“I don’t want to, but I’m afraid that if I say no to your face, you’ll look all sad or cry or something, and that’ll make me feel bad. Maybe if I avoid it, you won’t ask me again, and we can both pretend this never happened. 'Kay?”
It tells me that it never means:
c) wow, I’m really flattered by your attentions, and can’t wait to get into a socially acceptable situation that will lead to kinky sex!
Seriously, as a guy, I’d have to choke back my automatic reply of, “later, bitch!” If I’d worked up the nerve to ask her out and got that as a reply. Lukewarmness of any sort is really irritating to me, though, so I don’t advocate that response as good behavior.
“It seems to me that maybe, pretty much always mean no…”
- Jack Johnson.In my experience, when a woman says “I’ll think about it” to a man who has asked her out, it’s very much like a guy saying “I’ll call you sometime” to a woman. It usually means “I want to let you down without hurting your feelings.”
I don’t want my women thinking that much.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying “I want to think about it.” Perhaps she’s had two dates with someone else and is wondering if it’s appropriate? Perhaps she’s about to break up with someone? Perhaps her friend is interested in you and she wants to make sure it’s okay? Perhaps she’s worried about the effect this may have on your friendship?
There are a multitude of reasons why someone may think it’s inappropriate to give you an answer that very minute and she certainly shouldn’t answer immediately just to make you more comfortable. If that makes you think poorly of her, I guess you’re not that interested.
/Ms Cyros
Did she really say “please”? If yes, then maybe it’s not a NO. Why conjecture? Just call her again in a few days. Now if she doesn’t say yes, give it up.
I mean no, but keep asking because it does my ego good.
Actually, I did ask her “Is that a no?” She hemmed and hawed, then said that she doesn’t want to date anyone right now. (Which is usually code for “No, I don’t want to date you.”)
Anyway, I’m no longer interested, for reasons explained in this thread.