People who constantly call other people out as being creepy bug me. I had a friend who was constanly calling anyone and anything creepy. I finally had to call her on it.
That being said there are some hunched over, bug eyed creeps around where I live, but they don’t scare me.
There is a middle aged woman who lives here who always wears boxers and a tank top and carries a teddy bear everywhere. She will sometimes drop by one of the neighborhood bars for a drink. She tends to stare people down and I’m sure she creeps people out, but when she leaves and people start making fun of her I always call them on it.
A gaze that’s too vacant or too intense
-fashion that’s intended to conform but thats just somehow “off”
-someone who’s posture is too stiff or too casual
-excessive grinning or smiling
-pear shaped guys (sorry, I find guys who are fat on the bottom with narrow shoulders to be really creepy)
-skinny, veiny guys (I think “heroin addict”)
-monsterous, ripped guys (why would a) someone need to be that jacked and b) have the time to get that way?)
-beards (I read somewhere that people don’t trust guys with beards)
-being out of place in a particular environment is creepy (ie a middle-aged blue collar guy in a college bar or a guy in a suit at a heavy metal concert)
THAT’S creepy! Most people have an instinctual reaction to subtle clues that something might be potentially dangerous. We perceive that as the “creepy vibe”.
What? It’s creepy to be annoyed by someone’s behavior? This girl overused the term to the point to which it became meaningless, so I told her to knock it off while she’s around me. She did cut it out too, so there.
I know what you’re saying, though. Some people give off really negative social cues, and seem to be completely oblivious to it. It’s not that I don’t pick up on these things but some people go overboard with letting others know that they find particular people or traits “creepy”. I often read that as people attempting to set themselves apart from “those types”.
If I had a nickel for every time I overheard someone say “Ohmygawd! that . . . is sooooo creepy.” I bet I’d have at least $37.65. :dubious:
I’ve actually received just as many comments from guys as I have from women about me being creepy. I often find myself staring, people watching, and I usually follow my whims about sudden urges to make random comments. Awkward moments don’t really bother me, and I’ve about lost my ability to tell when a moment has even become awkward. I would imagine these would be the reasons.
Personally, I find anyone with a desperate air to be creepy. Desperation suggests someone may very well do something drastic to get what they want, and you never know if you’re going to be in the way of that person and whatever it is he thinks he needs. It is for this reason I’ve always found rodents much more frightening than reptiles. A rat will eat anything to stay alive if its hungry. I’ve owned pet snakes and some of those can be such picky eaters they’d sooner die than eat the exact meal they’re used to.
This is probably not applicable outside of a college campus, but I know several people (guys and girls) who wear velvet cloaks in the winter instead of coats in the winter.
On behalf of all my fellow people with Tourette’s, now we’re really screwed.
FWIW, I’m aware that nervous tics can be offputting at first and there’s not a damn thing I can do about it, so if you meet someone in a social situation and it’s making you uncomfortable, just ask about it politely. Personally I try and bring it up if I think somebody is wondering, but either way I’d much rather get it out there and dealt with so we can both move on to more critical things, like “Who is more fucked up, Lindsay or Britney?” General reaction (to Tourette’s) is pretty much “Oh, OK, I was wondering what that was. So how 'bout them Raiders?”
Obviously that may not apply if you happen to be sitting across from the person on the subway.
Yes. But my point, that I ended up forgetting to make, was that his physical appearance was not in any way abnormal. He appeared to be a decent good-looking guy.
Sadly, a lot of comic book collectors project a creepy vibe, and I hate being lumped in with those guys. Offensive personal hygiene, either too fat or too skinny, neckbeards, ill-fitting and faded comic book character T-shirts, unwashed and unkempt hair, sad attempts to be fashion-forward (fedoras, goggles, trench coats in summer, capes), and social skills that range from awkward to deranged have made me rethink attending comic book conventions. And don’t even get me started on the creepy otaku (anime and manga fans).
I met a friend of a friend last week who was wearing clothes a couple sizes too small, shortish 80’s style shorts and a small t-shirt, all very snug. All were also old looking, and appeared to have been run through a washing machine roughly a jillion times, so not only were they very small and very snug, they were also paper thin and the shirt at least was almost transparent. Thus, you could clearly see every wrinkle in his jumblies. Now, by all accounts he’s a nice enough guy, and nothing he did or said struck me as sketchy but… yeah. Creepy.
I’m not sure that you can separate looks from behaviour for creepiness. I think that creepiness is defined by behaviour: indications that the creepy person does not care about societal norms, and cares only about his or her desires, rather than those of others.
there was a guy, owner operator of a local liquor store that the Mrs. and I named “Creepo Joe”…
Greasy hair
Body odour
Staring unfocused Gaze (Looked at your face, never at your eyes)
Had a boquet of leather roses (roses made from leather) behind him with card that read “You made me, you just made me!” visibly displayed
A “lock in” security system (you entered shop by a door that locked behind you, and had to pass by him/till on way out (one way door again)… (this was a suburban, low crime, neighbourhood
A poster from a local heavy evangalical (snake handling cultist, spank the children, women silent in chuirch) type church up behind him, updated monthly
dressed in 40 yr old , ill fitting good will second hand clothes
creepo joe
Ok, during the first half of this, you had me nodding in agreement. Dirty, unkept, filthy, smelly, all are creepy and you are not shallow for think so.
But yes, “old fashioned dressing” is not creepy and you are a bit shallow for that. Sorry. Hell, I wear a fedora sometimes, and that is very old fashioned.
But mostly creepy is behavior, not looks. Those Missionarys with their neat dress and clean cut looks don’t look creepy but sometimes they act creepy when they get that weird look in their eyes and start being too fucking serious.
Surely you’re not arguing that because you wear old fashioned clothing sometimes, that others can’t find this creepy? Are you somehow immune to being thought of as creepy by someone?
Personally, I find a man in a hat (especially a fedora; not so much a ball cap) very attractive. What squicks me right the heck out are boat shoes, but especially when they’re worn without socks.
As for physical attributes, ( I hate to even say it because I know physical traits are beyond one’s control and heck, I’m no Angelina) a weak chin, extremely thin lips or exceptionally pale skin with dark hair / eyes will give me pause. Not that I would shun a person or anything; just saying those are the things that involuntarily give me kind of an oogy feeling.
I also agree with the bad posture thing, and a guy with long fingernails is an absolute cue for me to make myself scarce.
I find guys wearing aviator sunglasses somewhat creepy, unless they are flying a plane, writing me a ticket, or doing something “tough” in a warm climate like exploring a jungle or hunting rhinos.
Like many have already mentioned, I think “creepy” is more of a disposition than anything. But strictly based on appearances, it’s probably hard not to look creepy with a comb-over or a mullet haircut. Both hairstyles clearly indicate that the person is at least somewhat out of sync with the rest of the world.
Speaking of fedora hats and trench coats, I find those guys not to be creepy but more along the lines of ‘nerdy and trying too hard’ but in a very harmless sort of way. Remember, just because your favorite anime character looks cool in it, doesn’t mean you will.
