I just turned 30 this month. And trust me, I am going to spare myself the drama. I am far to old for this crap.
Get. Out. NOW.
I’m glad you asked and I think you got some good advice.
I once dated a guy for several weeks, maybe months, before I realized he was a drunk. I think he would drink in his spare time, not drink or not drink much when with me, and then resume again when he went home. When I realized what was up, I felt kinda stupid. I got disentangled with him pretty quickly when I came to realize that I don’t believe he was ever sober.
Who knows what the sober guy was like- I never met him.
It probably is an over reaction. Still, I’d rather someone who posts here be careful than be a ‘Lifetime’ movie event. (“Holy Smoke! I posted when she did and she looked nothing like Nancy McKeon!!!”)
Look, I may be crap at advice, but I’m really sh-t at picking flower arrangements. She seems to have a weakness for him when the best thing for both of them right now seems to be distance.
Sure I’m a miserble SOB, but while I’m playing Og, maybe they both need some heart-ache & solitude to lose their respective rose-colored glasses to grow into the better people they were meant to be? (Now is where you re-read that miserable SOB playing Og part, FYI.)
Only thing I can add is that I hope you took the piece of paper with your contact info from his wallet when you left.
Going back to the beginning here, but I’d like to address this.
You can’t let yourself have “feelings” about someone that you’ve known for a week via internet and met one time. It’s okay to be excited and all, but you have to keep reminding yourself that you don’t even know this person. Tell yourself that they’re not “feelings,” but “potential feelings.” He’s not “a great guy,” but a “potentially great guy.”
The reality of internet dating is that a lot of seemingly interesting people turn into not-great first dates, and a lot of seemingly great first dates turn into…nothing you want to be involved with. Keep your emotional distance, at least for a while.
Your story provides a great example why.
Alcohol will not make someone into something they are not. Quite the contrary. It acts as an amplifier as to who they really are. It shuts down all the filters and removes the masks they wear in public. A violent drunk is a violent person.
The advise given so far and the decision you have made is sound. Run, do not walk to the nearest exit.
Nope. I didn’t. Towards the end of dropping him off things got awkward, so I just wanted to get out of there. If need be, I can always change my number.
Very True.
I think when you get to know someone through email or instant message, you read the words the way you want to interpret. So generally everyone is a “great guy” if you want them to be.
She meaning me? No weakness here. I’m done with him.
I think when you get to know someone through email or instant message, you interpret the words to say what you want them to say. So generally everyone is a “great guy” if you want them to be. I think this makes more sense then the above, but I missed the edit window.
My mistake.
So, to be strictly fair, you now should avoid all bars/restaurants you’ve discussed with me, change all your modes of contact that I know about, not buy gas within two towns of NJ, and chant ‘serenity now’. 
You could expand your social circle and drive down for a Boston dopefest.
You’re not an idiot at all! It takes a lot of practice and wisdom to listen to that inner voice. And you should be proud of yourself for being so compassionate and non-judgmental. Seriously, while there is a danger of being a doormat, you sound like a really kind and loving individual.
As for this guy, I definitely recommend not getting into a relationship. His statement that this was a ‘blip’ does not match up with the rest of the provided information.
With regards to alcohol revealing one’s true personality, I’d say it reveals hidden parts of somebody’s personality. I think it’s an overstatement to say that the intoxicated self is one’s true self. It does let a lot of monsters out of their cages though, that’s for sure.
If there’s some way of being friends with this guy, then I’d say that’s ok, but, as it stands now though, I think it’s best for you to run away and fast.
I’ll do it if you will 
We can be drunken emergency buddies!
I was actually thinking if it was possible to be his friend at all. Maybe someone to talk to because it seems that he has alot on his mind or alot that he is going through that he might need someone to talk to. Though after talking to a few friends, including FourPaws, while I would like to help him and show him there is a better way to be living his life… I can’t put myself in danger for somone else.
I have to put myself and my safety first… I just hope he finds a way to better himself on his own.
I would love to… though I think right now driving down, what would most likely be alone, wouldn’t be a good idea for me right now. Maybe once I get to know a few of you better and more comfortable with it… I would be totally up for it. 
Done and done. Although I suspect that if you get that late night call, it won’t be because I’m drunk and fell through a plate glass window, but because I got hit by a car or pissed off someone’s jealous boyfriend.