sexual abuse charges? I guess it depends on which surfaces he painted. I you by any chance thinking of Goldfinger?
Shayna, I guess this issue hits a little too close to home for you to be rational about it.
please tell me what other actions of his would warrant this behavior (also read my above posts for exceptions). What if he just did it once and apologized–Then she can just sledgehammer his stereo? What if he just kissed her–She can break 10 of his CDs?
To feel that she is justified is absurd.
and when you say “dockers”, you mean “every worldly possession”, right? And when you say “paint”, you mean “destroy beyond repair”, right? Just making sure you looked at the same thing I did.
Peyote,
I realize what you and others are saying…but I still think that there is no room to allow this behavior as being appropriate.
I agree, what he did was wrong, but I also believe that there is never a time where this behavior should be considered “okay”.
And as, Billdo stated, if the tables were turned and a man did this, he would be thrown in jail so quickly his head would spin right off his neck.
The guy has a restraining order against her, from what I remember from the program, but again, if a man had done this…
To me, it doesn’t matter, this is insane behavior and I would never consider it a course of action against a broken heart or even more complicated issues. She should pay, and pay for all of the things she destroyed. She entered and destroyed property, how is this any different than anyone else doing this to him, regardless of the circumstances.
You play, yes, you pay, but her actions are WAY out there my friends, I don’t care how terrible he treated her.
BTW, posting up a web site about her actions is not a big deal to me, hopefully with his media appearances and such he can gain enough cash to rebuild his apartment and buy clothes. Who knows, she may have done him a favor?
Well, he could be lying, but from the evidence at hand: Breaking a heart may make you a jerk, but willful destruction of property (and at such a scale!) makes you a criminal.
Assuming he’s telling the truth, there’s no justification for her reaction.
I agree that they’re both a couple of losers. However, the woman went just a bit too far. Hell, I’d have her arrested and charged with whatever I could get the DA to go for. Cheating is one thing, but destroying personal property, some of it possibly un-replaceable (family photos, heirlooms, etc) is a whole 'nuther ballgame. He may have deserved something for what he did, but this was NOT it.
Interestingly, this sounds like a great big scam if you ask me. Does anyone know for a fact if it’s true? It sounds like some guy is trying to sell his stupid little t-shirts and needs some kind of advertisment to get the word out. What better way than to sell a sordid story like this to the Howard Stern show. Probably just my wishful thinking that people don’t really act like this in real life.
For those inquiring minds, I asked Euty to move this from MPSIMS to here because it was no longer a fun topic and seemed to become more of a debate.
So, NOW, people can go for it and debate this issue at hand.
Thanks Euty 
Actually, Dirty Devil, that was my first thought also. When I read something like this on the internet, my immediate reaction is “this story is bogus.”
Dirty Devil,
Now I am not saying that a show is hard-core proof, but he was on The View, with the respected journalist, Barbara Walters.
I assume that if a show with such a respected journalist has this guy on, they have dome sufficient background research to verify his story.
tech, you know I love ya, but Barbara Walters? A respected journalist?
Dubbed The Skunk of Holes by some putz who’s name I have fortunately forgotten.
Ok, I did hear both sides when he was on Howard Stern. They called her at work and asked her about it.
She was pissed because he’d been cheating on her for a long time, and had no remorse. His reaction to questions about why he cheated on her was something to the effect of “well, so what?” Additionally, IIRC, she’s imported from some latin-american country where it’s commonplace and accepted for women to have significantly “peppier” tempers.
She went way overboard, but I have trouble feeling sorry for the guy. Even though she’s wrong, I have to snicker and try to hide my appreciation for her revenge.
If you say it, mean it. If you mean it, do it.
If you do it, live it. If you live it, say it.
Joe Cool
As to how people act in real life, I work in a computer repair shop. We had a customer come in with a computer that was bashed to hell (we assumed it was some weird windows error).
so as it turns out, his girlfriend had taken a hammer to it because she was jealous that he didn’t spend enough time with her.
So this kind of thing really happens.
If you say it, mean it. If you mean it, do it.
If you do it, live it. If you live it, say it.
Joe Cool
Well, at least she won’t be asking for half his stuff.
She’s thorough, you’ve got to give her that. From the little “trick” he pulled, taking the sec’y’s car to strand his girlfriend and his mistress together, it sounds like he was into irrational acts, too.
YOU GO GIRL!!!
