No.
A college BF broke up with me because he decided he’d look better with a blonde.
I once dumped a woman after our second date because of the way she ate.
She was one of those people that carefully applies layer after layer of makeup so it looks like she isn’t really wearing makeup. Her lips had no fewer than 7 different layers of sealant, gloss, and different shades of lipstick. I’m sure it takes hours to apply, and I appreciated that she wanted to look her best for our date, but watching her try and eat a salad without messing up her lipstick was frightening and hilarious at the same time. I couldn’t imagine myself going out again with someone who would eat like that in public. It was like watching a goldfish eat fish flakes.
My high school girlfriend kicked me to the curb when I asked her for 90 cents at McDonalds.
“I’m not comfortable loaning you money,” is how it started, continued with “I don’t really want to go to the movies, maybe you should take me home” after eating, and a “its not working out…we need to break up” phone call the next day. 14 months shot to hell, all b/c she came from a rich family (her mother was positive I was dating her b/c of her money) and I was from a family of more modest means. The asking for the 90 cents, it turns out, proved in her mind that I was after the money - this was all spelled out for me at the ten year class reunion.
In the interest of full disclosure, I have stopped seeing women due to:
- terrible flatulance (hers, not mine).
- finger nails gnawed down to the quick.
- an “I love you” dropped on me after a second date.
- a dislike of dogs.
- too conservative in bed.
- too wild in bed (biggest…mistake…EVER, letting her go).
- poorly applied lipstick.
Dude, you’re giving me a run for my money.
(And yes, No. 5 was a terrible mistake!)
I can see the girl’s point that a person who can lie without batting an eyelash may be less worthy of her trust.
But I think it also depends on what other things have transpired between the two of you. If you’ve never given her a reason not to trust you, I think she’s being unreasonable (and maybe had trust problems with others before you).
Also, I generally use more skepticism dealing with sales personnel than I do with SOs past and present.
E.g., I’m in the process of buying a new car. I had a salesman tell me that he was making less than $100 on the proposed deal. Since I was able to beat his price by more than $100, I’m not sure he was telling me the truth. And I don’t feel especially bad that I told him “I’ll be back”, even though I knew I wouldn’t be.
As to the OP: a couple of times, I have decided not to continue pursuing a woman because of her voice and/or accent. I’ve never actually ended an ongoing relationship for this reason – I simply stopped calling after a few dates.
I’m not proud of this. The only defense I can muster is that I live in Baltimore.
IMHO, (I know, wrong forum) if you think you are going to find a person who goes through every single day of their lives without ever lying, you are sadly, sadly mistaken. And if you think you’ve actually found that person, guess what: what you’ve actually found is a really really good liar, because they’d have to be in order to appear to live up to your ridiculous standard.
And also, holding this lofty standard makes you a hypocrite, because I doubt there is a person alive who is 100.000000% of the time honest. Go, on, be honest with yourself, and admit that you lie, you have lied, and you will lie again.
“…not up to the level of honesty I expect from my life partners…”
Have a nice, lonely life. Or alternatively, have a nice life with that total con artist.
A lot of guys consider haggling over electornics, cars, and major appliances to be a blood sport to which the rules of honesty do not apply. I would not necessarily break up with a guy for extreme haggling. I wouldn’t want to watch, but that’s another topic.
My sister was once dumped in high school because his friends (girls) convinced him that she didn’t love him. If she had really loved him, she would have been jealous that he had girls for friends. Of course if she had been jealous, that would probably have been bad, too. Basically, she wasn’t part of their clique.
My best friend once dumped a woman because of her conservative taste in pizzas (she liked ham & pineapple, and nothing else, apparently).
This same friend once dumped a woman because she was incapable of reading a street map.
Max 
My mother divorced my father because he bought her a toaster for their anniversary. The old one had broken and instead of getting it fixed (this was back in the Mesozoic before small appliances were considered a disposable commodity) he decided a new toaster would be a cool gift.
