Realizing that I was almost always the one to initiate sex with my wife, I decided to run a little experiment - I stopped trying to actively seduce her (or ‘hassle her for sex’ as she puts it). Today it has been two weeks since I have had sex. I’m wondering how long it will be before she goes after me.
I started to see some changes in her behavior partway into the second week. She has been more affectionate than usual towards me in the last few days, and flirtatious in a teasing way a couple of times. Day before yesterday she had a dream that she caught me receiving a blowjob from one of her friends (and she was pissed at me because of it, which I find cute in a kooky way), so she may be wondering why I’m not initiating things lately.
Anyone want to guess how things are going to turn out? I was thinking we could guess when she was going to jump me, in the same way people guess when the first 100° day is going to be or when a baby will be born. I’m thinking it might be this weekend when we attend a Halloween party in costume, as she is planning on going as a sexy Little Red Riding Hood (basically a negligee with a red cloak she is making from crushed felt) and wants me to go as some kind of wolf/pimp creature.
Well if she ever reads this thread I’d say around six months before you end up cracking and going for it. If she doesn’t read this then Sat night. though after the party.
Well, since Venoma picked before the party and Ed picked after, I’ll say during [agast smilie here]. She’ll grab you by some appendage and walk you off to some secluded spot and say “do me.” I envy you.
I don’t know Badtz, women can hold out a lot longer than you think. (thank goodness I’m not one of them!) Your wife may not be comfortable initiating or she may be so used to you doing it she doesn’t think she should have to. Obviously you’ve got her thinking if she’s having dreams of you being with someone else. Give it another two weeks (if you can make it that long!) and if she hasn’t jumped you by then have a talk with her! She may start to think you’re fooling around on her if you hold out much longer.
Why don’t you try coming out of the shower with a towel wrapped around your waist, open the towel and flash her the goods and say, “Does this belong to you?” That’s worked for me before… maybe you have to be a woman for this to work though. Try it and let me know what happens.
Badtz, I agree with Rachelle about talking to her. Have you tried telling her that you want her to make the first move ?
If not you should, we women aren’t mind readers, you have to tell her what you want.
BTW, you should be glad she is being more affectionate lately, after two weeks without sex I would turn into a real witch. But that’s just me.
Badtz-
Gotta honestly say the first question that came to mind was
how long have you been married? how old are you two?
(Is that agism?)
But when I read about the sexy Little Red Hiding Hood negligee costume, I’m hoping y’all aren’t in your golden years!
(Insert Seinfeldian “Not that there’s anything wrong with
that!” HERE!)
Glad you aren’t too offended by her being pissed off because
of her dream-my boyfriend HATES when I get like that.
To stop babbling an answer your question, though, there’s
no way sex isnt happening in sexy, playful Halloween costumes! Consider yourself tco as of party night!
I guess that she will not jump you but that you will crack. If your wife is going to a party in a sexy red riding hood outfit then there will be plenty of other women scantily clad for the season.
This will start your brain boiling. The images of those women dressed as cheerleaders and nurses and vampires and french maids and biker chicks and police women and Supergirl and Wonder Woman and Wednesday Addamsand Sailor Mars and the little mermaid and cowgirls will dance around and around and around in your sex starved brain and till you get up yes get up and go to the window and yell 'I’m horney as hell I am not going to take it any more!'
TWO WEEKS??? Is that all? If I were to tell you how long my dry spell has been, you and the other Dopers would take up a collection and hire me a hooker. (Except I won’t have sex under those conditions.)
