Confess Primaflora, you’re simply hacked off because a Pom(eranian) was just as quick to kill a baby as you wish to think my wolf hybrid might be. Tough noogies, you Qantas hostie.
I gotta say, I’m confused all over again.
Seems to me the only way to make sure you’re getting both sides of the story here is to actually talk to the person on the other side of the story, i.e. the harridan. Talking to friends, relatives, etc. of the widow is only gonna get you more of the story you’ve already gotten.
Since we’re now more than two weeks past this incident, I’m wondering if you actually want to get the other side.
Sauron, rest assured that I will not share my views with anyone in the neighborhood until I have had a chance to hear both sides of the story. The hag is not the easiest person to approach, especially since she doesn’t like me to begin with. I do want to get to the bottom of this.
Okay. Gotcha.
Zenster perhaps most of the time you are a nice person who likes to help people and is compassionate and all that stuff, but after reading all that you’ve written on this saga you don’t really appear that way.
Just the fact that you keep referring to this woman as a hag blows your suppossed compassion right out the water. If we are to believe what you say about her, I’d say she’s probably got a few problems and I can understand that she’s probably really irritating. But don’t you think you’re just adding to her problems by reacting so badly to her?
She sounds a bit fucked up so why don’t you cut her some slack and forget about this situation?
Pixelle, I try my best to treat all people with some degree of compassion. I’ve lost count of the times this woman has walked right past me without even saying hello. I’ve also lost count of the times where I’ve said hello or waved to her and been flat out ignored. Her head wasn’t turned the other way, she wasn’t talking to someone else, she just plain treated me like I didn’t exist. However much I shall take what the widow says with a grain of salt, I can see no reason why she would fabricate a story about her next door neighbor not even coming over to express condolences. Most people on the street heard the fire engine pull up. Many saw this poor woman with her head in her hands, sobbing as the paramedics went inside. It’s impossible that this heartless woman does not know about the death that happened in the house next to hers.
Her sister lives almost directly across the street. Even if she was not at home when the fire engines pulled up, she still found out about it from her sister, just like I did. Sorry, this is a very unfeeling person and it will take some massive demonstrations otherwise to change my estimation of her. I cannot imagine why she is unable to go next door and express any sort of sympathy for someone who has lost their mate. All I know is that it stinks and I cannot have a lot of respect for such a hard hearted person.
To close this thread, I’m going to present one single piece of evidence as to why it is so easy to believe the hag across the street is precisely that.
Today, there was an envelope tucked into the driver’s side window of my car. Inside was a beautiful card, complete with color image of a Louis Comfort Tiffany stained glass window (one of my favorite artistic mediums). The card read:[ul]Chris,
Thanks so much for all the great food and thoughts in my time of loss. One day at a time.
[signature][/ul]
After a decade of leaving her nieces Easter Baskets and Christmas stockings, the hag cannot bring herself to ever thank me in person or even just leave some sort of note. It is a minuscule jump to think this harpy might also neglect to express condolences to her newly widowed neighbor.
The widow did leave a note.
This speaks volumes to me.
Lynn, please close this thread when you have time.
see, I don’t understand.
I already knew that you liked the widow and didn’t like the hag.
That you had experience w/the widow that made you conclude she’s nice, and experience w/the hag that made you conclude that she’s not.
But.
you only had one side of the story. Still do. A nice person could be mistaken about how much damage occured. A nice person could also leave out important pieces of information etc.
A hag can still be right, even tho’ she’s not nice and is a hag.
The fact that one has been consistently nice with you and the other consistently mean w/you does not give you information relative to the veracity of that particular occurance. YOu obviously feel that the widow’s version is most likely, and it indeed may be. But you still, even now, only have the one version. Nice people can do not nice things. Evil people can do nice things.
John Wayne Gacy used to volunteer at a childrens’ hospital. He was still a monster.
I agree. And hitler was a vegetarian devoted to his dogs.
And about the gift-giving that you haven’t been thanked for Zenster, well quite frankly that’s just plain rude isn’t it. But the idea of giving a gift is not so you can receive thanks but to give joy/happiness to the recipient.
If you find yourself getting angry because you haven’t been thanked, you are giving a gift for selfish reasons. It sounds like you want the glory when they come over and thank you and you’re not getting that so you get mad. It’s like your asking for validation that you’re a good person.
Either continue to give gifts and don’t expect thanks or stop giving the gifts. Getting mad about stuff like that is just putting unnecessary stress on yourself. There’s every liklihood that nothing you do will change your neighbor into a well-mannered person and you’ll just become a frustrated and angry person trying. 
No frustration, no anger, just the observation that this particular so-called “Christian” happens to be far less charitable than her own religion’s namesake. Color me shocked!
Gee, Zen, I don’t know any Christian who is as charitable as the religion’s namesake.
For someone who is a “scientist” you have failed to get both sides of the story before leaping to a conclusion. This is compounded by the fact that you had already admittedly formed a BIAS against your “Christian” neighbor for not waving to you or sending you thank you cards. So your emotions have interfered with your objectivity – a big no-no in science.
Hence, you are as hypocritical to your “religion” as your “Christian” neighbor is to hers.
Pundit Lisa, what part of:
“Sauron, rest assured that I will not share my views with anyone in the neighborhood until I have had a chance to hear both sides of the story. The hag is not the easiest person to approach, especially since she doesn’t like me to begin with. I do want to get to the bottom of this.”
don’t you understand?
Do you actually bother to read my posts?
Piss off you battle-ax.
See, this is what puzzles me. YOU want to get to the bottom of this? Why? You have absolutely NO interest in this little feud. Why are you so involved in it? How would you feel if the hag came over to you and starting asking you about something that happened between you and the widow? Wouldn’t you think it was none of her freaking BUSINESS?
Yes. I see where you’ve pretended to be interesting in hearing both sides and then wanted the mod to close the thread before you could report what the hag had to say.
I’m beginning to see why the neighbor doesn’t wave to you.
That’s the best you can do? QANTAS hostie? Why would that even be an insult?
And if you care to sharpen up your reading skills, you’ll note I’ve never made any comments on the dog thing. Nothing, nada, zip.