Since when do women want honesty?
Do you think I’m fat?
Do you think she’ prettier than me?
God forbid you say yes to one of these (among other thousands I omitted)
Nope. Women want sweet lies that make them feel warm and fuzzy inside. They will pick a guy and disregard any bad qualities he has thinking they can change him. And when it doesn’t work, they will accuse him of making them miserable. What the hell?
I want to know what’s the dilly-o with this “we dated for 16 and a half years” (or 2, or 4 or 9 months) but as soon as the relationship is over it’s all like “THAT FILTHY CUNT I HATE HIM SO MUCH WAH”. Or how it’s not okay for anyone you even remotely know (sister, friend, girl who works at Starbucks) to date someone that you used to. Because if they do - it’s blackball those DIRTY SLUTS STAY AWAY FROM MY (ex)-MAN BIYAAATCH. Makes no sense.
Hmm, a civil and thoughtful response in the Pit. I hardly know how to respond.
Anyway, if a man wore a suit, elevator shoes or a bratwurst so as to add several inches to his physique, he’s seen as a fraud. I don’t angle any clothes to make myself look slimmer. If I’m in need of that, I’d better change my diet or hit the gym.
Bleaching hair the shade of melted butter is not a grooming issue. Neither is jamming the bosom up to the collarbone in a padded bra. And control-top pantyhose is a grooming issue? Shaving is a grooming issue, but if you shave, you really shave. You’re not faking anything.
So the deception is okay because he will find out?
A woman does not have to spend a year and a half with a guy to find out things like what he does for a living, what his corporate title is, what neighborhood he lives in, etc. Women check this things out right away, but an awful lot of them coyly deny these things are important. On the issue of honesty, it is entirely dishonest to say that you are dating a man because of his “sense of humor” or “his nice personality” when the first thing you checked was his bank balance.
So, alice, when was the last time you talked to a hooker? Sorry, I couldn’t resist. (No, really, I mean it.)
rowanashe, I feel your pain, as anyone who’s read the Pit threads I’ve posted about my ex-girlfriends can testify to. I wish I had some answers, but I don’t. All I know is that being alone and alive beats being dead, and some days that’s the only thing that keeps me going. I hope that you find the peace and happiness which has eluded me so far.