Never get married before the sparkle wears off. It always wears off over time. ALWAYS. No matter how awesome a match you two are, eventually something about them will annoy you approaching the point of homicide. Whether it’s his tighty whities or the way he kisses you or the shape of his left calf muscle. If you can resist the first wave of homicidal urges, then you can maybe consider marriage a few years later.
This is more what I’ve learned from watching friends/family and their divorces.
Preach it!
Better yet, ask yourself if you want your daughter to be treated by her husband the way you are being treated by this person. Children learn what is acceptable in a relationship from their parents.
If they cheated before, they will cheat again and no, I am not that special that I can change that.
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Lock my medicine cabinet and be wary of people who don’t respect other’s privacy.
Regarding living with a SO - I’ve had the opposite experience of other people here. I dated a girl for 4.5 years, moved in with her, then broke up with her after 6 months. Being around her all the time forced me to recognize I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with her.
If you ask your spouse why she fell in love with you and she dances around the question because she doesn’t have a good answer, at least one of you needs to take that as a sign.
If she can’t take care of the hamster, she can’t take care of herself.
If someone tells you that all of her exes call her crazy, even if you don’t think she’s crazy now, her exes were right.
Similar hobbies/interests aren’t enough to keep a relationship goin.
Similar to #2, if she talks about how crazy her mother was, and how poor a job she did, pay attention. Girls learn alot and inherit alot from their mothers.
If you’re unhappy about something in your relationship, escalating your commitment to each other NEVER IMPROVES whatever it is you don’t like. On the contrary, it usually ends up, ironically, magnifying problems.
For example, “She’s been so distant, I bet things will improve if we move in together.” No no no.
If you’re an agnostic and fall for a devout Catholic, don’t assume you can just work around it.
If her parents don’t like you, she’s likely to come around to their point of view sooner or later.
If she’s “best friends” with one of her exes, they’re probably not done sleeping together yet.
A: Love isn’t enough.
(as others have said) Watch how he treats his mom.
Giving into emotional blackmail is never, ever the right thing to do.
S: Sometimes you can’t fix what’s broken. Especially if one person won’t admit it’s broken.
Wheelz… are you one of my exes? (I know you’re not, but something very similar could have been written by one of them.)
How do you know I’m not?? 
Sigh…
Lies! All lies!
El Hubbo’s name is David. But he prefers Dave. And he’s not Jewish.
Preach it brother. Bitches be crazy.
Mine:
Don’t get married just because he/she, family and friends are pressuring you to.
Ladies when the guy proposes to you by saying, “I guess we can get married.” he probably doesn’t want to be married at that point and time.
If the two of you are fighting about why you aren’t married yet after just one year of dating she/he might be too clingy for independant people.
If she says she will lie to you about what the, hypothetical in my case, kids are up to*, like her mother did to her dad, just to not upset you then you are probably not on the same page in regards to child rearing.
Addition to the one above you should probably talk about the big things before getting married like finances, future dreams and child rearing ect.
*Her mom let her spend overnight trips at Disneyland with her boyfriend while she was underage and told her dad that she was up there with a friend and her family.
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Don’t listen to that bullshit Quartz. My grandpas first girlfriend was my grandma and they didn’t start dating until he was in his early thirties and they had a great relationship and stayed married until he died at the age of 87.
Don’t love too deep. Keep your thoughts to yourself. It’s safer that way.
When every single one of your exes is a psycho/bitch/big fat meanie, the common denominator is YOU. Figure out why.
A martyr complex is not sexy.
You *can *pigeonhole women into the Madonna/whore dichotomy, but it will backfire eventually. Badly. If nothing else, eventually you’ll have a daughter who’s dating!
His unethical behaviour at a time of intense stress isn’t out of character, this is not a once-in-a-lifetime reaction to a once-in-a-lifetime crisis, and he wasn’t driven to it by an extreme circumstance. Rather, it’s the truest glimpse of his inner character that you’ll ever get. Remember that this is the person he’ll revert to being whenever times get tough; as the years go by and he becomes complacent, the stress threshold for dropping the decent-guy persona will get ever lower.
If she doesn’t want to fuck you before you’re married, it’s unlikely that she’s going to want to do so afterward. At least not very often.
If she’s a good catholic and you’re not even in the same religious ballpark: run.
If she claims she can’t cook, she’s not joking.
Things I’ve learned from my exes (not necessarily in the format listed)
BF 1 - some people are compulsive liars and manipulators. Keep this person in mind as a textbook example.
BF2 - looks and an ability to kiss should be low on the list of desirable traits. Intelligence, a good sense of humor, and a caring personality should be high. Keep this person in mind as an example of what you want in a relationship, and don’t screw up the next time you find one.
– after the long dry spell
Fiance 1 - My job in life is not to be someone’s receptacle for anger. Also, keep this one in mind as an example of self-destructive behavior.
BF 4 - Be careful what you wish for, and Spock is not a good candidate for a relationship
BF 5 - Be yourself. If he can’t handle that, he can find someone else
Husband 1 - Not only can you not change a person, but you can’t argue, logic, appeal, cajole or otherwise convince him to change. If said change is “Treat me better”, and his reaction to that is to communicate that it ain’t going to happen, it’s time to leave.
Also, I deserve someone who is loving and emotionally healthy, I don’t need to settle for the someone less than that just because they show interest in me.
Husband 2 - Dopers make the best husbands 
If she says to give her some time to see if she still wants to be together, it’s over.
If she suddenly, after several years, mentions that she’s always had a problem with a specific aspect of you, it’s over.