Just in time! It’s not too late to get tickets for this year.
Beat Me in St Louis - XXIII
A 3-Day BDSM Event, Educational Seminar & Play Party
Friday July 9th through Sunday 11th, 2021
Tickets go on sale May 13th, 8:00PM
Premier Hotel
Guest rooms at the Event Hotel feature Ultra-Comfort™ beds, cable television, free WiFi, iron & ironing board, hair dryer, coffee maker, daily maid service and much more. All rooms also have microwave & refrigerators. Also available is a well-equipped exercise room and an indoor heated swimming pool.
Food Options
The hotel Café & Tavern also offers a wide variety of standard American cuisine menu items and breakfast, lunch, and dinner buffets. Many local restaurants can be found within a 5 minute drive of the venue.
Kinky Shopping
Shop till you drop in the Kinky Shopping Mall! Vendors include floggers, whips, paddles, canes, fetish clothing, shoes, jewelry, leather and much more. Participate in our silent auction, the proceeds of which are donated to local charities
Hopefully, my last word on furries. If almost 90% of furries are male, with 20% of those males being gay, life must be either heaven or hell for females. If you are lesbian, very little choice in partners. If you are straight, you are going to be hit on way more than straight women in the general public are. Not to mention all those males that are never going to be able to hook up just because of the huge number disparity. Makes me wonder how large the incel population is among furries.
That vague excerpt left me curious where they were actually holding the event. So I hit their actual website to hunt that down.
Interestingly, that wasn’t BBB mucking up her citing. Their website carefully does not reveal the name of the venue hotel. They do say all the rooms are already booked at the main venue, but they have discount arrangements with other nearby hotels.
The pix of the hotel are certainly nicer than the dump they used in the old days.
I know what I’m about to say isn’t strictly a fetish either, but con as drawn out foreplay applies to lots more than furries.
I’ve also had the pleasure of staying at hotels hosting comic cons or fantasy cons or SF cons. Lots of Wonderwomen and Flash running around. Or Klingons and Storm Troopers. Or wizards and witches and damsels … Oh My!
From the looks on the faces of a lot of the participants, this was the big chance to get laid that year. Totally one of those “The goods are odd but the odds are good!” scenarios.
As long as everyones’ oddities fit together like … well … you know, who am I to judge?
Well that sucks, who wants to stay at a second class hotel for such a prestigious event. Plus Evil Laugh Guy will be there. I totally missed out.
Hi, @BippityBoppityBoo I asked in ATMB and didn’t get an answer, can I ask how you posted the Beat Me info so it has the link icons when you hover over the beginning of each paragraph? The one poster that answer said all he does is copy/paste. Is that what you did?
The numbers are all over the place, depending where you look. I’d still be surprised if het males aren’t a majority.
Who has that much time for that? I have other things to do, you know. Wash the car, walk the dog. No, those aren’t euphemisms. Maybe have your partner do the foreplay/cosplay on their own and I could just show up for the sex part.
The ones that look good in costume have good odds, the forty year old 300 pound bald guy in a form fitting Superman outfit, not so much.
I found a survey; it’s a bit old and heavily leans towards US furries, but it shows 25% of male furries are exclusively heterosexual, male furries are more than twice as likely to be single as female furries, and only 10-15% of those surveyed own a fursuit.
The 300# Tinkerbell with cleavage larger than my whole chest would beg to differ.
Those mouseover chain-link icons that appear next to the bolded headings are NOT links to wherever she found that stuff.
Those, like the chain-link icon at the bottom right of every post, are something you can click to create a URL pointing to that heading. They are automatically created by Discourse when you use the heading format feature. Much like on a wiki article there’s a url that takes you directly to each sub-entry within the article.
You do headings using the # sign at the start of a line:
This is a top level heading with 1 #-sign on the front.
This is a second level heading with 2 #-signs on the front.
This is a third level heading with 3 #-signs on the front.
So when you click that you jump directly to that heading within my post. Which would be useful for long-winded guys like me whose posts need chapter markers to separate the parts.
As to the other guy in ATMB, often when content is pasted from a newspaper site or some such, it contains a similar idea of headlines and sub heads and sub-sub heads and body text. When you paste that content with embedded HTML into Discourse, Discourse will massage the stuff it recognizes into its formatting codes and discard the rest. Which often results in something like my example above or what BBB posted from the site she found.
I’m tech daft, coming to this game at an advanced age and with no experience, training or education in computing. That said, I’m working within iOS on a touchscreen (duh) iPad Pro purchased in 2017. What I did was copy and paste from the web site I found through googling. I am sure there is a much more adept, technologically apt way to do that but I don’t know it-yet. I’m trying to learn the wonders and way of message boarding-slow but sure. I know and can do a hell of more than I could less than a year ago when I joined da Dope.
