I agree with Procrustus. I very rarely come from oral (unless she’s really good at it… The last girlfriend-but-three - oh my. Now I remember one of the reasons I miss her so much, even though she was a thundering bitch). So no, doesn’t have to include an orgasm for me to consider it a BJ.
I’m with jjimm on this one - I think I’ve only cum about 3 times in my life from a blow job but have had my dick sucked by a LOT more people than that. To be honest cumming from oral isn’t my favourite anyway.
I’ve never come from standalone oral. Ever.
But I’ve still gotten a bunch of blow jobs.
If I had to describe a session: “Well, she blowed me a little and then I fucked her.” See that part where I mentioned getting blowed? That was the elusive blowjob that you’re having trouble defining. /thread
If there’s no orgasm, it’s just foreplay.
Girl here. I said its only a blow job if he comes. I asked my SO and said no orgasm necessary to use the term, but he wouldn’t be very happy if I just stopped (wuthout moving on to other fun stuff).
Does the whole sequence of events (oral + “real” sex) end in orgasm? If so, good. If not, lousy.
Guy A: “Everyone remembers their first blowjob. Am I right?”
Guy B: “I’ve never had a blowjob.”
Guy A: “WHAT?!”
Guy B: “I’ve had my dick sucked before, but never come.”
Guy A: “You know what I meant.”
I’ve never heard of anyone saying it doesn’t count if the guy doesn’t come.
I wouldn’t say any oral stimulation. Two ice cream cone-style licks ain’t cutting it. But spooge is not an essential element of a blowjob.
Remind me not to eat at your restaurant.
Do I need to start another thread to ask about the parallel situation (if a woman doesn’t cum from cunnilingus, did it make a sound? If she’s never cum at all during penetration, has she never had sex?). The way people segment things – even the concept of ‘foreplay’ versus ‘real’ sex – it’s like an awful American Pie sequel.
You can tell that the OP is male because apparently it doesn’t matter what happens to the woman. 
…it’s a thread about BJs, not oral in general. I’ve heard of a few women that came from giving a BJ (one told me herself she had once or twice, and once was a friend telling me about a past GF,) but it’s such a small percentage is it really worth putting in the poll? 
Oh, I see. I thought that the male/female thing applied to the receiver of the oral and not the responder to the poll, but now that I’m actually thinking my way makes no sense whatsoever.
Yes, you blew him, but the question was about a blowjob. To me, there’s a distinction between the two terms, although I did have to think about it for a while.
That sounds more like a blow-hobby.
re: Oral without orgasm.
Sometimes it’s foreplay and sometimes it’s oral intercourse. It’s a matter of… umm… Well, not really sure how to describe the difference. Sort of like at what point does a pond become a lake.
But IMO, oral followed by something else is oral followed by something else. Oral to completion is a blowjob. If I ask for a blowjob I’m asking for oral til orgasm.
I’m glad I broke the poll out by sex though. At this point 1 in 3 men think orgasm is required as opposed to 1 in 4 women sharing that opinion. A slight, but not insignificant difference.
A blow job should be finished :D, if its just warm up, so be it…
What? He cant do both?
I’ve never come from oral. Does that mean I have to say I’ve never had a blow job? That’s ridiculous. If I get blown, it’s a blowjob. And I’ve been blown.
No orgasm necessary.
Which is why people need to learn to read the OP before voting. It’s clearly stated. This has been a public service announcement.
Apparently, according to urbandictionary.com a “blowjob” is necessarily to orgasm.
Though I voted “female, any oral stimulation”. (I am a woman), my understanding is (from past BFs and conversations like this one), most men only consider it a bj if it has a happy ending.