What to do? (Relationship thing)

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Well… if any of you have read my previous threads yah this is about the same guy I really really like. My roomie.

Update on what’s been happening: Well I still haven’t told him. I honestly don’t know how. I think I have this problem with openly talking to guys about my feelings because I could never do that with my father, hell I could never tell my dad anything. I still can’t. I also found out that there is a lust factor there. On both of our sides. So that’s a plus in my favor. Also some friends have said he is confused about how he feels about me. Personally I think he knows somewhat but is afraid to act on it having been hurt badly. He hasn’t been in a serious relationship since that one ended that I know of though he has considered some girls for dating.

The thing is… I just don’t know how to tell him how I feel. Honestly I am thinking I will be writing a letter and emailing it to him as my mind keeps coming back to that and starts revising drafts for letters. The email will allow me plenty of revise time and the knowledge that I won’t just take the letter back and burn it, or just not mail it. If I slipped it under his door it would be gonzo within an hour. I’m home more than he is as our schedules are different so I could easily get the letter back from his room. Mailing it… I probably couldn’t get it back. He has the mailbox key so he’d get it first.

So… I don’t know what to do… can anyone give suggestions on what to write? (I have a vague idea but any other ideas might help in any manner of ways)

Thanks…

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“Nothing says ‘I Love You’ more than the gift of a spatula!” -UHF

Sorry, I’ve never been good with communicating my feelings as well, but I just wish you the best!

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No, don’t email him and don’t send him a letter, that’s just too childish. I’d take him to lunch, dinner, whatever you can arrange and just tell him you have these confusing feelings about him…that way if he isn’t experiencing the same thing then you can still save face because you haven’t actually admitted the feelings, only admitted being confused by feelings. A difference.

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I agree. Also, IMHO, it shouldn’t be a conversation. Say that you need to tell him something and he should just listen. (It’s ok to have written down what you want to say before hand, and to have rehearsed it) Don’t let him respond to it right away. Tell him what’s what, then leave.

Then the ball will be in his court. He can take a day or so, sort out what HE feels.

I may be in the minority here, but I think that’s the way to go.