Well, yeah. Normally I don’t use the word “platonic,” but in this context I thought it best to specify.
What’s interesting to me is that different posters are going in two different directions with this question: Some are arguing that mixed-gender sleepovers are fine (or not) because they can (or can’t) happen without anything sexual being involved, while others are arguing that they’re fine (or not) because it’s fine (or not) for teenagers to be having sex.
Yes, as I understand it very close to 90% are chemical abortions.
I believe if you chose to get an abortion at an early stage of pregnancy, it would be the womans own decision, and wouldn’t necessarily involve anyone but the prescribing physician.
The teen birth rate is a bit hard to get at, its normally reported as an absolute number, and not per 1000. Best I could find was a report from 2012 saying 7 per 1000. Norwegians generally have children at a higher age than most nations though, most people feel you should have a bit of a career first.
The US apparently was 34/1000 in 2010. Like I said, I agree that lack of knowledge about BC is the main factor–our girls get pregnant more–but our different attitude toward abortion, focused in certain communities, is also a factor. If I absolutely knew my daughter could not, would not get an abortion no matter what, should she fall pregnant, I would be a LOT less open-minded about teen sex–even if I knew she had good access to BC and of a perfectly level-headed. Most of those 34/1000 girls having babies aren’t having them because they WANT to–they too likely think they should have a career or education first–it’s that they think they have no choice.
If we’re counting “day after pill”, in Spain not even that: it’s the pharmacist.
I believe its prescription only here. However, I am a man and well past my teens so I am not necessarily well informed on the subject.
Multikids in a common space sleeping area OK, hoping a orgy doesn’t start however.
Hmm, I wonder if my social circle would have been a gay social circle than a band geek social circle. But, I’m not sure an all gay teen sleepover would lead to sex. Even as a teen, it’s not like I’m going to be sexual with anyone simply because they share the same sexual orientation.
Seven years? That would have been fantastic! We had sex-ed for two weeks in the 10th grade, and much of it was talking about STDs and abstinence. Yes, we knew where babies came from. We certainly were not taught
I also question today if a teenage girl would recognize an early miscarriage. We certainly didn’t until much later.
The person that had a problem with our sleepovers was the chaperone when we tried to slither across no-man’s land in our sleeping bags.
I’m 34 this March, so I was in high school in the 21st century in the US. And it was similar here, too. Sex ed is just a small portion of the required one semester health class for the entirety of high school.
Still, we were taught some of those things. We weren’t taught about condoms, other than them not being perfect. We weren’t told much about the pill, other than there being a week when the pills were just sugar pills. We were specifically taught about pulling out (and told no, despite it actually being rather effective). We were specifically told that preseminal fluid can count. We weren’t told specifically that there were points in the cycle where you were less likely, but you could put it together from other stuff.
Still, this was taught the same way every other thing that kids forget over time. And since it was only for a few weeks, it was never reinforced.
In junior high, we did have a one day lesson, where you could ask questions. But that was about puberty more than sex.
It might have been a mixed circle. My teenage daughter has a very diverse group of friends–gay, straight, bi, pan, trans, etc and we live in a time and place that is very accepting of others. But she had a slumber party last month with 8 girls, two of whom were cuddling on the couch during the movie. I later learned that they were a couple & I felt a little uncomfortable that I may have facilitated a romantic encounter that their parents (whom I have never met) might object to.
That’s true and I’m certain that an LGBT circle of high school today would overlap with the band geek circle I was in back in high school. Back in high school, I also would have felt weird if two people would have been cuddling if I didn’t know they were a couple. People in my social circle certainly dated, but the sleepovers and hang out time were supposed to be separate from their dating lives.
No, seven years before they become teens. As I understand it they expand the curriculum when the kinds hit 13 or thereabouts. I did not go to school in the 21st century, but as I understand it the curriculum from six to thirteen is a lot of repetition of the basics.
“Keep sex safe” should be as reflexive as “Bears only look cuddly”
We had mixed-sex unsupervised sleep-over activities in the scouts when I was a teenager, many years ago. There was no sex.
Partly, I guess, because in my culture girls didn’t have sex with boys their own age: perhaps more supervision would have been required if the girls were “sleeping over” with 20+ youths.
But in any case there just wasn’t a lot of sex going on.
Teenage girls (like >18?) would only do sex with 20+ year old dudes? Which culture would that be?
No.
Also, hella no.
Also “contributing to the delinquency of a minor” hella no.
OK, then.
Teenagers having sex is “delinquency?” Teenagers are people. People (some of them anyway) like to have sex.
I don’t hear anyone saying "I wish adults in my life would have prevented me from experiencing consensual sexual interaction when I was a teenager. But many are apparently happy trying to prevent our offspring from similar experiences.
I assume most mixed gender sleepovers for teenagers are perfectly sex-free. I wouldn’t let fear of the exception put a halt to the practice.
Teenage girls over 18 are supposed to ask Mommy and Daddy for permission to spend the night at a friend’s now?
Tell it to the angry parents of one of the others kids (not yours) at the sleepover.
Tell it to the cops, when the complaint is filed.
Then, tell it to the Judge.
Because facilitating this would indeed constitute -
[ul]
[li]Statutory Rape (by the kid)[/li][li]Facilitating said statutory rape[/li][li]And Contributing.[/li][/ul]
Neither Judges nor Cops are at all sympathetic, nor understanding.