Two Weeks Without Sex - How Much Longer?

I think a more interesting way of addressing this problem would be for you to say, “Hey, honey? I notice that I’m almost always the one to initiate sex, and I wonder if there’s a reason for that, because I’d really like it if you initiated sex some of the time.”

Without divulging too many of the details of my relationship, suffice it to say that something remarkably similar to the above was spoken once between the two of us, and it helped matters immensely. The “guilty” party just hadn’t realized the other person had a problem.

It sure was a lot more effective than the whole “don’t initiate sex for a long time and see how long it takes her to notice” technique, although granted, your method is a lot more fun to bet on. :slight_smile:

Pfft. Multiply that by 4:p

[sub]Err, I mean, and you’ll have mine.[/sub]

What if she starts thinking that you just don’t want it anymore? This could backfire bigtime, bucky.

Oh, I’m used to dry spells. I had one from November '95 until…memory’s fuzzy…'98 I think. And then I had another lasting about a year after that. And if you count my teenage years before I lost my virginity, you have about 9 years. I didn’t get sex very often before the last couple of years.

For whoever wanted chronological statistics, I’m 29, she’s 30, and we’ve been married 13 months and 9 days. During our short courtship we made the two-backed beast about six or seven times a week, after we got married this shifted to about once a week.

Anyway, the timeframe can probably be narrowed significantly. Tonight she looked at me strange and then told me ‘You’ll get some this weekend’ out of the blue.

[hi5]Awright, Badtz!!! She caves; you win!!![/hi5]

Well, I highly doubt if you’d be able to make to the party.

Caves? win? Ya know, there’s the possibility she’s NOT just doing it for his sake :wink:

The cloak looks beautiful…it’s from a pattern for a bard’s outfit. Can’t wait to see it in conjunction with the negligee. I went to Party Central and found an excellent mask for my costume - it’s a wolf with his tongue hanging out, wearing a beret. Cost a bit more than I wanted to spend, wife jokes I’m going to have to be a wolf every year now. I’m going to wear it with a white t-shirt with some Lucky Strikes rolled up in the sleeve, and maybe some baggy pants and suspenders.

Still not sure I’ll get it even though she said I could have it…she may still be expecting me to make the first move.

If she says “my what big teeth you have…” more than 3 times at the party will that count as initiating something, Badtz? You can also suggest a basket of goodies like the one I carried when I was Lil’ Red for Halloween…a basket with a whip, pair of handcuffs, some KY jelly, etc. Have fun with it, and possibly set her mind working :slight_smile:

Zilch to do with the OP… but can I come to this party please? Sounds like there’s gonna be some fun ladies there.

You will lose, trust me.

Women are sexual camels … they just store it up somehow and can go for years without any action whatsoever. :frowning:
DarkRabbit

I’m sure your wife doesn’t think the same way that I do, but I believe Czarcasm could be on the right track. I know for sure that if my boyfriend tried the same thing on me (while it probably wouldn’t last as long), I’d be sure he didn’t want me because he wasn’t initiating.

Good luck. :eek:

Yes, but one of the requirements for two people to have any kind of physical sex (with each other) is that they both be in the same geographical region of the country. Silly, I know, but it just seems to work better that way. :wink:

Well…How was the party?

Did you and your wife enjoy each other last night? Wow, I feel nosey! ;j (ok, pretend you don’t know that that is an orthadox jewish man…doesn’t it look kinda like a spider? I mean…Since we were talking Halloween Party and such… ok…ok…I just think it’s cute!)

Polly
Who could never go two weeks without making love to her man, unless he had a really, really, really GOOD reason.

The phrase “hassle me for sex” is what catches my eye. Before your experiment, how often were you hassling her into sex?

Are you sure that she is enjoying it when you’ve “hassled” her into it? Or is she just going along with you?

It is quite likely that you just have different sex drives, but if she’s been putting out more than she would like, then I wouldn’t be surprised if she can go for quite a while without jumping you, just living on the relief that you aren’t bringing it up everytime you’re within two feet of her.

My wife and I are reasonably divergent in how often we’d like to have sex, and it has caused some big fights in the past. Over time, though, we’ve learned to live with each other without feeling pressured or neglectful.

It’ll take work, though, for you and your wife to come to terms. If you go and say “I want you to initiate,” she will likely do so very soon. But then you are stuck knowing that she initiating not because she wanted to, but because you wanted her to. You have to be careful not to turn sex into a job or an obligation.

I hope it worked out for you Badtz because that did have the huge potential to backfire.
Man, I’m sure glad my husband is always up for a round because the only thing that keeps me sane is sex. I don’t smoke, drink, have friends, or have a social life. If I didn’t have sex on a very regular basis, (Like, at least once a day) I may lose it.

I am a mentalist the exact day will be november 15 2015 I am not sure if in that day you’ll have sex or die… anyway the result is pretty much the same

Friday morning after I got off work, between 7:45 and 8:30 AM. I’d gone to bed, and she came in to snuggle. A few minutes into the snuggling she started kissing on my neck and that’s all she wrote - since she knows the usual effects of kissing my neck I’d say she initiated it.

Party was kinda dull, at least for the first 5 or 6 Newcastle Browns I drank. The combination of ale, mead, and antihistamines (allergic to the host’s many big dogs) had me passed out inside on the couch around 1 AM. I didn’t get to wear my mask much because it made it difficult to drink and impossible to eat.

Oh, bullshit.

Fairy Chatmom, your situation is not “the opposite,” it’s the same thing. Women face this “wondering if they’re gonna score” dilemma with their husbands, too. I, for one, get tired of the stereotypical gender jokes.

JillGat mentions, “Women face this “wondering if they’re gonna score” dilemma with their husbands, too.”

So…how in the world do people figure out how often their partner wants sex, if they don’t ask? Doesn’t anybody else just ask ahead of time? (“Hey, can I pounce you tonight, or do you need the sleep?”) No rejection problem, scheduling issues, or just plain “Woman, you already boinked me silly five times this week, I’m dehydrated and shaking.”

Most guys I’ve dated have been pretty relieved to be asked instead of having me assume that they’re up and ready to go anytime. The body doesn’t always cooperate, after all.

Corr