To be fair to Mom, this was the final straw after three years of cumulative jerkdom. While the divorce was in process, she met his girlfriend…
Is this thread a lost episode of Seinfeld? I can honestly see everyone sitting at the coffee shop having this discussion.
My girlfriend was a little… wacko. She would threaten to kill herself over the tiniest matters. It got to the point where she was so overly “depressing” that i couldn’t stand it, so i broke up with her. this may not seem silly, but after talking with some of her friends i found out that she only said things like that around me. Apperantly, she was your average woman around other people, but around me she was Mrs. Depressed. So it’s not really a silly breakup, more of a silly relationship, i guess. Figures, i get all the crazy ones…
And the OP had the option of not lying and bargain to get the same price. He’s a liar and, worst, thinks it’s perfectly OK to lie in order to get some advantage. I generally don’t like dealing with people like that, and as a consequence, though I probably wouldn’t dump someone over this (too dependant on circumstances for me too know how I would react) the person would get a “liar, not reliable” black mark.
Note that I wouldn’t necessarily take any lie as seriously, but I’ve an issue with lies used to gain a personnal advantage, and a particularily big issue when the advantage is a monetary gain.
Re: The Circuit City Thing. Whether or not such a lie is immoral depends on the rules of the game. If you and your SO have an agreement that you will always be honest about where you are when the two of you are not together, you have established rules. If you lie about where you have been spending your time, it is immoral.
Haggling with a commissioned sales person at an electronics store is played by different rules. They will mislead you to get a sale and you can mislead them to gain an advantage as well. This can certainly be taken too far but I don’t think that the OP crossed the line. When dealing with others, I’ll be as honest as they are.
Haj
A few years ago, my red-haired, patchouli-scented paramour refused to see me anymore because I disrespected the Confederacy. As in the “War of Northern Aggression”. Incredible sexual heat (I refer to her as “the Succubus”), but crazy.
I once broke up with a guy becausef the way he breathed (how can breathing be that noisy!) annoyed the tits off me. I was 18 at the time though.
This isn’t quite a breakup story, but it’s close.
Freshman year of college, I was desperately, madly in love with my friend Chris. (Well, I thought I was at the time.) We’d flirt like crazy; we even slept in the same bed once, but he never once made a play for me. After freshman year, he dropped out of school, and I got over him. He came back for a visit junior year, and I found myself sitting in his car with him, talking things over.
Apparently, Chris had always been in love with me. The reason he’d never acted on his strong, deeply-held, passionate feelings was that he thought I wasn’t cool enough to be accepted by his frat brothers. Yes, his love for me was strong, but his fear of his frat brothers was stronger. Moved by his admission, I said, bosom heaving…
“I think that is the shallowest thing I’ve ever heard.”
And that was the end of that, pretty much.
One girlfriend from Denver broke up with me because I told her a dirty joke she felt was offensive to Catholics and gays. She was already a card-carrying member of the offenderati, who could find racism, sexism or bigotry behind even the most innocous statement or action. I’m a picky eater, but she felt it was because my tastes were “bigoted;” shun a food that is associated with a certain ethnic group, and it’s essentially a hate crime against that group in general.
Those still in Denver: her voice can be heard on many of the voice mail systems in the Front Range, and on many radio commercials. I try not to listen to the radio or make business calls when I’m visiting Denver.
I think people are overlooking a very important part of the OP’s story. Sure, he lied. But he lied to Circuit City! Circuit City! There’s nothing immoral about lying to Circuit City. Hell, anything up to and including arson is permissable when dealing with Circuit City.
And if it’s Best Buy, you get a pass on chemical weapons and designer viruses.
Seriously, though, I agree with hajario. Commerce is a game of competitive dishonesty. No major retailer (and precious few of the minor ones) is going to be any more honest than is absolutely required by law. I think it’s only fair to let the customer play by the same rules.
:dubious: Um, did you buy that? How was that ever a reason, even a bad one, for breaking up with someone?