my ex has ever-so-kindly given me her engagement ring back now that we’re broken up. so now what? selling it seems sorta callous, but i don’t think recycling it if i ever get engaged again is appropriate. and hanging on to it forever just seems pathetic, especially when it belonged to a woman i’m more or less happy to be rid of.
so what do i do? is it really crazy to give it to another girl if i get engaged again? that just seems wrong for some reason, but i’ve heard of it being done.
truth is i’ll probably sell it, i just want to know if i’m being a heartless bastard.
I’d go see my nearest pawn broker myself. Thats what I did with my old engagement rring. I got just a fraction of what it was worth too… but hey its all part of the learning process. Good riddens to heartrache; You might even feel better if you got shitfaced and threw if in the nearest lake! At least then you might have an interesting story to tell your buddies.
personally, i’d feed it to my neighbor’s cat… (its an old battle)
i have however heard of people of pursuing less satisfying courses like having the stone reset into less personal jewelry (tie pin, bracelet, necklace…)
Pawn shops won’t give you much money. Probably between 5-10 cents on the dollar. If it’s a great stone, you could have it reset. If it’s not an expensive stone, i’d pawn that sucker and go on the prowl with the cash.
Take it back to where you bought it and see if they’ll give you any trade-in allowance on something else. I know (from personal experience) that there are some places that will refund the entire value if it was purchased less than 1 year prior.
I say pawn that sucker or sell it or have it reset or give it to a female relative. I know the last one might be a lil odd. But if you don’t mind seein it around, give it away. I’ve never known a woman in my family to refuse jewelry. Even used.
DON’T go to a pawn shop, you’ll only get scrap value for the metal, and not much better on the stone. Whether or not to give it to another woman is totally up to you and her. SHE might not like a “used” engagement ring, since your first engagement turned out badly. However, having the stone(s) reset into a new ring for her might work. But I think that you might want to see if the shop you bought it from will give you credit on another piece of jewelry, as Rysdad suggested.
Ebay, perhaps?
If I found out that I was the second woman my fiance had given my engagement ring to, I’d kill him.
When my fiance and I broke up I told her to keep the ring. I bought it for her, and it was hers. If she wasn’t going to marry me, I could care less what she does with it. But fact of the matter, I never bought it for me. Although I really wanted to shove it down her friggin’ throat. :mad:
Well, If you’re looking more for catharsis than a refund, you could always take it to Hawaii and drop it in a lava stream, a la’ Lord of the Rings. Plus, you get to reward yourself with a vacation for your effort.
Ranchoth
(Oh, come on. I can’t be the ONLY one here who’s ever wanted to drop something in a volcano. 
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Please don’t. We’ve had enough tourists fall into the volcano.
I third Rysdad. If that doesn’t work out, or if they don’t give you as much as you want, go with Guin’s eBay suggestion.
If you end up posting it on eBay, make sure you know the ring’s 4 Cs (color, cut, clarity, and carat weight). People who know jewelry will want to know. Look on whatever papers your ring came with for the info; if it didn’t come with it, you might consider getting it appraised. I’m not sure if appraisals are free, but even if they’re not, a high-enough bid on eBay would make up for a small appraisal fee.
Sorry about your broken engagement, by the way.
ebay it is; i hadn’t even thought of that. i’ll definately have to get it appraised since i know none of the specifics about the ring.
i guess i can put the money towards the cd-burner i want. or maybe i’ll take the money and go to a strip club. that would be fitting.
thanks all!
Ebay does sound good. However, I give another vote for making it over. My friend’s brother had an engagement broken off. He remade the ring into a pendant for his mother. She knew the story behind the stone, of course, but was delighted that he went to the trouble to have it made it into something for her.