I am a divorced man, age 51. Since my seperation and divorce 12 years ago, I have not dated at all. I got custody of my children, twin girls and a boy, who were 6 years old (girls) and 8 years old (boy). I devoted all of my time to raising my kids first and my job second. Now they are 18 and 20. I would not have had it any other way.
My question is this. Since it has been so long since I have been in the “main stream”, where do I find a woman to date? It should be noted that I do not do bars, nightclubs, and do not frequent “street corners”, etc. I am not necessarily looking to “get laid”, at least not at first. A little companionship would really be nice. I also don’t do “chat rooms”.
I do not consider myself any great prize, which may be part of my problem, but I believe that what it really boils down to is that I am afraid of rejection. Somehow, 2 failed marriages makes me feel this way. It has been so long since I dated, I don’t even know how to ask, even if I met somebody to ask.
Adding to my problem, is that I smoke, have bad teeth, don’t make a lot of money, etc. About the only real thing I could offer is love and companionship. I have a whole lot of love to give, if I met the right woman. I’m not too picky, but I don’t really care for “plump” women and I don’t like boozers.
Am I too hard on myself? As I said about my situation, I would not have had it any other way, since I have been married 2 times. My first marriage produced 2 kids, a girl and a boy. My daughter is 29 and I have not seen her or my son (25) since they were 12 and 7.
So, where do I go to look and how do I change my outlook on ME?