Shamelessly Looking for some condolensces here...

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I found out that my mom almost left the house to go live with someone else last night, my female neighbor accused my mother of having an affair w/ my male neighbor, and my mom will be filing for divorce from my father sometime soon…
anyhow, just needed to get it off my chest…
but I feel really torn because my male neighbor is like my father. he brings me fishing, hunting, and sometimes I feel he cares for me more than my father- yet my father is… well, my father!!
so, instead of being torn between a mother and a father, I’m torn between a mother, father, and neighbor…

exasperated sigh Oh well… that’s life…

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My advice, not that it means much. Make it clear to all involved that you will not be put in the middle, then try to maintain the special relationships you have with each of the persons involved. You did not cause this crisis, and hopefully you won’t be expected to become involved.

Take Care.,

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Oh no!! :eek:

Ad Noctum, hon, I’m sorry :frowning: You’re going to have a rough time ahead of you…feel free to email me if you need it, ok?

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((((((((((Ad Noctum)))))))))))

I’m sorry to hear about your parents, Ad Noctum. I’ve never had to deal with an impending divorce, I’m not really sure what to say or if there’s anything I say that would help. Just know that we’re here for you.

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Boy, that sucks. I wish I had some advice but my specialty is suicidal depression. Can you call me back when you get to that point?

Okay, one bit. Listen to Sue. Her advice is sound. And ignore these people as much as you can. Let them work out their own problems without you getting involved. (Heh-heh. ME! Suggesting somebody not get involved! Don’t do as I do, kid, do as I say.)

And you know where to find us.

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I’m so sorry, Ad Noctum-

Listen to CanadianSue. She is a wise woman, and knows whereof she speaks!

And if anyone SHOULD expect you to get in the middle of this mess, respectfully decline. Someone has to be an adult here!

((((((Ad Noctum)))))

Scotti

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Ad, pal, sounds like some rough going ahead.

Listen to your fellow posters. Canadian Sue is a head-level person who can advise you well as you deal with what might come to pass. I don’t keep my email available in my profile, but I’ll list it here, it’s mafladata@aol.com. I’ll be more than happy to offer to you what my life experiences might contribute to your dealing with your situation. Good luck, pal!

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{Ad Noctem}

I’m often on AIM if you want to talk . . . or whatever.

Don’t try to bury your feelings. If you need to cry, do it. Screw whatever people say about guys not crying. Spend time doing things you like.

Wear sunscreen, even;)

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:frowning: That’s really rough, Ad. Good advice has already been offered, but I’m here for you, if you need a shoulder to cry on, or yell at or whatever. My email’s in my profile.

{{{{{{{Ad Noctum}}}}}}}

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Ugh. I’m sorry. My parents split when I was 19. For some reason, they seemed to think that since I was an adult, it was okay to talk with me about the details. It wasn’t.
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Hehe, well I just deleted a page of venting. Isn’t it funny how things you think you have dealt with can still get you so riled up? Anyway, yeah… don’t let them drag you into things. And if you need someone to vent to or exchange horror stories with feel free to email me.

Also, try not to stress too much over who you’ll spend the holidays with. You can only be in one place at one time. Figure out what you’re going to do (T’day with Mom, X-mas with Dad or whatever) and let them know ahead of time.

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My condolences.

Sounds rough—all you can do is to be kind and understanding of both of your parents, and a good friend to your neighbor as well.

Best of luck.

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Wow… you Guys, really, Wow… Thank you everyone, every last one of you that gave me words of wisdom and thought on this thread. You guys have just made a lasting impression on me, and how I will handle this.
During times of turmoil and corruption like so, it is nice to have a crying shoulder. Thanks again to everyone who would give up their valuable time, to hear me bitch about my life.
Thanks again, I will keep everyone updated on the situation–

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ALSO— Update
last night my mother and father started arguing about something very petty, and it got me SOOOO enraged, I picked up an old baseball bat (solid steel) and started hitting a Tree as hard as humanly possible… I bent the bat…
I came back in the house, and my father asked me what the Hell I was doing out there. I told him that I was taking out my pent up anger and agression on a tree. He asked what the point of that was, and I told him “it was better than than kicking the shit outta you, now wasn’t it”
That is the first time I have ever sworn at, or threatened my father… (he is 6’2" and was in the Air Force taking anti-terrorist courses… and I’m 5’7")

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Sweetie dear!

I’m with you. My family’s up to similar tricks. I have the luck of being miles away. (But I do get the “she’s all grown up and thus can be the therapist” role.)

Hugs and deep rumbling comfort purrs.

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Yes, but you were armed with a bat and righteous indignation–a deadly combination. He doesn’t sound STUPID–may I assume he got your point?

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You hang in there, Ad Noctum, and as has already been said don’t let anybody drag you into the middle of this.

My best wishes on getting through it.

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I know this post is getting old, but my parents are going to be getting a lawyer sometime soon, and selling the house and splitting all the money and everything. My father wants joint custody, but I will try to tell my parents that I qualify for independent custody so I can pick who I want to stay with. Anyhow. Thanks for the caring

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Of course we care.

Hugs and love, bright one.

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It’s not getting old… let us know if you need anything, although it’s sounding like you have a really good handle on things now.

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As I told you on AIM, I’m here for you, anytime. And, so are many others here. Love to you.

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