So Supergirlfriend asks me a strange question last night when I’m at her house. We’re watching the Cubs sweep the Twins, and she turns to me and asks the following:
“Hey, Kev, you’re straight. Would you ever let a gay man suck your dick? I mean, if he promised to swallow and everything? Just close your eyes, and you’d never know the difference.”
This struck me as a little odd. She has several gay friends, and I do, too. One of her friends has said that he’d like to ask me out if I ever chose to explore that lifestyle. My question to you is, what do you think of her question? Would you do it?
If you were blindfolded and then the guy entered the room (let’s pretend that the pretense is that Supergf is gonna “service” you and then blindfolds you. While you can’t see, she calls in the guy.) you would be none the wiser, provided there were no grunts or groans on his part. Of course, if you reached down… or felt his mustache …
However, if you saw him first, knew what he was gonna do, etc. your brain would take over. At that point, who knows? (you can imagine, though)
Maybe the next question is “What’s the purpose?” If simply getting off is your aim, then it doesn’t matter who or what services you. If this is really a shared experience, then I think you consider what the other person thinks or feels about the act. If I were a guy (straight), and a gay friend really liked me and wanted to get me off, I wouldn’t do it. His feelings would be on a different level from mine, and I just wouldn’t feel comfortable about it.
First of all, you’re right to wonder if Supergirlfriend has an ulterior motive. But you’re wrong in not pursuing that line of inquiry with her immediately.
I don’t know the woman; she could be seriously entertaining letting her gay freind get his jollies with you. Or she could just be teasing you. I think it’s probably the latter, and she’s got you right where she wants you.
I suggest that if she is just messing with your head, you make it clear to her that if you are going to perform sexual favors for her freinds, then she should perform sexual favors for yours. That should even the score.
Now, that said and done, I imagine that her gay friend is much more skilled at fellatio and you would indeed be able to tell the difference. You may enjoy it more than you find comfortable.
Also, there is a third possibility: At least one of her freinds is bisexual, and she is exploring your openness to the idea of a boy-girl-boy threeway… (and before you say no, think about what your bargaing position might be if you say yes).
Or, it merely could be that she had just read last week’s Don Savage column.
What do you do? You answer her question as asked, giving detail about why you answered as you did–“I don’t really know” is perfectly acceptable as an initial answer, as is “Hell no!” or “I’d…consider it maybe” or “Sure!”, depending on orientation, openness, etc. Be honest about it. After you’ve done that, you talk about why she asked it. She might be teasing, she might be clumsily feeling you out for how you feel about a possible three-way, or if you’d be okay with her fantasizing about it, or even just curiousity. Never know till you ask.
What do I think of her question? That it looks a lot like a cautious test balloon, when reduced to pure text. Body language, inflection, etc., could alter that considerably.
Would I do it? If she was really very into the idea, and we’d had full discussions on it and so forth, I’d consider it. The idea on its own doesn’t do much for me, but on the other hand it doesn’t repulse me either.
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