My bestfriend’s ex-boyfriend pulled one too many shitties on her. MAJOR shitties that I won’t go into here. When she finally had enough of his B.S., she gathered all of his belongings, put them into big black garbage bags (he didn’t have a lot, but enough to fill 6 bags), dumped them in the middle of the road, got into her full size Blazer and proceeded to burn rubber up and down the street 20 or so times, right over the bags.
The bastard deserved it and is damn lucky HE didn’t wind up with tread marks on his ass.
Pardon me while I burst into flames.
I had a psycho girlfriend sit out on the road WITH her unsuspecting boyfriend and heave grapefruit at my car because I demanded she drop the guy. When she wouldn’t, I gave her a nicely wrapped gift in front of her friends – it was a babies pacifier on a ribbon. She managed to whack my car 4 or 5 times and gave up when she missed and hit a neighbors window. Well, she couldn’t have her cake and eat it also.
I think in the situation of the guy in the web site, I’d either press charges or take her to civil court. I’d want to be reimbursed. I mean, I’ve gone wild when catching a lover cheating on me, but never wrecked their homes – just tried to wreck their boyfriends. The only problem with taking her to civil court is that many states do not garnish wages, which means she can thumb her nose at the judgment and he’ll have to take her to court again and then get lawyers to force her to pay.
What? Me worry?’
Which pain is worse? Having all your stuff destroyed or having your heart broken in such a way. As someone who has survived both, I can say that she got the worst of the pain (even without the legal repercussions(sp)). And to add insult to injury, he manages to get his 15 minutes of minor celebrity out of it.
I don’t condone her actions, but they were better than his actions.
anyway, thats my opinion.
After reading this & hearing the new dixie chicks/“earl” song, I would like to post this guide;
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Husband divorces you for trophy wife;
appropriate response: Hire a good attorney, get every penny you’re entitled to.
INappropriate response: get revenge, ruin his life his business, his relationship. -
He (repeatedly) cheats on you;
A/R: Dump the loser, let your freinds know also so they don’t find out the hard way. If married, proceed to 1.
I/R: Destroy his property, shoot him, castrate him. -
He beats you;
A/R: press charges, get him in a jail cell w/ “Bubba” so HE can know the joys of being abused by HIS sexual partner, if married, proceed to 1.
I/R: set his bed on fire, kill him, etc.
I can’t believe anyone would defend, let alone applaud this lunatic! The guy was an asshole, pretty clearly, but condemning criminal vandalism DOES NOT require that we somehow applaud the victim, does it?
If your S.O. cheats on you, what you do is…DUMP THE GUY (or girl). You don’t attack them! You don’t burn their house down. You don’t smash all their posessions with a hammer. You don’t pour chemicals all over their appliances.
This woman is a fruitcake, and if she’ll go this far because a relationship ended badly, she may well be a threat to herself or others. Going through his bureau and cutting up all his clothes, then refolding them and putting them back? What would a psychiatrist make of that? Well, Hannibal Lechter might think it was an appropriate “getting in touch with your anger”, but anyone else might have doubts! Does this sound like someone you’re confident will NOT turn violent?
Anyone who sees this as some kind of blow for sisterhood, or a “lesson for the next guy” is a couple of wheels short of a bicycle themself.
No, wait! I take that back. If you think this “lady” was right on the money, then by all means you should definitely discuss it with your husband/boyfriends. Yes. You definitely shouldn’t hide views like that. Let them know that you consider this a fair, just, and equitable response on her part. Show them the inner you, here. The only result can be to tie them more tightly to you with hoops of loving affection and deeper understanding. That’ll work just swell.
And such honest and open sharing of feelings, like Sybil with her paint cans, can only be to the good. It’ll prevent surprises later.
Damn right.
Now I personally would not do something like this woman, although I might consider it had I been in my girlfriend’s situation. As I said, her ex pulled some major B.S., far above cheating.
However, I believe women who are capable of these types of actions should be upfront and honest with their husbands/lovers. Let them know that “if you cheat on me, know that there is a possibility I may paint everything you own.” “If you molest my children, know that you may lose your pee pee.” “If you beat me, know that you may wake up covered in gasoline.”
You betcha, I believe in fair warnings.
Pardon me while I burst into flames.
What if, instead of ruining his stuff, the jilted girlfriend had taken her vengeance out on the secretary whom her boyfriend had cheated with?
A less severe version of that may have in fact been done by an ex-girlfriend of mine, although I can’t actually prove anything.
Tracer - Because it was the boyfriend who cheated, not the secretary.
Pardon me while I burst into flames.