What's the secret to keeping sex exciting and not just a routine to go through?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Wait a second Manda Jo…you mean the sex in those Cosmo ads is a gimmick trying to get me to buy their magazine? I’m crushed. :slight_smile:

Whilst over in England I read alot of my friends magazines and the Brits ( you know who you are) have an entirely different and less puckered view of sex.

One article was commentaries of what women did to spice up their sex lives. The only one that stuck out ( pardon the pun) in my mind ( that wasn’t ’ have sex with the cabbie-ish or have sex with identical twin men) was one woman challenged her boyfriend to make love to her at all the places named on the (UK version) of the Monopoly board in London. (They are named after real streets and such, apparantly.)

I bought a bunch of magazines home with me and if I (PTP) come across any hints to spice up the collective love lives, I’ll keep you posted. :slight_smile:

The early bird gets the worm but it’s the second mouse that
gets the cheese.

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Have an affair.

This can be especially exciting if you live high up in an apartment complex with balconies and your SO comes home at unpredictable times.

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A little spice is all it takes to keep a great sex life flourishing and to have some fun in the process. There is nothing at all wrong with experimenting with different things because after years of sex the same old way with the same old person not matter how much you love him, it’s going to get dull and there are SO MANY INTERESTING TOYS OUT THERE! There’s even extensions he can wear with all sorts of great things on them and some that even vibrate [that is sooo cool!]! Lighting can make it soo exotic, like just a couple of those screw in Christmas bulbs in red, green or blue [yellow is too bright] or in multi colors and if you attach them to a dimmer, that gets even cooler because you can dim the light level down. Satin sheets are not all they are said to be and while I find them pretty, I don’t like the stiff, hard feel of them. I don’t get into that spraying whipped cream or anything foodlike down there on him or me though I like scented oils applied. The nose plays an important part in everything and changing scents can be as exotic as hell.

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Pickle Relish.

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I am all for variances in sex, the use of toys, bondage, fetishes. But I feel that the motivation to do these things should be more than, “sex is getting old.”

I could see myself getting tired of having sex. But I could never get tired of making love.

See, call me nutty (ALL: “You’re nutty!”), but I, while loving sex, love love a lot more. And while I’ve had good and bad sex, nothing can replace the feeling I’ve had whilest making love.

And I can see me being with one person for the rest of my sexual days without worry if outside of the bedroom (or elevators), which is where we would be spending a huge amount of time, we would have true love. Because the rest would be a joy, and I could never grow tired of that.

I’m looking for that person. Maybe she is right around the corner…

Yer pal,
Satan

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Well, here I go, agreeing with Satan again. Love is always part of the answer.

Give her your undivided attention at least once, for at least an hour, every single day of your lives. Hear what she is saying, figure out what she is not saying. <strike> While you are at it, stare at her tits, too. </strike> Make sure she knows what your life is like away from her. She doesn’t need to know every detail from work, but if you are stressing about a deadline, or an audit, or some such thing you should let her know that you have problems. Take time, or make time to talk about your self.

Stay physically close, when you are doing things near each other, even things that are different, like reading different books. <strike>Bite her everywhere she isn’t wearing clothes.</strike> Don’t just put up with the things she likes to do, try really hard to find some of them that you can get interested in. Share the most mundane things, too. Brush her teeth. Try to get “your space” and “her space” to overlap as easily as you can. <strike> Look up her dress, when she leans over.</strike>

Remember stuff. Really remember it. Remind yourself, leave notes, pay someone to call you the week before, or send yourself reminders by delayed means. Don’t let yourself forget. If you are absolutely sure that those little occasions are not all that important, kick yourself in the ass a few times, and then ** start remembering stuff! ** When it comes to anniversary presents, size does not matter, timing, and personal significance do. Cook the exact same dish that you were served on the night you proposed. <strike> Sniff her now and then, even in if it is in public.</strike>

Feed her with your fingers. Feed her with your mind. Feed her with your heart. <strike> Lick her face, and growl, once and a while. </strike>

<P ALIGN=“CENTER”>Tris</P>

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Hey Trisk… wanna marry me? :slight_smile:

I opened the door, and look who I found. Damn I’m good

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Would I have to move to Canada?

Thanks for the most encouraging, if hyperbolic, response I have ever gotten on the internet!

<P ALIGN=“CENTER”>Tris</P>

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I highly recommend vasectomies. (Now that all the men have run screaming out, we can tawk.)

Truly. It’s great. No more groping for condoms, no worrying whether I took the pill. Spontaneous sex anytime!

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AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
(Grabbing private parts and running screaming out of here.)

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I’ve discussed this topic before, So I’ll keep it short (no pun intended) this time:

The best sexual organ is the mind.

The big three: Foreplay, duringplay, and afterplay (which usually leads into foreplay again)

The other big three: Hugs, kisses, and teasing.

Like any other social event, the two things that are guareented to keep sex interesting are imagination and communication.

Just my humble opinion.

You say “cheesy” like that’s a BAD thing.

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Wuss.