I have been recently informed by a reliable source that many men prefer giving pleasure to receiving it. Really. He was serious.
Now I know a lot of men give lip service to this idea (no pun intended) but I have always found this trait more common in women. A lot more common.
So the question is:
If 75% of your sexual experiences would result in only your orgasm or only your partner’s orgasm, which would you choose?
Partner’s, without a doubt.
The look on the other person’s face at climax is one of the best things I’ve ever experienced. 
Well, about 75% of my sexual experiences have only resulted in my partner’s orgasm. Not as much fun as both of us making it, but still more than the worth the time and effort.
Well, about 90% of my sexual experiences have resulted in my partner’s orgasm, but… the partner was me.
Har har. OK, seriously, when I was younger, say, 25 or so, I’d have chosen MY orgasms. I don’t mean that if you asked me that’s what I’d have said, but that’s what I’d have done if it were up to me. But these days I’m dating a woman who is amazingly multi-orgasmic, and I’m starting to enjoy it like fireworks. We’ll go for two or three hours, and she’ll have ten or fifteen orgasms (she tells me later), and I won’t have one at all because the whole situation is SO HOT that I can’t even think about coming myself because I’m so enraptured watching her. Eventually she starts to look tired so I go ahead and let myself so we can have that peaking, bursting, “OK, stop HERE” moment, but I swear I could watch her get off all night.
Hmm, I suspect I’m drunk enough to tell stories that really ought to remain personal.
Having only engaged in oral sex up to this point, I would definitely say my partners. Lack of experience means I don’t last all that long, so me getting off is no big deal. But I absolutely LOVED making my ex-girlfriend climax. I coulnd’t get enough of it. There’s a bit of the machismo there, that it takes a good man to make a woman cum, and from all the comedians I’ve listened to, apparently, there aren’t many of us out there. Plus, being a romantic, the thought of being able to please my woman in such a way is my main focus. Like I said, I don’t have much experience, but my lack thereof makes me want to strive even harder to make sure that every time I try and get my girl off, I succeed. So far, I’m batting 100 
So I’d have to have sex four times as often in order to come at the same rate?
::does some quick calculations::
Yeah, I’d still have time to do other things.
Partner’s, definitely, although I only give lip service to that answer.
I too would prefer my partner to have an orgasm alone 75% of the time rather than the other way around. Two reasons, one self-preservation, the other (hopefully) selfless. (1). As you can probably attest, women don’t like it when men get off and they don’t! I don’t think a relationship would last long if I was profoundly disappointing my partner three out of four times. (2) My goal in life is to make others happy, and that probably goes double for sex. It’s my job to make my partner happy, not to pursue self-fulfillment.
Heh heh.
That’s because you’ve never seen me.
Boyfriend claims it’s not that bad, it’s actually sexy, blahdiblahdiblah, but I know I look like that beast in the
“Shock the Monkey” video 
Definitely my partner.
If she’s not enjoying it, I can’t enjoy it. Does this mean I’m being selfish?
What other things?
I actually kept count during a period of really wild sex (the things I admit to on the internet…) For that time, the 75% figure wasn’t too far off.
I’d choose my partener. I’m only 22, but I love nothing more then to please my partner first, not only because it turns me on so, but it makes the rest of the job so much easier 
Geez, I wonder just how graphic one could be on this subject without getting banned?
I really does make me happy to pleasure another sexually. But I’m afraid that if I am offered the choice to orgasm myself I am simply not going to pass it up. So, I guess I need more clarification on what, precisely, “sexual experiences” means in the OP.
If only 25% of intercourse (including oral performed on me) resulted in orgasm, I wouldn’t be very pleased. However, if I had to pass this onto a female partner (that is, one or the other)???.. hmm, if I felt confident that we would be together forever then I think I would accept the 25%.
But if I felt that we wouldn’t be together forever, no, sorry, I wouldn’t give up 75% of my orgasms to please another.
HOWEVER, if sexual experiences was taken to be anything sexual at all, that is, if part of that 75% was me performing cunnilingus or something, without receiving, then hey, no problem at all; restated: If I can achieve orgasm 100% of the time even if I only attempt 25% of the time, yep, no problem at all.
Hmm, not that easy a question. At least, not if we’re talking about an either/or situation. It’s more important to me that she orgasm than that I do, but (like erislover) I’m not sure I could pass up my own opportunity. A sexual encounter isn’t complete unless she climaxes, but it’s not complete unless I do too.
I honestly get a huge kick out of bringing my partner to orgasm (speaking empirically from old data; there isn’t anybody at the moment 
), and am fairly good at it. Many’s the time I’ve left a woman unable to speak coherently or move, while I’d get up and massage a sore jaw and sprained tongue – I could recall a “birthday present” I gave to a former GF where I asked her at dinner, in my most innocent voice, to pick a number. She said 20, having no idea what I had in mind. I showed her what I meant later that night. It’s one of my favorite things in the world to deliver pleasure to a woman who’s actually willing to put up with me.
However, I don’t know if I could give up 75% of my own climaxes for the sake of pleasing somebody else. Maybe I could, but it’s not an easy thing for me to imagine. I would have no problem with a 4:1 orgasm ratio per sexual encounter, since that’s normal for me anyway. But one of the reasons I was unable to turn one particular friendship into a romance was my inability to get off with said friend, as I almost always outlasted her ability to continue.
I’m a really typical guy… It’s a huge ego boost to give my partner an orgasm. That ego boost is as much a part of sex for me as an orgasm, and sex without orgasm still feels pretty damn good, so…
Another vote for “partner”.
I would much rather my wife have an orgasm and I go without than the other way around. And when only one of us climaxes, nine times out of ten it’s her. I’m one of those guys with too much stamina; even masturbating takes a minimum of a half hour.
And I loooove going down on her. I almost always do, whereas the reverse is maybe one time in three.
Maybe I’m a typical guy, in terms of your survey, maybe not… but I find that when a guy has a choice between gratifying his body and gratifying his ego, the ego almost always comes first.
I love pleasing my woman. I would definitely want her to be pleased, and would certainly make the sacrifice suggested in the OP.
Sex, to me, is more about love and intimacy than orgasm. We’re close when we’re intimate – that’s what I’ve sought all my life.
Okaaaaayy…I see I can brag as much as I want to…
Well, another vote for my partner here. Unlike some of the guys posting here, I will frankly admit to NOT having a lot of stamina…
sort of…
If I am on top, with the bed rockin’, I don’t last too long at all. (Hey, I’m safe in my masculinity; I can admit to that.) It’s usually less than a minute when I really “get going”…sigh…
So my fiance and I have adapted, so to speak. Just last night, I was able to bring her to orgasm just by licking and sucking on her nipples, while, ummm, manipulating her. I, also, LOVE to give her oral pleasure and she is also very willing to receive it. That’s one orgasm. She also loves to give head while playing with herself. That’s two orgasms (that one usually is VERY intense and can leave her shaking). After much cuddling while she recovers, she will usually get on top…and in that position, I CAN last a long time. That will usually be orgasm three. After that, I’m free to rock the bed as long and hard as I can. Sometimes that’s orgasm four.
A good ratio, I think…I’m happy and so is she.
I love that this is being a typical guy! Remember when typical guys didn’t know where the clitoris was? (well, I don’t, but I have grown up in these enlightened times) : )