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In the morning…and always with my SO. Hey, you gotta have someone wash your back.
Female American. I generally shower in the morning. I don’t understand people who shower at night - awful, awful hair! Also, don’t you ever sweat in your sleep? Ick. I do have a female friend who showers at night, however.
However, now that I go to the gym almost every day, I’ll admit I’ve been getting up, getting dressed, going to my first class, going to the gym around noon, then showering, then doing the rest of my day, then doing it all the same the next day. So these days I seem to shower around noon.
J, however, works a sometimes-dirty job. He showers in the morning and when he gets home from work around 4:30 before he goes to his other job. If I did this, my skin would fall off.
Nobody’s mentioned the likelihood that this is a cultural thing. When my wife and I visited Asia, it seemed the norm to bathe in the evening. This perspective may be where your fiancee is coming from.
Myself: Mornings. Always.
I much prefer morning. Even if I wait until my hair is dry at night, if I go to sleep on it freshly washed it is much more difficult to handle in the morning. And if I go to sleep on it wet I wake up looking like the bride of Frankenstein.
Am I the only one here who just can’t do daily showers a lot of the time? My skin and hair dry out incredibly if I do. During the summer I will at least hop in every day to rinse off, but if I soap up more than every couple of days, it’s bad. And I HATE HATE HATE lotion. I promise you guys I don’t stink, and if something like a date comes up I will go ahead and take an extra shower. I just don’t do that on a daily basis.
Both morning and night, by preference. If I’m really pressed for time in the morning, I’ll skip it then, but I hate it. A quick shower relaxes me in the evening, and wakes me up in the morning. I’ve always done this, and my whole family is the same. Of course, we’re from Louisiana; it’s easy to get really whiffy on a summer day there, as well as feeling sticky and oily from sweat. Not showering at night would be icky, and showering in the morning at least gives you a head start.
I nearly always shower in the evening, just before bed. Ain’t no way I’m waking up any earlier than I absolutely have to – I get little enough sleep as it is.
Sleeping on wet hair has never caused me any undue hair problems. Which is surprising, considering that the long, straight mop of baby-fine stuff is generally quite uncooperative.
I take one in the morning, usually. The only time that I shower at night is right after a haircut to get rid of all the loose hairs.
Stray hairs on your pillow is not a pleasant feeling.
Evening shower person here.
I usually come home somewhat grimy at the end of the day, thanks to my job :rolleyes: There’s no way I can justify to myself that it’s OK to crawl into bed like that, whther I’m by myself or not.
It also helps me unwind.
As for my hair – well, I’ve got the baby-fine type that dries in a snap. Plus I wear my hair up at work anyway, so any evidence of bed-head is safely concealed 
I’m a morning person. It used to be a “hair thing” when I was young and vain (still am… gosh darn I have great hair) but now it mainly is habit, and I don’t want my pillow wet. I would let my hair dry naturally, but that takes a few hours and a blow dryer doesn’t work miracles for my hair (american male).
I knew it was Japanese custom to shower first, then bathe at night/evening at home or in public baths with old people. I wasn’t aware that it was also custom in China, but it kinda makes sense… I wonder what Kim Jong Il is doing this late at night…
BTW, (to the OP) is this shower problem a possible route to a break up?
I’ve switched back and forth between evening and morning showers a few times. When I was in public school, it was evenings. When I entered college, it switched to mornings. When I began working for the airforce, it switched to evenings again. Now I’m back in college and I shower in the mornings.
I think the main factor for me is how early I have to get up. If I have to get up really early, I prefer to shower at night and sleep the extra 10-15 minutes in the morning. Also military haircuts make it hard to get bedhead, if not impossible.
If I can get up later, I prefer to use the shower to help wake me up and get rid of the really bad bedhead I get when my hair is longer.
A shower can either relax or wake me up depending on where I set the temperature dial. Warmer is more relaxing.
Generally, when I feel I need it. This can be pretty much any time at all, there is no consistency to it. Since I’m home constantly, my schedule is free-form, and that includes my bathing schedule.
I also do not bathe every day, 365 days a year. It is unnecessary, and absolutely brutal on skin and hair. Sometimes I bathe 2-3 times a day (hot summers, no AC, working in the garden, whatever), others I might not for two days running.
However, I pretty much always bathe if I’m going out anywhere more interesting than the grocery store, and if sex is a possiblilty, definitely. I’m kinda fussy about that, actually, and will almost never have sex when I’m longer than a few hours from a shower.