You may have to dumb this down for me or I need to do a post to the test thread.
Wait, I think I got it from your second post. I was confused on them because clicking on the link icon didn’t actually take me to a different place like I was expecting it to. I originally thought it had something to do with the share buttons for Facebook, Twitter etc. Thanks! I owe you one.
Speaking as an ABDL (“Adult Baby/Diaper Lover”), it’s got aspects in common with BDSM, in that there are people who want to be babied (submissive) and people who want to be a mommy/daddy (dominant), and there are “switches”, i.e. people who are comfortable participating in either role. The nature of the interaction can range from heavy-duty bondage/discipline/humiliation on one end of the spectrum (with diapers and other accessories serving as markers of subservience/submission, similar to a chastity belt or slave collar for BDSM folks), to the kind of loving and nurturing a parent might give an actual child (with diapers and other accessories serving as cues to help the wearer transition into their “little” headspace).
And no, participants don’t want to involve little kids, just as practitioners of BDSM don’t want to kidnap and tie up random passers-by. In fact, most submissive ABDLs probably fantasize about being the baby, not interacting with one.
I think you’re right about that. To the extent that ABDLs want their partner to diaper up, it might suggest that they are “switches”, or that they just want their partner to participate in the fetish in whatever way that partner is willing. If a partner isn’t willing to participate as a mommy/daddy, then having them participate as a “playmate” (not the Playboy kind) is better than nothing and at least connotes some kind of acceptance of the ABDL fetish.
As far as what does and doesn’t work well in real life, there’s some of both. In the plus column, there’s been a massive increase in commercially available products in the past 10-15 years. There was a time when plain adult diapers for incontinence were all you could find, but lately if you google (or google-images) “ABDL diapers”, you’ll find a huge marketplace of vendors offering diapers with all kinds of juvenile prints and a range of sizes suitable for adults. Likewise with “ABDL clothing” and other accessories, like pacifiers. This has been great.
What doesn’t work well?
For heterosexual male submissive ABDLs, fantasies sometimes veer toward being physically controlled by a dominant female. That’s hard to achieve unless you’re an extraordinarily small/weak man interacting with an extraordinarily large/strong woman.
Erotic humiliation is potent fantasy material for many ABDLs. This includes things like being seen wearing ABDL clothes, or being forced to conspicuously wear/use a diaper, especially in public. That can’t really be done in real life unless you’re willing to unethically involve nonconsenting third parties in your scene.
For ABDLs, simply finding a romantic partner who is OK with them having this fetish can be challenging. Standard BDSM shows up in pop culture on a regular basis, but most folks (especially when I was a young adult) have never even heard of ABDL. If you do happen to find a partner who is OK with what you are, convincing them to participate can be challenging. A lot of folks are too weirded-out by the idea of wearing a diaper, or grossed out by the idea or act of using them (or being with someone who uses them) for their intended purpose.
@Machine_Elf , thanks for the great post. That’s a lot of first hand info. To me, this fetish seemed totally workable in real life, once you could find a partner. The essentials seems like they would be easy to come by and a place to do your thing should be easy.
I didn’t know there was a public aspect to this but I should have known there would be. Any kind of humiliation fetish will always have a subset that like the public aspect.
A question, if you don’t mind. Pre easy access to adult sized diapers, was it more likely to make do with undersized disposable diapers or would people use cloth ones? Cloth seems much easier to be adaptable size wise.
Hey, you try being whipped/whipping someone for a few hours. That’s a lot of sore muscles. You’d want a comfortable bed too.
I believe that’s usually more a BDSM thing, being light bondage and submissive, possibly with a bit of humiliation mixed in.
When Shades of Gray came out, there was all this talk online about how it was a bad representation of BDSM, and I wound up reading a bunch of articles and watching explainer videos. There was talk of stuff like sub collars, which were worn to say you were someone’s sub. And there was also talk of more “lifestyle” BDSM, where you get into “contracts” and take it out of the bedroom to some degree.
That’s not to say pet fetish things don’t exist, but, if the videos I’ve been recommended are right, there’s a lot more roleplay involved. No fur suits, but I did see tails and ears and face paint.
Yes, just a BDSM subset. I suspect the humiliation is a big part of this, hence the public display, maybe a little of a punishment for misbehaving at home. As long as they are properly clothed, this would be totally legal. The public reaction would just add to the game for them. I don’t think this falls into onlookers being unwilling participants, although some people may.
