I don’t see how saying females is negative sounding. I’m open to try to understand if you are interested in explaining. By the way, I like your posts as they are nonconfrontational and not containing some sort of insult in it somewhere. Thanks
Women like a man with a big, thick, fat wallet
It’s biology- man provides resources for children externally. A woman provides such resources internally.
Hips and boobs vs muscles and money. It’s nature.
Also, being able to carry on a conversation helps. Women like to talk.
She did explain it. Right there in the very beginning. Please read the first paragraph of her post again. And again, if necessary. As many times as it takes for the light to dawn.
Because if there’s one thing women pretty universally DON’T like, it’s explaining why something bothers us and then having someone say “What? What’s the problem? Explain it to me.” It shows you (the general you) weren’t listening the first time, which is very insulting. It also presumes we have nothing better to do than to repeat ourselves as many times as it takes for you to actually pay attention, which is demeaning. Furthermore, it takes for granted that we give enough of a crap to take extra time and effort for someone who can’t be arsed to listen to us in the first place, which is presumptuous.
Like CrazyCatLady said, that was the attempt to explain.
Your first post tries to compare women to other species of animals. Even though humans are mammals, we all believe that typically we’re more than that. If women feel like they are being treated as a specimen under a microscope or in a zoo (“how can I study this mysterious beast and learn its secrets?”), they will take offense.
You’re coming off as if you are more interested in finding the human equivalent of a bird call or pheromone spray so that you can lure a herd/flock of women and then pick out a mate from the bunch. Instead, you need to be trying to figure out how to improve yourself in certain ways to make you a more interesting, well-developed individual and thus a better romantic candidate to help you find a special someone.
Because “females” sounds like a biological term- in common parlance, female humans are referred to as “women” (or “girls” if they are juvenile). Not only does calling them “females” make it sound like women are other-than-human (because men are not usually correspondingly called “males”), it can make it sound like they are less-than-human (because so many non-humans fit the category “female”).
It’s similar to why “Negroes” is no longer used in polite company to refer to black people. Not only is it archaic, but calling someone a Negro implies that they are somehow different than a default “normal” human, and therefore lesser than a default normal human.
Its unattractive. The term is accurate, but accurate is not always attractive. Using it, when someone has said it isn’t the term preferred by women, makes you unattractive. If Brad Pitt were to be in a conversation with me and refer to women as “females”- even he would be unattractive. (Actually, Mr. Pitt has not pegged my attractiveness meter in some time).
Gateway, picture yourself talking to a group of black people, and calling them “Negroes”. Imagine that several calmly tell you that it’s not polite to refer to them as “Negroes”- that you should call them “black people” (or African Americans, perhaps, if they are Americans), if you must refer to them as a group.
You might ask them “why”, but I imagine you would be smart enough to stop calling them “Negroes”.
Now do the same thing with women- it’s OK to ask “why”, but now that you have learned that it is impolite and unattractive to call them “females”, you should stop doing it.
They also seem to like the smell of chloroform.
Or at least they never object to it.
Giggity.
Seriously, that whole “Quagmire as the lovable serial rapist” thing got old real fast.
I suspect the OP was asking for some practical advice- “What is attractive to females? Need answer fast”.
Toward that end, the practical part of biology, I offer the following:
Go hang out with women. It’s that easy.
Find women doing something women like doing and go do it with them.
Sooner or later one of them will take a chance with you, and then it just gets better from there.
Why don’t you just ask some women? Say “Women, what is it that you like in a man?” And each of us will answer.
Because we are not some cookie-cutter universal answer. I don’t like Latino men. I don’t like overly macho men. I don’t like hairy men - all things that other women swoon over.
I like slim, tall, elegant, sophisticated, intelligent men, with a devastating wit. Jude Law makes me weak at the knees while someone like John Wayne leaves me pretty cold. That’s not to say I don’t think Wayne wasn’t good-looking in his heydey, but he’s so not my type.
And that also doesn’t mean I stay true to type every time. My number one priority in a man is that sharp sense of humor. If he’s got that, I’m willing to overlook some other things.
And I am different from every other woman out there. We’re not all the same. I refer you to my signature.
I’d also like to politely request we quit the rape-y jokes in here - first formaldehyde and then chloroform. They’re not very funny and it’s not exactly the appropriate venue.
“I wish to find a female, possibly of my own species, and make a babby with it”
Gyrate points out his joke is from a TV show and there is text in white. So, sorry about that.
There’s a drug that’s far more effective than chloroform if you just want to get laid- alcohol.
Eh, s’arright. A passing cultural reference to make a trivial point.
I was surprised that after catching flak in his previous thread for the “females” thing, the OP went right ahead and did it again. This suggests a certain…lack of self-awareness which would certainly be off-putting to women AND men.
Lack of self-awareness is a chronic condition of youth.
OP, would you pose the question exactly the same way if you were interested in making male friends? Would you ask “What is attractive to males?” Or would you simply befriend men with whom you have a rapport and common interests? Because it works that simply for purposes of dating, too. Instead of viewing women as objects, prizes to win, or means to your end, regard them as people. With some you will have things in common and a good rapport and with luck you will share chemistry and those friendships might escalate.
For me, I have never been attracted to or even comfortable with men who see women as foreign others or targets. I’ve never once flirted with or dated a man without female friends. I don’t even feel comfortable around men who believe that women can be lured with tricks or tips, I find those men awkward, creepy, and guaranteed to say something offensive. The date rape and alcohol jokes are a huge red flag and I would immediately walk away from any aqauintance who made such crass references. They convey not a sense if humor, but insensitivity and cluelessness that isn’t remotely appealing. Before you attempt to leap into the dating pool and carry expectations of sex, love, or relationships, you might want to develop a rapport with actual women first, and you can start by regarding women as people, the same as you regard men.
Oh, no way. We are all dispenser machines - put in enough friendship tokens and we will dispense vagina, didn’t you know?
:rolleyes:
Hey Gateway, I’d love to hear your opinion on Nice Guys.
I’m nearly certain that the opposite route, apparently taken by the OP, will result in zero vagina. My best relationships were always with boys then men who either had female friends or sisters or who were naturally at ease in the company of women.
A weekend jogger wouldn’t expect to win Olympic gold his first time out in a triathlon would he? Then someone who views women as a mysterious, foreign species shouldn’t have the expectation of women falling at his feet because he read the results of a carelessly worded survey on a message board. He’s got to start somewhere, and if that results in a few unrequited crushes, well, live and learn.
I think a lot of young men go through a period where sex isn’t just important- it isn’t even just the most important thing- it’s the ABSOLUTE END-ALL BE-ALL OF HUMAN EXISTENCE. I know I did. After a few years, I got over it. And when I got over it, I seemed to be more attractive to women. I imagine my changing attitude had something to do with it.