Actually, I mentioned the possibility in my original post [“When I told her that maybe it was just a Chinese thing and that most Americans shower in the morning, she refused to accept the possibility”]. Also, Harmonix stated that, “As far as I know it is a custom that asian people shower at night.”
Oh, I wouldn’t think so. Love conquers all, doncha know. At worst, I love her enough to take showers at night if it truly bothers her. At best, she loves me enough to not make me do it. Besides, now that I’ve shown her this thread, she acknowledges that maybe it is not a universal rule that everybody MUST shower in the evening before going to bed.
It wasn’t so much that my not showering before bed disgusted her; it was simply that she had been raised to believe that it was the “right” thing to do and was shocked that I didn’t agree.
Barry
Morning, mainly for hair reasons (if I shower before bed, I have to shower again in the morning to get my hair in order), but also because I feel kinda icky later in the day if I don’t start off clean.
My wife, OTOH, usually showers in the evening, but sometimes leaves it until morning if she’s sleepy. She does insist on showering before sex, though.
i shower when i need to.
that is, i’ll shower in the morning most days, but if i’m going out that evening i’ll shower just before i leave the house instead.
if i’m going to the gym i shower when i get back.
if i’m cold and wet, i’ll shower when i get in the house to warm up.
if i have cramps or back pain i’ll have a hot shower or bath before i go to bed to make me feel better.
if i shower more than once a day my hair is yucky; too dry and fluffy and fly away, less than once a day and it’s greasy and horrible.
what i don’t understand is people bathing in the morning. irishfella doesn’t have a shower, and baths before he leaves the house.
to me, baths are for lying in and relaxing, not to freshen up and start the day with.
Morning. Mainly to wake myself up. But I also feel gross after sleeping, so I have to take a shower once I get up.
But in the Summer, I normally shower both in the morning and the evening.
By the way, I’m Chinese. My dad also showers in the morning. But my mum doesn’t. I’ve stayed with my relatives before, and I know they all take showers in the evening.
Night. Several reasons-- I take very long showers, 20-30 minutes at least. Gotta shampoo, put on conditioner, let the conditioner sit while I scrub, shave, whatever, then rinse, then cool-water rinse it all. I simply cannot and will not get my butt out of bed in the morning early enough to do that all and get to class on time.
I also have very thick, wavy, damaged-all-to-hell-from-dying hair. If I washed it every day it would fall out and come back to strangle me in my sleep. It takes hours to dry, and it’s only shoulder-length. It actually looks better after a day of not washing.
As for the “bedhead” problem, I have found a solution that is actually the way my hair ends up looking best. Wash and condition at night before I go to bed. I use a leave-in Vitamin E serum goo-stuff on my hair that makes it a lot shinier and softer, so I put that in, comb it through, and comb my wet hair all back into a bun and sleep on it like that. When I take it down in the morning, the upper parts are dry and very smooth and silky, the ends are still wet but they air-dry pretty fast and curl up all adorably. I couldn’t do this if I showered in the morning.
So, like whiterabbit, I don’t shower every day. If I feel dirty, I’ll shower. If there’s something special coming up, I’ll shower. If I need to relax, I’ll shower. Otherwise, it’s just a big waste of time when I could be doing something more interesting.
Another Night-Showerer here.
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I don’t like the feeling of going to bed dirty, especially when my sheets are clean.
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My hair takes a very long time to dry. I don’t have bed-head problems because I put it up in a bun after the shower.
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I oversleep by 10-15 minutes every day, wake up, bolt out of bed yelling ‘Sh*t! I’m late!’ and run around like a crazy person. If I didn’t shower at night, I would go to work dirty probably 3 days a week. I know myself too well to start a morning shower routine.
Third night showerer in a row. I don’t like going to bed dirty, I don’t sweat in my sleep, and I’d rather not waste the time in the morning.
Two exceptions - I always shower after I do yard work or something equally sweaty. When I travel I often shower in the morning when the room is too hot. Anyhow, they’re not my sheets.
Love evening showers- makes for good, clean fun in bed and saves loads of time in the morning. I have long straight hair so style is not an issue- it looks the same 24 hours a day, no matter my shower schedule.
For those of you talking about “sleeping in your own filth all night”- don’t you change your damned sheets? Eww. Nasty! I shower at night and go to sleep in a fresh, clean bed. Rotate them sheets, people!