Here I am staring at this blank grey box, my fingers just lightly resting on the keyboard, and I don’t know why I even started this thread. I’m not the type to complain and bitch and moan to people about my problems, which has to be why I’m typing this right now. I’ve always been the one people come too, always the one who has the shoulder to lean on. And now, when I really need someone, there’s no one to call, no one who would come over, no one to lend a shoulder to me. Geez this sounds depressing. As tears are running down my cheek I’m still trying to avoid complaining about why I’m so sad, pissed, and angry at the world. I’m trying to convince myself it’s because it’s ‘that time of the month’ or I’m just feeling sorry for myself. But really that’s not the case and I know it. And here in the other room I have a wonderful husband who loves me, and will listen. But I so wish I had a female friend I could talk too. One that wouldn’t start talking about herself after we said our Hello’s and really listen and give advice. Where do you find friends like that? Or is it just me? I feel so guilty complaining to friends. I feel like they don’t want to hear about my crap because they have enough of their own. I mean sometimes I feel like that when they’re complaining to me.
Well, I feel a little better now and this grey box isn’t looking so empty anymore. I was just about to apologize for this thread but that seems stupid. Guess I’ll leave it at that…
Wow, I’m sorry to hear you are so lonely. I just wanted to post and say that and I hope things look up for you soon. Those friends are definately hard to find, but they are out there.
I know how you feel, I’m quite in the same boat. I think I’m familiar with the people of whom you speak-- People who they’re there for you, but when you turn to them for comfort they don’t seem to be listening, just waiting for their turn to gripe.
If you’d ever like someone with which to talk, my e-mail and screen name are in my profile. There are people out there who are willing to listen, but it’s just a matter of figuring out where to look. I’m afraid I can’t help you find people IRL (I’m having enough trouble on my own ,) but I think you’ll find that the SMDB is full of people who are caring and willing to offer a virtual shoulder to cry on.
You have to talk to your friends about your problems before they can realize that you have problems, too. It’s easy when someone lets you do all the talking, to get carried away and forget that person has problems too. I hope I’m not that way. I certainly try not to be. I have tons of friends, which I hope that I’m as good a friend to them as many of them are to me. Please feel free to email me at any time, sometimes just typing things out on the screen and knowing someone is reading your thoughts helps.
They’re out there. Really. But in the meantime…feel free to talk. We’ll listen. And I know the offer’s been made already, but if you’re looking for an ear, my email’s in my profile. {{dreamer}}
Oh, dreamer, I’m sorry that you feel so bad.
If you need a sympathetic ear, my e-mail is in my profile.
I wouldn’t mind, even if you just wanted to whine or rant. I’m a good friend, honest.
Thank You so much for your kind words. It’s nice to know there are people out there who really care and would even offer their friendship to a total stranger, I feel honored
ultress I did as you suggested. I called an old friend this morning and just told her how I was feeling. We talked for quite a while back and forth about our lives and she ended the conversation by saying that she always thought my life was so great and I was always so happy, which made her feel like she was a total screw up. She said it was good to hear about my problems and that I should call her more often just to talk. Thank you for your advice .
cercaria - my prayers are with you and I hope your test comes out negative.
I’m coming in late to this, but I just want to let you know I wish I’d known sooner, and you are also welcome to e-mail me if you need to. I’ve cried on enough friends’ shoulders that you’re welcome to use mine, and no, I won’t consider you a burden.
,) but I think you’ll find that the SMDB is full of people who are caring and willing to offer a virtual shoulder to cry on.