You’ve been the one trying to make out the words the same, just disparaging words that are no different. If you do realize that one is worse than the other, why the equivalence in the other thread?
You JUST said you’ve never called someone an asshole on this board. I submit that you did and you consider it a joke, and that you do see the words are different in weight. Unless you would be equally comfortable joking in the same way with fag?
Here’s your post where you talk about asshole and bigot being disparaging words for groups: