I’d have to disagree on this question. “What’s your favorite…” questions are terrible. You’ll probably get a dead-end “oh I dunno…” type answer. Like when you ask someone “What’s your favorite kind of music.” Then they say “I like to listen to everything.”
If you’re a reader, and you want to find a similar quality in your match, and you want to see what kind of tastes in novels they have, then rephrase your question to:
“Have you read any good books lately?” or
“I just finished reading Such n Such, and I loved it. Have you enjoyed any good stroy lately.”
Or something like that. Then, you can progress into the “Do you have a favorite author” question. Notice it’s not “Who is your favorite…”
I just think wording it like that makes the conversation more comfortable for the person. You dont want to ask a question that he/she doesn’t know the answer to. And a lot of people don’t know what their favorite is. They’ll say “ohh… I like all kinds”. Grrr I hate that response.
Just say “Do you have.” If they feel pationately about certain authors, then they’ll answer “Yes, I love yada yada yada.”
But if they dont have one, then they can just say “No, not really.” And they’ll still feel like they answered your question. Which they did. And you can ask another one. And keep it going.
This is the same with movies. Don’t ask someone what his or her favorite movie is. Ask them if they saw something they liked recently. That will keep the conversation moving. You can progress from there if you want to find out about their taste in moves. Like, if they say they saw X-Men yesterday and loved it, then you can say: “So you like action movies like that?” “Do you normally go for action movies?” Yea? Have you seen any comedies lately? I saw Whatever, and didn’t think it was funny…" Progress like that. Dont just dive right in.
The idea of date conversation isn’t just about finding out the person’s interests and life history. It’s about sharing a conversation. Dont try to learn EVERYTHING at one sitting. Have a comfortable pleasant conversation, and you’ll have more 2nd and 3rd, etc dates. And you can learn a little bit more each time.
Dont pass out a freakin survey over lunch. It’s lame. And a lot of people hate answering those types of questions – they find it difficult to think of their “FAVORITE”, if they like a whole lot.
Your train of thought might be “Oh, if she has many favorites, then I will get her talking all night with that ONE question!!” But that’s almost never the case. You ask someone “What’s your favorite” and they think “ughhhh. ummmmm. Oh, I dunno.”
Anyway, it’s just all IMO, of course.