anyone know?
is it derogatory?
I googled it and could not find it
thanks
Can you give us some context? How was it used?
my cousin received a text from her abusive ex-boyfriend who wants money from her that said as the title " you have 28th me"
Urbandictionary has some rather, erm, interesting definitions. (NSFW, as usual).
I’ve got no clue unless he is someone who likes to use numbers as words and has trouble texting
You have 2h8t me
Could read “you have to hate me”
Which still doesn’t make a lot of sense, but it’s the best I got
Maybe some kind of sloppy texting and autocorrect mashup of “You have till the 28th”?
ah that might be it Bayard!
Yeah Octarine, I saw that but I was not sure what it meant for sure
thanks everyone! We’ll see what happens. She has a meeting with a lawyer on Monday
Wait, what do you mean “as the title”? Texts have titles now? What did the rest of it say?
beats me, I did not see the text
anyway my cousin thinks that the stupid piece of crap was trying to say "why do you hate me?
he is one big ass hole jerk
He is a psychotic bi polar paranoid schizophrenic abusive drug addicted recovering alcoholic sex addict-and that is just a short title for him-he needs to be diagnosed and thrown into a permanent therapy with many shock treatments to his brain that is located in his dick. :eek:
The mania he experiences (or rather what everyone else experiences in his life) is unreal.:eek:
I think autocorrect too. My phone believes I want to say 31st or something like that all The time, but i forget what I usually mean to type.
WAG: “you have with me” as 2 and 8 are above w and i. Or something similar depending on context.
Oh if only
OMG she thinks its something else and then again something else entirely different
If only I could tell her where to go with all her paranoia and conjectures.
She is afraid this or that will happen and I keep assuring her and I tell her that there really isn’t anything she can do until it happens OR there are things she can do but she wont.
We told her to come here and he wont bother her but she is worried about her damn cat. The cat is like a kid. I have two cats and two dogs and she is afraid of what might happen…OH please!
She only has her brother S-I-L and a sister that has shunned her family. The brother works all the time out of town, her S-I-L is just as much a drama queen as my cousin is so that leaves me.
Went sent him a proposal of how he can get the money he thinks she owes him and get her things in return
If he does not respond, she goes to a lawyer tomorrow; appt at 230. Oh and I have to go with her. She is 2 hours away.
She doesnt want to spend the money for a lawyer but I know the lawyer will put the boyfriend in his place. Course she thinks that the bf will never take anything from the lawyers or judges. he thinks he is immune to anything and that he will always win in the end and of course she believes that too.
He has his chance with the proposal we sent otherwise I will make sure the lawyer makes him pay and pay big time
She also thinks that he will throw her things out on the lawn, he will destroy everything. She is more doom and gloom than my husband! I told her if that happens, he will pay EVEN MORE
Of course she does not believe me on most everything unless it becomes proved.
Can you imagine how much I want to tell her…(you pick the rest of the sentence)
Do I look forward to her phone calls?
Would she do SOMETHING for herself?
GRrrrrrr
Off we go.
low whistle
Yeah.
I need a detoxification from the situation
After tomorrow with the appt to the attorney I do not want to hear from her for a DAMN long while
Grrrrr…why I say anything to her I have no idea since she does not believe me.
grrrrrrr
Family or no, you *do *have the right to control how much crazy you admit into your life. And the *duty *to manage that amount for your own household’s sake.
That’s easy to forget as they actively work to suck you into their vortex. So it bears repeating, writing on your bathroom mirror, tattooing on your eyeballs, etc. Whatever it takes so you can remember and act accordingly.
Good luck.
well kill me now
Otherwise
My cousin does have no one else to turn to.
I’ve told her off quite a few times
I dont have to answer the phone when she calls and I dont always answer the phone.
So is it ok to bitch in here? I thought it was a sounding board but let me know if its not
:dubious:
By all means vent away. I didn’t mean to sound unsupportive. It’s crappy spot you find yourself in for sure.
When I’ve had to deal with similar (but thankfully less severe) situations I’ve found some solace in recognizing that I’m responsible for doing the best I can to help. But I’m *not *responsible for the outcome; they are. I can influence, but I can’t control. IOW I’m responsible for trying; they’re responsible for succeeding or failing.
It’s vastly frustrating. And often very, very unsatisfying.
Good luck. In a friendly, not snarky, way.
I think it must autocorrect gone wrong. I saw a Facebook post the other day where some guy posted a photo of his girlfriend and the caption said “I love this woman 28th all my heart” He said he intended “with”. That makes sense as 2 is above w and 8 is above I on the keyboard. They have recently broke up though. Maybe “28th” is an omen… (insert creepy music here).
Tell her it’s an autocorrect error AND an omen. That she’s supposed to recite the 28th Psalm when she’s getting stressed by all the drama.
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- 1 Unto thee will I cry, O LORD my rock; be not silent to me: lest, if thou be silent to me, I become like them that go down into the pit.
2 Hear the voice of my supplications, when I cry unto thee, when I lift up my hands toward thy holy oracle.
3 Draw me not away with the wicked, and with the workers of iniquity, which speak peace to their neighbours, but mischief is in their hearts.
4 Give them according to their deeds, and according to the wickedness of their endeavours: give them after the work of their hands; render to them their desert.
5 Because they regard not the works of the LORD, nor the operation of his hands, he shall destroy them, and not build them up.
6 Blessed be the LORD, because he hath heard the voice of my supplications.
7 The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him.
8 The LORD is their strength, and he is the saving strength of his anointed.
9 Save thy people, and bless thine inheritance: feed them also, and lift them up for ever. - -
Only if you think it would help, of course.
New news.
Cousin spent a few hours on the phone the other night with the jerk (to say the least) and she gave it to him good, but it must have not been too harsh because in the end he said she can come and get her stuff
So here it is 2 days later and she is still thinking about doing it. Just 3-4 days ago she had given up getting her stuff and crying about it. Before that it was that he was destroying her stuff. Or whatever negative thing she could think up. Of course she thought he was coming to get her as well.
(all of her ideas I poo poo’d because two things, she does not know WHAT is going on with that asshole nor can she control any of it…what’s more she would never do anything about it since she is scared to death of being along) (Whats more is my husband and I invited her to stay here if she was so fearful for her life!)
Of course I would NEVER understand ANY of her feelings since I’ve never been in that sort of situation…hmm. She would know? Have not talked to her for a good 25-30 years until a few years ago.
Hmm
So now, she seems not to care when she gets her stuff and I called her on it today. I also called her on something else and have been since we found out about so many things she’s been gloomin and doomin about. Shes calling me less which is good and boy did she get off the phone quick this morning since I rattled her about her stuff
I said I’d be chomping at the bit to get there and get her stuff. Guess what her problem is this time???
She doesn’t have room for it all. Ok small house…understandable. Otherwise she regrets buying all the stuff she bought for either house. For the house up here she made it into a cottage mode. Guess she cant live that way.
Remember if I had not told you yet that she divorced a man that made probably $300k to $500k per year, lived in a $350k house, so she got settlements for all that and then her parents died in the last few years and got a ton of money from the inheritance-oh damn spoke too soon, she is calling now, OMG she is bitching again.:smack:
God stop acting so superior! I hate that. Comes from being worry free for decades. As apposed to my decades of worries about money. I couldn’t possibly know what she is talking about
B & B, too much bragging and too much bitching. :dubious::smack:
thank LSLGuy, Yeah, she has to decide in the end. I pretty much just suggest but still she goes to her other two (sort of support sources) and ask them too
That is weird for sure
Yllaria, I think she would think I was joking :dubious: