What qualifies as a bj? A knob gobbling poll.

In My Humble Opinion
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My wife and I are having a minor disagreement and we know the StraightDope is the only place to get a definative unbiased answer.

She contends that any amount of oral attention is a blowjob while I am of the opinion that the illustrious title is only deserved if the recipient achieves orgasm.

Thus we present to the largest and most diverse collection of oral artists and cunning linguists outside the Chicken Ranch the opportunity to settle this days long debate.

I have divided the poll along the male/female line to find out if there is any significant difference of opinion based on chromosomes.

2

There’s no poll. I now have cognitive blue balls. :frowning:

3

Relief is at hand. Poll added.

4

Aaaaahhhhhhhh…

I’m going to have to go chauvinist on this one, Bob.

5

I chose “any oral stimulation,” but I think it takes more than just a little to count as a blow job.

6

Guy here. I don’t consider it a blowjob unless I orgasmed from it. If she moves on to another position, all I got was “some oral”.

7

Orgasm achieved = blowjob

No orgasm = prep work

8

I agree. There has to be some effort involved. Otherwise why would it be called a “job?” :smiley:

9

It’s prep work, as stated before, unless orgasm is achieved.

Also, a hand job with the occasional lick or suck doesn’t count as a blow job. It counts as a piss poor way to spice up a hand job, making me think I’ll get filet when all you deliver is ground chuck. Tsk tsk.

10

I mean, if I just smooch! kiss the tip, no it isn’t a blowjob. But if I put a dick in my mouth, he got blown, whether he came or not (he did). Is putting your cock in her not sex if you don’t come? That is just stupid.

11

Echoing miss elizabeth

12

Female. I think orgasm is a requirement for a blow job. Hence the word ‘‘job’’ – implying something was finished.

13

If two people had vaginal intercourse for a while then stopped and she finished him off by fellating his member until orgasm then they had vaginal intercourse for a while followed by a blow job. They’re all sex. I can’t think of a good colloquial word for “intercourse to orgasm” that parallels blow job. But if there were such a word, say, twat job, and you had intercourse with someone but didn`t orgasm, then yes I’d say you did not have a twat job. The job was not done!

14

Oral sex without an orgasm would be a pretty lousy blow job, but a blow job nonetheless (IMO).

15

Even if it’s part of foreplay and is followed by “real” sex? :confused:
Does my husband think most of my blow jobs are lousy because they’re part of the build-up to us having sex?

16

No, not at all. Mostly because he prolly doesn’t even think of them as blowjobs, since he’s not gonna come from it. It’s just oral as foreplay.

17

Blowjobs are like pizza. When it’s good, it’s great. When it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. Except when she uses her teeth. :eek:

18

How should I know why he thinks they’re lousy?

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Male here. I don’t make the distinction between “oral action” and"blow job." Probably because I’m one of those guys who almost never (3 or 5 times over last 30 years) reaches orgasm through oral. I get superb oral action almost daily, and I’m going to continue to view that as receiving very frequent, and much appreciated, blow jobs.

I can see, however, the utility of the distinction for the rest of you. Carry on.

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I’m trying to remember…