As much as sometimes I think I’m better, I still have days of sadness. So I decided to try something my separation book recommended. Today I wrote a goodbye letter to my ex. There is no intention of sending it to her, writing it is meant to help me let go. I said goodbye to her, and all the little things I loved about her. I also said goodbye to all the nuisances and bad things in our relationship. I broke down and cried all the way through it. I could barely keep writing it was so hard. I did finally finish the letter though I’m hoping this means I made some progress today and I can keep moving up the mountain to recovery.
Tonight I’m going to treat myself to a good hang out with a friend and maybe a movie all my myself as a reward. My book said to reconsider being alone as “All one-ness”.
I’m so very sorry for your pain, Q. As for “all-one-ness,” I hope that philosophy works for you. I’m still struggling with it. I want to see being alone now at this relatively late stage of my life as just part of the journey, but most of the time, if just feels like failure. Good luck to you.
I don’t have much in the way of context here, but chin up Quasi. Once you get used to it there’s nothing wrong with being single and in fact it’s my preference.
People can be sucked into the idea that they need to be in a relationship to complete them. There’s plenty of other ways.
I did the same after what was probably a much less significant relationship that yours (but still very significant to 22-year-old me), and it helped immensely. It was recommended by “How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days.”
It’s so sad to read your post and feel your pain, but this is clearly another milestone passed, another step on the road to recovery. May the journey go quickly and well for you.