ADDITION: I suppose I could have gotten rough with her and thus managed to satisfy both my dislike of her and my sexual needs, but I’m not that kinda guy.
Since he is already friends with her, an offer to “jump his bones” is really an offer to start a relationship. That’s what this particular guy is not jumping at.
I could be the guy in this story. I have a friend right now who went from friendly, to flirting, to grabbing, to outright telling me to come over and spend the night. She’s attractive too. But, so far I haven’t gone through with it, and its mostly the social circle dynamic thing - we are both in the same very close circle of friends, I’m not interested in any serious relationship right now (besides, I love her to death as a friend, but we would kill each other if we ended up dating), and think sleeping with her will pretty much destroy the group dynamic, and this group of friends is very important to me. Though she’s told me it would just be sex, she doesn’t want more, I don’t really believe that would be true in the end, and don’t really want to risk it. I would rather keep it platonic.
Though…she’s wearing me down, and I feel like its only a matter of time and one extra drink before something happens. We’ll see…
I went out with a female friend once, and she had invited another of her friends. She was flirty, hot as hell, and looking to score. We ended up all getting knee-walking drunk. At one point, we were in a local dance club which had dancing cages for those willing to get up and strut their stuff for the entire club. She grabbed my hand and led me up to the place of honor, in front of the cage, while she climbed inside and proceeded to dance for me VERY provocatively in her tiny Little Black Dress.
Unfortunately, I ended up saying “no” later on because:
- It would have made things weird with the friend I was with,
- I was trying to patch things up with my at-the-time estranged girlfriend,
- I could smell the crazy on the dancing chick a mile off. I don’t do crazy. It’s a fine way to get yourself involved in some fucked up stuff.
Some men are simply capable of overruling the little head with the big one, for a variety of reasons.
That’s not subtle, but it leaves the ball in his court. Even if he wants to have sex with her he still has to make a move and he may not be confident in doing that. You can know that you’re going to get laid if you simply ask and you can still be paralyzed with fear.
She should arrange to be alone with him in a place where they can have sex (or, at least, have a place ready for them to go to if he wants to). Then she should say, “I want to have sex with you” (no euphemisms). Then she’ll know where she stands. This is no way to start a relationship, however, which is what she probably really wants.
There’s four naked virgins around me.
But please, not now. I’m too tired.
Youre right, she would’ve been better served had it said I like you, lets go out sometime.
I’ve turned down sex quite a few times. One was too crazy. One was physically attractive but mentally I had no attraction to her (just not compatible.)
Right now I’m in a monogamous relationship, if anyone short of Marisa Miller asked me to have sex I’d have to thank them but decline.
I’ve turned down sex because her boyfriend kept knocking on the door.
And another time, different girl, I turned it down because her fiance wanted to meet me.
And I realize that this has absolutely nothing to do with the OP, I just wanted to sneak-brag 
I’m just repeating what other people have said.
Answering the question in the OP:
No one really believes that a man will never turn down sex, right? That’s just ridiculous.
The closest I would come to that kind of statement is this: if you’re a woman, and you’re alone in a private place with a single, unattached, young, drunk guy who thinks you are good-looking and sexy, your chances are pretty darn good that he won’t turn you down when you propose sex.
In your friend’s situation, if your friend wants to have a sexual encounter with this guy, no strings attached, and she is afraid that she has some resistance to break down, then she could try arranging an encounter as described in my previous paragraph. If she wants a long-term relationship with marriage, babies, and sitting together by the fireplace in 50 years talking about their grandkids, she shouldn’t start by sending a greeting card baldly stating “I want to have intercourse with you.” Of course this method could very well work depending on the individual, but without knowing either of them, I definitely would discourage it as a general course of action.
No.
emphasis added.
Also, heh heh, inscrutable.
I would say the whole thing is like:
80% of men, would have sex with 80% of the women they might encounter, 80% of the time.
By no means a sure thing, but the deck is definitely stacked in a womans favor.
If we assume the emotionally sensistive wussies we’ve heard from all through this thread so far are in the remainder, I’d put the number at more like over 90% and agree that BigBertha’s inital assessment of the vast majority of men being willing regardless, is correct.
That is of course also assuming, the lady’s intent is clearly communicated. I also believe that probably over 90% of the women out there are quite capable and willing to do that effectively.
That’s the thing about these Internet message boards: You’re typically only hearing from the small numbers having probems of some sort.
How could you possibly know this? It sounds like you’re just projecting your own personality onto others because you can’t imagine them not being like you.
I suppose it’s possible that you’ve propositioned enough men to get a meaningful sample size, but even then it wouldn’t likely be a random one.
I am not that sensitive at all. I just don’t like ugly chicks or even ones that aren’t significantly above average let alone the ones with annoying voices or the general bitches plus many more disqualifiers. Take a poll for yourself sometime if you think the 90% number is accurate even for you. Walk again, take a close look, and tally the results. You only get to rule out 1 in 10 of them that are of legal age and have have to service all the rest. Would you take that deal? You are a much better man than I am if you say yes because there is no way in hell I am laying a finger on 90%+ of the female population just out out of finickiness alone. It has nothing to do with wussiness. I just know where babies, diseases, and legal problems come from and I want no part of that from substandard poon.
In a literary sense, it is one thing to get food poisoning from a dream meal of foie gras and hand massaged tender veal, it is quite another to succumb to junk food gluttony. I don’t about you but my well-being isn’t worth a supersized Happy Meal.
Just a WAG. 
I bet you are highly in demand.
Saying you wouldnt sleep with most women is not the same as saying your God’s gift to women.
And, for the record, in many ways I share Shagnasty’s theory of putang.
Also, knocking up a woman I couldnt at least imagine living with is my idea of a real nightmare.
For me, turning down sex has been situational. A long time ago I worked for a woman who told me straight out “I wanna fuck the shit outta you” when we were at a work related function. Others were coworkers or in the same military unit. For the past seven years I have been married. In different circumstances, I would have been happy to get naked with almost all of those women who have made sexual advances.