, here’s she’s just stuck with me! Not that she minds, but, you know. Family is important.
See, I don’t want to live without my kid, obviously. SHe’s currently in Japan. But I really DON’T want to live with the Japanese ex-husband, either! Currently we have to share her, which really sucks for her, since me and the ex are on opposite sides of the planet. The ex is okay sometimes, but he can be a real jerk. To be honest, 85% of it is cultural difference. He’s Japanese, I’m, like, way not. And I have no marketable skills really, to survive on my own there. Just teaching English, at which I am horrible. So I’d be relying on him.
Also, I"m not talking about somewhere cool, like Tokyo, or Kyoto or something, I"m talking middle of nowhere, if there’s a butt-f–k Japan, this town is it, sort of deal. So she’s learning coutrified Japanese to top it all off. (Which is not good, but not terrible.)
Which makes me wonder if I shouldn’t have her come back here and study in an American school for a while. She’s due back next June, I have to make up my mind soon. My main thing is what’s best for her?? She says she wants to come back here, basically I think because she’d be back to a 5 day school week, haha, but also because she misses me and the easier american lifestyle. Still, I"m sure she’d appreciate it if I moved. But…It’s Japan.
Any advice would be appreciated.
A girl
