There have been many times when I got a bad initial impression of someone, gave them the benefit of the doubt and regretted it.
Snap judgements can be quite useful. They can allow you to avoid an interaction that would represent a risk of a waste. Whether it’s makign a snap judgements about someone on the first date or udring the first class of a course, you can avoid unpleasantness that way. Snap judgements can also be positive and show you who you should concentrate on or trust so that you don’t miss opportunities.
Yet one should be careful not to infer too much based on little data.
I’d like to know what snap judgements you tend to make about people and how you go about making them.
If someone has tattoos on their face and neck, I make a snap judgement that they are the kind of person who thought tattoos on their face and neck was a good idea.
If someone is out in public in their pajamas, I make a snap judgement that they are someone who thinks going out in your pajamas is a good idea.
That’s a good one, Piper. You’re reminded me of another snap judgement I make - I assume someone with “nuts” hanging from the back of their truck is not very confident in their masculinity.
I tend to reflexively disrespect an adult wearing clothes with a Disney character, Tweety Bird, or Betty Boop.
And, yes, Cat Whisperer, I usually pretend that people with Truck Nutz are citizens of another country altogether, along with those headlight eyelashes.
About a week ago I was in traffic behind someone with those truck nutz things, snapped a quick photo and forwarded it with “must have tiny dick” as the subject line. I assume the same of anyone in a Hummer or otherwise giant truck who has no obvious reason for owning a big off-road-wannabee type vehicle. Or a Harley. Same thing; either way, not very intelligent people.
Tats on neck, face or hands: has done time, or think that doing time is a cool thing.
Baptist church-goers = Tea-Party type sympathisers.
I would assume that about all people with a Confederate rebel flag regardless of what they kept it on. I don’t remember the last time I saw someone with a rebel flag but that’s what I’d assume.
I have a bad knee jerk reaction to all tattoos. The neck and face ones are obviously the worst but I would have to think a long time about going out with someone with even the simplest and most discrete one.
Voice is another one of mine. I am not just talking about accent or level of intelligence in what is said. Those are big deals too but I have a hard time listening to anyone that is shrill, whiny, precious, randomly emotional, or simply doesn’t project well. You don’t have to have a radio announcer voice but you should strive towards it. There is a long list of beautiful females that I would kick out of bed because their voice bothers me so much.
When it comes to looking for beaus online, atrocious spelling and grammar are an absolute turn off. You are obviously not the man for me.
(casual mistakes and the occasional txt speak is fine)
If I see someone sporting an Indians logo on their person, I definitely think more “highly” of them (yes even if it’s our racist mascot…) Or maybe that I’d like to be friends with them.
Whenever I see guys sagging their pants I think 'the lower they sag, the lower their IQ." I see guys with their entire asses hanging out every day. Great way to pick out the idiots from a crowd on first glance.
And I also agree with the facial/neck/hand tattoos, and I’m one who is a fan of tattoos (and has two myself.)
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[li]Guys who put words on their car are douches. I don’t mean bumper stickers, Imeanlikethis. Of course, I’ve never met a guy who put words on his car. But I assume any guy who would do that is a douche. Same for guys who put a Confederate flag (hillbilly douche), enormous custom tires, or neon anything on their cars.[/li][li] I assume people who are well-muscled are meatheads who won’t be able to carry on a coherent conversation unrelated to weightlifting, muscle cars, or sports.[/li][li] I assume people wearing cross jewelry are the unbearable (which is to say, evangelical and nosy) sort of Christian.[/li][li] People who wear hats indoors are clueless. They’re either hipster douches or redneck douches, depending on the type of hat (porkpie vs baseball cap, respectively). Winter hats are acceptable if they’re just stopping in for a few minutes, though.[/li][li] I assume anyone wearing velcro shoes has a double-digit IQ.[/li][li] People with visible bluetooth earphones are workaholics.[/li][li] I instantly pity any woman in a headscarf or burqa.[/li][li] Anybody with visible fraternity/sorority letters is an airhead.[/li][li] People with visible status symbols (ugg boots, abercrombie shirts, alienware laptops) have far more money than sense.[/li][li] Girls who go tanning are pitiable, and probably going to get a tumor before they’re 55.[/li][/ul]
Local car dealers do this, and I hate it. If I buy a car or truck from John Smith Chevrolet, I don’t want “John Smith Chevrolet [Chevy bow tie] [city and province]” emblazoned across the back window. John can put a small, discreet sticker on the back of the car, but nothing else. Especially not on the windows.
