That rings a bell…
I was divorced in 1990, I moved out of the house on July 3rd, July 4th I went to a local bar and ran into a girl I had dated a couple of times in high school. We hit it off pretty well and she had recently seperated as well. We ended up spending the weekend together and when we parted ways agreed to meet in the same bar 20 years later. In 2010 we both showed up, I was really surprised she had remembered. We had nice evening at the bar and have stayed in touch and remained good friends since.
This, absolutely, HoneyBadgerDC, is the best way to proceed. You haven’t been happy in your current relationship for some time, IIRC. Is it time to do something concrete about that? You have my support, of course, whatever you decide to do but I vote for mending or ending the current relationship before pursuing the other lovely lady.
I absolutely agree, when things are going good I very much enjoy my current relationship. When her drinking gets out of hand I can feel myself just getting angrier and angrier every time she opens her mouth slurring and mumbling, it just drives me nuts. There is no fixing my current relationship. After several years of setting her up in apts and recovery homes I finaly just gave up and resigned myself to making the best of it. I actually do have a pretty good life but it could be a lot better.
One last thought, I hope that neither of us is ever to old to be smitten. It is totally stupid but it can be stupidly awesome.
I wish we had a “like” button on here.
Life’s too short, HoneyBadger. You’re a good guy and I wish you happiness.
I’m lightly smitten on a regular basis, and have been all my life. My current smiter (a local newscaster). No stalking, no obsession, just the occasional lustful thinking.
My father-in-law got smitten at 96 or so, and still more or less is at 99. (She is a bit older.)