As a male, all my future thinking and even my current decision making can be traced to a single, basic desire. At some deep level, all the things I want to do in life - get a good career, get physically stronger, etc stems from a desire to get laid and carve out a place for my future children.
This may not ever happen, due to obstacles and birth control and other factors, but at some level, it’s the root drive behind everything I do.
With women, they have much less time due to biological clocks that are quite real (over 35 the risks of pregnancy rise enormously, and in the “natural environment” for humans, women needed to have a large number of children to even ‘break even’ versus vicious natural forces). Women I have known seem much more frantic in their 20s, juggling many tasks at once and sleeping maybe 6 hours a night. The pretty ones have their phones constantly “blowing up” from all the guys calling them. (this can make hanging out with a really hot girl feel like having a chat with a busy doctor or other important person.)
So, in the context, it’s difficult grasp what it would feel like to be assexual. What drives your life? How do you think about the future?
Similarly, what about someone who has lost nerves to their genitals. They can look at attractive men or women, but they can’t physically do anything. They can’t masturbate, they cannot get an erection, etc. Is this frustrating or does it ever feel ok?