Gee, thank you for speaking for all males Stoidela. I guess I don’t have to speak for myself now. :rolleyes:
You know what I really like to see in a girl?
Me.
Yer pal,
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Black Knight, you are but one man. You are either among the 9 or the tenth. Why do you seem so offended?
Men are pretty predictable as a group. You may not be. You aren’t all men, not even close.
And Satan…something about that simple, amusing statement struck me as deeply erotic. Hmmm.
Texas!
Because I hate it when people say “98.99% of men think such-and-such” or “9 out of 10 men do something”. After all, I really doubt anyone asked all men what they thought, and then drew an informed conclusion from that data. Instead, it seems like an unwarranted sweeping generalization.
I’m sorry if I took this a little too personally, but I think it perpetuates a stereotype that is unsupported by anything more than anecdotal evidence. I mean, it may very well be the case that 9 out of 10 men do/think whatever, but I honestly don’t think you’re a better judge of that than anyone else, including me. I don’t know all men (or even a large enough sample to be representative) and I doubt that you do either.
That being said, I admit my earlier post was more sarcastic than it needed to be. I appologize.
Glasses. I don’t know why, but glasses are a big turn-on for me. A pretty girl without glasses is pretty, sure; but a pretty girl with glasses (I’m assuming nice, somewhat stylish frames, not tea-cup sized lenses with pointy rims) is something else altogether. Guess I just like that image of intelligence it exudes.
Amberskye, why do you care what “guys” look for in a girl? There isn’t really an answer, of course, because gender dosen’t really define a person. Different people like different things, and if you start making assumptions about what a given individual will like because of his gender you are going to walk around with a lot of false impressions. The fact is, guys vary enourmously,just like girls do. If you are interested in attracting a particular guy and are wondering what traits might attract him, you are wasting your time–look at him as a person, not “a guy”. Pay attention to each given individual, don’t spend your time wondering about broad general principles. If you just want to attract more guys over all, well, it’s your life but it seems like an awful waste of energy. Just be the individual (not the girl) you are, and the individual that is attracted to that set of charecteristics will be right for you.
Also, remember that any attraction to the sort of generic traits listed here–sense of humor, nice ass, whatever–is based on something easily replicated. You meet hundreds of funny girls in a life time, and hundreds of pretty ones. Any relationship based on such generic traits is going to collapse in times of stress because why fight to be with someone that dosen’t have anything lots of other people have to offer? For a realtionship to work there has to be an element of uniqueness, or near-uniqueness to the attraction between the two people. It has to be based on a complex relationship between hundreds of charecteristics.
I don’t mean to rant, but I hate it when people talk about the oppisite gender like it is this monolithic, mysterious entitiy. You will get a lot further if you worry about what Johnny is like, or what Suzie is like than worring about what “guys” or “girls” are like.
Not to mention it’s one more item that is taken off when it comes time to getting down to bizness.
I find a woman slowly removing her glasses–at least in that context–incredibly sexy.
Manda JO, I see your point, but I think you are misunderstanding the nature of the OP. I think it is more along the lines of a poll - Amber is asking each individual to discuss what he personally looks for, not so much to speculate on what males in general look for.
I’m really just looking for someone who isn’t afraid of liberal use of punctuation.
Hamadryad knows what it’s all about.
Oooh yeah, baby. Gimme some of those exclamation points.
Oh yeah. That’s what I like.
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- And always remember to accessorize properly, ladies: any girl driving a convertible Ferrari automatcally rates 2 points better. - MC
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Well, as long as it doesn’t clash with her shoes.
Well, after reading most of the responses in the thread so far, I think that there’s one point which might need a little clarification.
There’s different types of “looking for a girl”. There’s looking for a girl to be in a serious relationship with, there’s looking for a girl to hit on in a bar, there’s looking for a girl for sex, there’s looking for a girl for sex that you won’t tell your friends about, there’s looking for a girl to be in a non-serious relationship with, etc… you get the idea.
The criteria applied in each situation can be drastically different, depending on which one you’re in. For example, if I’m going to go hit on a girl in a bar, or am otherwise trying to impress my friends, I’m likely to pick the most physically attractive one in the group. For me, that’d be red hair, big boobs, blue eyes, & pale skin. No real consideration of personality there. Then again, I’m not aiming for that in those situations. It’s strictly about how she looks. I tend to think people who go into bars/clubs etc… looking to meet serious relationship partners there are setting themselves up for failure. I’m not saying you can’t meet them there, but instead that the level of deception & game playing doesn’t lend itself to finding the real gems who are out there.
If I’m looking for a real relationship- then I’m a REAL stickler about personality. Looks don’t count for much. I’m more interested in intelligence,humor, confidence, fun, and a mischievous streak. Somebody who’ll take a chance & do something wild to have fun. That’s a big one. Un-confident, buttoned-down, dull people aren’t people I want to spend time around. They’re no fun at all!
What I look for:
-Blonde (never really figured out why)
-Intelligent
-funny
-expressive
-mentally tough
-adaptive
-Good looks
-not hung up on an “ex”
What I usually get
-Blonde
-lots of “baggage”
-introverted
-mentally fragile
-set in their ways.
-Good looking
-hung up on an “ex”
::sigh::
mk9kahr,
Maybe you need to start dating brunettes or redheads.
on a girl…
Jodhpurs… :eek:… 
and riding boots.
What can I tell ya
Oh please… what most men go for if they admit it or not is:
Someone they think is super beautiful.
Someone they can show off in front of their friends.
Someone not as smart as they THINK they themselves are.
Someone who will not question them.
Someone who will not argue with them.
Someone not after their money.<or money they THINK they have>
Someone who will put out on the first or second date.
They want skin to be bare where it usually isn’t.
In winter you can get them hot removing a glove.
And stereotype men, apparantly.
Try to avoid the phrase, “…in a disco…”, because it instantly disqualifies you from determining such things as what men desire in women. In a disco? I don’t even want to hear the excuse that it is still appropriate to use such a term in your homeland.
Leave the discussions about beauty to the folks from the States. Skeevey Benny Hill Broads ain’t gonna cut it.