I’ve had a neighbor that I talk to quite often for about 7 years now. She’s always been very judgemental which is why I don’t call her a friend, mostly I just put up with her because her boy like to play with my son. But, she just did something that really pissed me off.
We have new neighbors, they are very nice people and they have kids the same age as mine. The kids all like each other and they get along very well together. My new neighbors are of Hispanic and Indian decent, so they have very dark skin.
After school today, the kids all wanted to play together at my house. I invited them in for a snack and gave them all a piece of chocolate cake. The Hispanic boy was chattering away and said " I like chocolate but some of my old friends don’t like it very much."
The bitchy neighbor looks right at me and says “Gee, that’s unfortunate.” with this weird look on her face. It took me a second to figure out what she was getting at.
I just don’t funking get this attitude ! Her kid like to play with the new kids, my kids like them, they are a very nice family. What the fuck is her problem ? She said this right in front of all the kids too !
Privately, I told her that I didn’t share her views and I would appricate it if she wouldn’t say stuff like that in front of my kids. Her response was “You’ll change your mind when your daughter decides to data one of them.”
I’d much rather have my daughter date one of them then someone like you ! Bitch !
Dogzilla The kid was just talking the way kids do sometimes and he was talking about the food, the neighboe was saying that it’s unfortunate the the kids friends don’t like chocolate implying that the kid, himself was chocolate.
Just to spell it out for the incredibly-stupid-bigotted-comment impaired, the woman is making (or attempting to make) a joke equating the Hispanic boy with “chocolate” based on the colour of his skin.
I’ve always been fascinated w/that sub-species where they assume since (my) skin is pale that of course, I’d share those views.
I have some interview questions I use to ferret out that sort of thing, too.
Be advised there’s also certain other ‘in phrases’ to watch for:
“inner city”
“low income”
for two examples.
I remember once saying I was sending my son to the YWCA summer camp program, and the comment was made “I thought that was for inner city children”. I replied “Which word doesn’t apply?”
And I agree w/your assesment, what I would find it loathsome if my child brought home a bigot.
I mean that as a good thing. I didn’t ever interact with any ethnic groups until I was in my teens. My son is growing up side by side with hispanic kids. Perhaps he will never stop and think “OMG! Did I really say THAT!?”
Actually at his school he is the ethnic minority;)
Hey, my daughter’s dating one of them! He’s the sweetest boy she’s ever hung out with, a gentleman who brings me flowers, too, when he comes to pick her up.
I had to read the neighor’s comment over two or three times before I got the implication. Such stupidity. Sad.
My son is Korean. My mother was talking to a girlfriend of hers. She didn’t understand why we adopted a non-white child.
“But think when he gets older - who will he marry?”
This was a strange comment coming from a woman who’s oldest child is married to someone handicapped. Who’s second child is married to the raving bitch from hell. And who’s third child is in his mid 30s and hasn’t had a long term relationship with a woman in 10 years (and doesn’t appear to be gay).
I imagine my son’s dating life will be a little more difficult because of his race. I don’t hold illusions. But it isn’t like interracial marriages are unknown - or their aren’t any Asians in the Twin Cities.
Hell, my sister married one of “them.” I hope she never had to endure any kinds of bigoted remarks from bastards who think they’re better people than my BIL or niece just because their skin is a different color. For that matter, I hope my niece never has to endure shit like that. I know my BIL has had to deal with it, but he’s pretty laid back and good-natured.
Damn, I feel such inner turmoil, being half Filipino and half multi-European. I don’t know how I live with myself. Hey, maybe I’m like one of those Hershey Hugs.
My gramma’s racist. It’s weird cause I never thought of her that way, but her argument wound up being exactly the same as your neighbours… black people may be fine, but would you want your sister marrying one?
Fortunatly she lives on the other side of the planet so she never has to meet my half-Filipino girlfriend.
