I think I’ve had mild-depression for about a week now, ever since I found out that my mom and dad were getting a divorce, and that my neighbor was to blame… my father and the neighbor’s wife that that my mother and him are having an affair, and so my mom is getting a divorce. We have to sell the house, the van, and my dad’s truck, split the money, and go our seperate ways. I’ve been so pissed off at the world lately, that I’ve taken to beating this one tree with a baseball bat. solid steel… I’ve put two solid dents in the baseball bat, and taken out CHUNKS of tree.
My mother and father have been making the other seem like a worse person, and tearing me apart. As if theya re immaturely vying for my love. I know my father loves me, but is never home. (shift work) and I know my mother loves me, but she won’t be able to support both me and her (she’s a teacher) in the summer. I am so depressed, it is unreal. I have the weight of my future resting on my shoulder.
Even the smallest thing is irritating me, and I don’t know how much longer I can take it. I know I hav already posted this before, but I just wanted to give an update… Thanks guys.
Oh sweetie!
Tell them right now to knock off the competition. (You ahve to recount the votes by hand anyway…) Its not fair to you. I’m serious. Go tell them to behave, at least around you. They can bicker anywhere else, over whatever they want but make it clear that you are a person, not a rug or even a pet and are not to be drawn into taking sides.
You’re a good strong person, yes its a big choice. However, it is a survivable choice either way. You could choose some way to split up time (?)
And I’m here for you, as always. Though I may be really snippy over Thanksgiving as I have to go home and face the delight myself.
Hugs and Love!
Ad,
Man, I’m sorry. Actually, when my wife and I split up, the fact that we didn’t have kids was a prime consideration. If we had stayed together, we would have(had kids)and the problems still probobly would have led to the same place in a few years. Have you considered talking to a counselor? Maybe he/she can recommend someone if they are not qualified. You are a human bean, my young friend, and the gauntlet of emotions you are now running is completely natural. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. IMHO, talking to your parents is a good idea too. See if you can get them together, and say something like " Mom, Dad, I understand that you are doing what you feel you have to do. Please try to remember that I love you BOTH, and am not on either of yours side. And please think about the way your words and actions affect me." Just my $.02. You can IM me if you need to talk. I’m sorry I wasn’t home earlier when you pinged me.
I know you are a teenage boy, and this will probobly make you uncomfortable, it would have me at that age, but WTF.
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I ment to say a SCHOOL counselor in the above post. DOH!
I’m really sorry to hear about your parents. It’s gotta suck.
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I REALLY wish you could come to the Dope Fest. But I am sending long distance hugs and thoughts your way, and we will all think about you on Saturday.
((((((((Adam)))))))
Hey, sweetheart, I’m sorry things have been rough lately. I second weirddave’s suggestion about talking to a school counselor. You need someone impartial and rational to talk to, it seems like. I’m glad to hear you’re taking your frustrations out on the tree, instead of on yourself. Is there something along the lines of a punching bag you could use? You know, so you can keep that bat in good condition.
I’m sorry I didn’t get a chance to answer when you IMed earlier. I was sleeping off a NyQuil induced daze. E-mail me later, OK? We can chat and vent and practice our German skills. 
You hang in there, Ad Noctum. Things will get better–it just may take a little while.
Aw, Ad. (((((hugz)))) I remember when my parents were fighting all the time (they’re still together now, but at the time…) I third the motion towards finding someone to talk to. And what I can do is there to be done.
I’m so sorry, Ad Noctum.
Please remember that just because your parents are getting a divorce, they both still love you. Your family will not remain intact, but you will still have them both. Just differently.
And I endorse the suggestions made earlier that you should talk to a counselor. It can’t hurt, can it?
((((((Ad Noctum))))))
Scotti