What's your worst character defect?

I understand what you’re saying. :slight_smile:

I’m short sighted. :smiley:

I’m not available*. :wink:
*well I am - I just thought I’d practice my flirting!

Do I have to narrow it down to just one? Sheesh…

I guess my biggest character flaw is that I trust people too much. It doesn’t take much to get me to trust someone and I invariably end up being hurt when that trust is betrayed.

If we’re allowed to mention additional flaws, I’d have to say my procrastination, the fact that I am very judgemental (things are always coming back to bite me in the ass with that one) and that I worry entirely too much about everything.

Worst character defect? Easy – I can’t bear fools. Or, in other words, I have little patience for stupid people, idiots, and Republicans. :slight_smile:

Haven’t done a thing about it. Don’t see the point, really; how can I fight ignorance by ignoringit?

Oh my temper. Dear Lord my temper.

Admittedly, I am much, much better after years of working on it. I’m a passionate person so I don’t want to kill my ability to feel sweeping emotions at an instant. But I had to stop the impulse to go for people’s throats at an instant.

Now I’ve managed to get it to something decent. If its a forgiveable offence, I blow up and shriek and then I’m done and am apologizing in seconds. (Minutes tops.) Most of the time i can even skip the dramatics, control the urge to explode and say something along the lines of “Will you please rephrase that/not do that/ etc.” (In the last few years I’ve even managed to say that without grtting my teeth or sounding like I’m making an offer you can’t refuse. Though usually I am.) So a short fuse for the littler stuff.

Big stuff though. Looooong fuse. Slow and cold and quiet and ugly. I’m a tough, tough bitch and its is very evident when I’m actually angry. It’s not even something I can call anger at that point. I think of it as “battle mode” and there are just targets. I try to avoid this. it doesn’t make me happy. It doesn’t make me much of anything, I shut down and just operate rather than feel. Scary and bad. But I’ll do it if the situation is dangerous enough.

Procrastination, impatience, rush to judgement, disturbingly low self-esteem, insecurity, occasional interruption, too damn nice/unassertive, easily bored, inability to comprehend complex directions, and lack of tact.

I haven’t been formally diagnosed with AD/HD, but I’ve got 80% of the symptoms. I think it’s relatively mild, but still quite evident.

Sounds an awful lot like me, I get angry really quick and just go off on people. I’m still young though so it hasn’t gotten too serious yet. Although my history teacher assuming that I had an older boyfriend right after I got through my near suicidal bout of depression over my ex (that I’m still not over) and me just repeatedly saying “F*** you” to his face wasn’t too great. I’ll just go off and scream and rant and yell and attack when I get mad. Or hurt myself.

I guess that’s my major character defect, I overeact. It’s mainly due to insecurity and low self esteem. I overdramatize because I don’t want to act how I really feel because I’m scared that people won’t like me/won’t accept it/ will think differently of me. So instead I over dramatize or I bottle it all up and end up hurting myself. Emotionally and physically. After leaving bruises from a ruler on my forearm a friend of mine would take away any and all rulers whenever I even got near one. No one figured out the candle thing though, you’d be amazed how easy it is to hide light burns on your hands.

Kitty

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Very funny glee.

Seriously, this IS a real problem for me. Given the choice between a guy next door and a guy a thousand miles away,I’ll usually fall hard for the guy I can’t be with. I know it’s going to hurt me and I do it anyways. At first I thought it was because I do have a fear of being tied down but I’ve come to realize I must be a masochist. Guys far away,guys with girlfriends/fiancees/wives…::sigh::.

I don’t think so, because I’m only that way when I’m sober. When I’m drunk I become extremely confident and assertive.

I don’t want to seem like I’m jumping on you here, JBirdman12, but that’s a little like saying that the only time someone doesn’t have a drug problem is when they’re high. I think what Qadgop is suggesting is that your drinking may be contributing to your underlying problems, even if the symptoms go away when you are intoxicated. For myself, I’ve certainly never heard of anyone who honestly believed that getting drunk was a solution to their problems … except for alcoholics, that is.

Take it from someone who is taking his own problems one day at a time: you can get help that doesn’t come out of a bottle and will last a lot longer than through the night.

Best wishes.

I’m the most passive-aggressive person I know. If you piss me off I won’t react there and then - I’ll bottle it up and then be subtly mean later in really stupid little ways. For example; if I pour two drinks, the other person will get a little less than me. Really, that pathetic. The plus side of this is that I appear very laid back.

I procrastinate too. This is better than it used to be, but i’m still terrible. Feh.

Fran

Hatred and anger.

— G. Raven

Moodiness.

There are times I feel like the happiest person in the world. I’ll bop along happily for a while, and then slowly start to realize there is a little black cloud over my head. Once the little black cloud engulfs me, I don’t want to get out of bed. The feeling of impending doom is crushing, and I’m sure I’m a real pleasure to be around at those times.
I don’t like taking my anger and sadness out on other people, and I try really hard not to, but sometimes I can’t help it.

Rose

I didn’t mean to imply that I thought drinking was an answer to my problems. It’s a crutch, really. Perhaps I misunderstood Qadgop’s post.

I have a very real prejudice against ugly people. Now, this includes people who smell awful, people who look hideous, and people who are ugly on the inside.

I always prefer talking to an attractive, good smelling, nice person rather than a slobby, greasy, pit-stained, asshole.

I watch a lot of movies, and I hate looking at ugly people in movies -such as John Tuturro (although he is a pretty dang good actor).

Vanity is not a problem of mine - I am well aware that I am not the most attractive person in the world and that I have many physical faults. I don’t care. I just don’t want to look at other peoples’ ugliness.

Lack of self confidence…I feel at times that I am inferior to everybody and I feel surprise when people say they notice me or they like my posts…

Keith

I have to pick one? No way. But here’s a list of the top ten (numbered for convenience only):

  1. Sloth
  2. I give up too easily. I think: “I’ll never do it,” “it can’t work,” “there’s no way I’m good enough…” and then I never even try.
  3. Paranoia. If I’m in a crowded room, and someone - anyone - laughs, my gut reaction is “he’s laughing at me.”
  4. Procrastination. Why put off 'til tomorrow what you can put off until next month?
  5. Boundary testing. I always have this urge to test things to extinction.
  6. Stubbornness. I hate giving up, I hate giving in, I hate following rules. (I will admit I’m wrong, though.)
  7. I’m very judgemental. I’m always judging people too harshly, and my gut reaction is usually negative - just like delphica and Cranky described.
  8. I panic easily.
  9. Too imaginative - I spend a lot of time daydreaming, and I torture myself with imaginary scenarios (like the before-the-dentist syndrome).
  10. Phobic as hell.

I’m not assertive at all.

I procrastinate with nearly everything, to the point of my own downfall.

I have an incredibly difficult time expressing my emotions.

Sometimes I think I’m too selfless.

I’m egotistical and arrogant.

Funny how procrastination is so common - I have that problem too. And I think a symptom of that must be posting to the SDMB from work, because it’s an excuse to avoid working.

I’m also stubborn, and have low self esteem.

I would love to change the procrastination and low self esteem things, but I like being stubborn (aka being confident in my own opinion :slight_smile: )

Although I am somewhat cocky, I am also fairly sarcastic and this can make me seem far more egocentric than I actualy am. I’ve got a lot better at refraining from saying what is on my mind over the years.