First, one of my best friends and I end up in bed together. Best friends should not have sex. But when we first met, it was as potiential boyfriend/girlfriend and when that didn’t happen we became friends instead. Ever since we didn’t become lovers that first time, we have wondered what it would be like, so every time I’m single I have a mild crush on him and vice versa. We just haven’t been single at the same time until now. And get this, now we’ve both moved… in opposite directions. Although I know it will probably mean nothing to our friendship, I’m still a bit concerned. What if things get wierd? What if we actually want to pursue this and this long distance thing kills it?
Then I find out that my ex has a new love in his life. That sucks. My only consolation is that according to my friend she’s rather plain and boring. The fact that I just had sex with someone else really doesn’t make any difference. The fact that he has a new love before I do bugs me.
To top it all off, this piece of crap modem is annoying the hell out of me. At least I’m at my parents’ house so I’m not running up my own phone bill.
Maybe not if the “plain and boring” woman is reading, eh?
Yer pal,
Satan
I HAVE BEEN SMOKE-FREE FOR:
Two months, four weeks, 19 hours, 24 minutes and 8 seconds.
3592 cigarettes not smoked, saving $449.04.
Life saved: 1 week, 5 days, 11 hours, 20 minutes.
Hey, I’m a safety girl!
As for the plain and boring woman reading this, my bet is that she is so boring she wouldn’t find her way here in a million years.
soda, I hate to be a doomsayer, but a very similar thing happened to me. I became involved with a female friend. My relationship with the girl didn’t work out, and our friendship was poisoned afterward–weird, very awkward. I hope it goes better for you.
If you can pull this best friend sexual involvement off in a long-term realtionship, hon, you will be the most blest person on earth. Maybe you should at least explore the possiblity. And, if you are meant to be together, the long distance thing will work itself out.
Nothing, and I mean NOTHING is better than growing into love with your best friend.
Most of the really GOOD marriages I have seen have had this “you are my best friend” component.
I agree with Scotticher. One of my good friends and I slept together and we have now been happily dating for the last 8 months. After the first time we slept together I had no clue it would turn out so well, but believe me I am glad it did.
Consolances about your ex. It is always hard when an ex starts dating again before you do.
I hope you’ll work things out for the better. Having said that: I hate you. Allow me to explain. See, for almost a year now, all these Yankees and Canucks have looked up to me as some sort of demigod. They were so amazed by my English skills, it was uncanny. Of course, I loved all the attention, and took every opportunity I could get to rub the odd spelling and grammar error in, especially with the Americans. And I got away with it!
Up till now. Now, there’s this girl called soda. She’s from Sweden, people. I’m sure the majority of you hadn’t even noticed that, but this girl is SWEDISH.
soda, please tell me you’re an American exchange student temporarily residing in Lund, or I am in serious danger of losing my coveted “Most Eloquent Furrener” Award
Coldie, you do not hate me. You are simply very impressed with my language skills, and if I may be so bold, so am I. You see, everyone always have one talent extra-ordinaire, mine happens to be that I am absolutely, perfectly fluent in English. If you heard me speak, you would never guess that I wasn’t American. But if it makes you feel better, there’s a perfectly logical explanation for all this. I have lived in North America for two and a half years, and I major in English at the university. But hey, you can still be the demigod. As long as I can be the demigoddess :D.
As for things working out for the better, I believe they will. Before anyone starts to congratulate me on my new love, let me set you straight. We met today, had a beer and a laugh and both realized more or less simultaneously that we are friends. Period.
“Coldie, you do not hate me. You are simply very impressed with my language skills, and if I may be so bold, so am I. You see, everyone always have one talent extra-ordinaire, mine happens to be that I am absolutely, perfectly fluent in English.”
Everyone is plural, so you would want to use the plural habitual possessive; has.
What you are is absolutely, perfectly, very young. Why should you care what your old boyfriend is doing now?
Alright, I’m not flawless. Who is? If everyone is plural, why would I want to use has? They has? I think not.
I’m not very young. Maybe I’m younger than you are, but why does that mean I can’t care what my old boyfriend is doing now? I feel that if you are indifferent, there are two possible explanations. Either it’s been a very long time (it hasn’t in my case) or you were never really in love (I was).
Alright, I’m not flawless. Who is? If everyone is plural, why would I want to use has? They has? I think not.
I’m not very young. Maybe I’m younger than you are, but why does that mean I can’t care what my old boyfriend is doing
now? I feel that if you are indifferent, there are two possible explanations. Either it’s been a very long time (it hasn’t in my case) or you were never really in love (I was).
But everyone is a relative pronoun. They is a third person pronoun. You are right. English, as usual, makes no coherent sense.You would say; “Everyone has”, in the collective, as a declarative construction. You would say; Does everyone have (their notebooks?) as an interrogative. If you wanted to use more formal English and avoid the colloquial, you would say; “Do each of you have your notebooks?” It is counter-intuitive to the rules of your language. It is also dry crap that takes years to learn. It is easier to memorize it by rote than remember all the rules and exceptions.
I could just never understand that. Once someone has broken up with another, why care what they are doing now? I would put him out of my mind. I know, easier said than done, but why torture yourself?
She lived in the US. Well, at least I don’t sound like an American. I think people would say I sound like a Dutchman, if they really listened. I try to speak English though - and I’ve managed to convince enough people already. But in fairness, conversations in bars after 20 beers with loud music probably don’t count. Everybody sounds Scotish then
Really, I don’t know about my accent. Most of the time, people don’t think I’m Dutch, but they do hear I’m not 100% British either. Clearly some room for development there! It’s either that, or learn a Texan accent.
Oh, and Larrigan won’t appreciate the Limey references, people. He’s a Paddy!
