Welcome to Twenty-Twenty-Sucks (January Mini-Rants)

It’s been below zero or single digit temperatures the last few days. So why the hell am I chasing a stink bug around the house with a flyswatter? Where did it come from? Bugs should be dead this time of year!

(The last few years it was boxelder beetles that we could never seem to get rid of. This year all of a sudden it’s stink bugs that are everywhere.)

nope, never…unless I screwed up

I have this good habit of doing shift+delete; if I want to get rid of something I want to get rid of it, not move it somewhere else, only to have to delete it from there.

@wolfpup If you haven’t altered the drive much there are recovery programs out there, I use Recuva & have got stuff back that was deleted.

Thanks, but this particular problem is now resolved via the different backups that I had, though a few files may have been lost.

ETA: I just checked the status of the old HDD in question. Currently has 49,989 hours. I now have an updated backup on a 2 TB SSD which may eventually replace it in case it finally gives up the ghost.

But I have a different problem that I mentioned much earlier on an external drive where a really large folder got deleted. I’m gonna try the Microsoft recovery which comes with Windows 11 but if that doesn’t produce results I’ll try third-party systems. Was this a paid version of Recuva? I had an old version lying around – not even sure where it came from – and it appeared to be recovering lots of files but in the end didn’t recover anything. Maybe it was just a demo version to show what it could do. I haven’t seriously put any effort into using the Microsoft recovery tool yet. The good news is that the drive with the deleted folder has been completely untouched since the disaster, so nothing would have been overwritten.

It was the free version, but it was quite some time (years) ago; probably not all all like the current version. There are other recovery programs out there, too.

This morning there was only 1 new inch of snow covering icy spots. I wanted dunkin.
But it was 12 degrees.
So I thought, let me try delivery. I am poor and have zero income, only living off others generosity.
But I tried grubhub.
Ordered. 16 dollars. It said delivered and was not.
They refuse to refund.

My son’s school is closed again tomorrow. We were going to go out and tour a school and had a meeting with an attorney regarding the trust we’re setting up.

When I heard the news, I just started crying. I can’t take any more. Everything keeps getting pushed out further and further and nothing ever gets done. And just really need to get through this shit because it is so fucking stressful.

The NYT crossword puzzle app suddenly stopped remembering my place in the puzzle archive, requiring me to remember the year/month of the puzzle I was working on.

Call your local Area Agency On Aging and ask them about how to file a customer complaint. They also have a lot of other services and programs, including transportation that might be helpful for you, including a monthly shelf stable food pantry bag.

Who refused, grubhub or the donut shop?

Grub. I complained online and it said no refund. Should I contact my bank? Dunkin did nothing wrong. The photo of delivery showed a car windshield with snow on it!

See above re: your AA on Aging, they will know.

If you charged it with Visa or Mastercard you might be able to ask for a charge back. If you used a debit card you are probably out of luck as far as getting it back through your bank.

I checked, neither Dunkin’ or Grubhub is a member of the Better Business Bureau in Mentor.

Yes, debit card. Never again.

And yet you spent $16 for delivery from Dunkin?

The drinks were 8.

Don’t do this. Don’t judge people for sixteen dollars worth of pleasure, especially not when it was literally robbed from them.

You don’t know her circumstances. Don’t shit on people for struggling financially. Shit on a system that would cause sixteen dollars to be a notable expense, especially when it doesn’t even deliver.

Well said. Thank you.

And another thank you, @mnemosyne.

I’m more sane today. Finally just accepting this is where we are now and trying to take it one day at a time.

School was cancelled, school tour was cancelled, left the boy with some relatives for the first time, with middling success up until the meltdown. Met with our attorney and boy do we have a lot to do to get this trust in order.

With work, I can only do what I can do, and no more.

Sometimes you just have to accept reality even if you would prefer things to be another way, and I am giving all I can as much as I can and hopefully it’s enough. But I have to stop catastrophizing that it won’t be enough because that way lies madness.

My snowblower which I had serviced last year ( 2 years ago?) would not start. I found a person who would come to my house to repair it last week. He got it to start… and I paid him cash… and off he went.

On the day the snow came, it would not start. I pulled the starter cord for a half our in freezing weather. Plenty of fresh gas. All the settings were right. Nothing.

And then the pull cord came off the pulley.

I’m not in the best health ( nobody’s business but my own ) and I shovelled what I could which wasn’t much. One neighbor helped out while the others just stood there and grinned. ( A lot of old-time families haved moved out; a lot of the new ones are nothing but Assholes. NYers are like that. )

I called the repair person. Wednesday is the soonest he can come back. I’m not sure if he’ll credit me for the cash I paid. I’m not sure if he’ll give me a receipt with a 30-day mechanic’s guarantee.

But he better give me credit… and this time I’m paying by check. And if he tries to fuck me over twice, I’ll stop payment.

PS- This weekend? More snow.

Hang on to that thought/attitude - it will help immensely.