Where were you when your daughter was raped, you gold-digging bitch?

You may have heard of this case down here, a severely mentally handicapped woman shows up pregnant. She’s so disabled she can’t communicate who raped her. She has the mind of a toddler.

A guardian was appointed, the baby was delivered via C-section, and DNA tests showed that the father of the baby was the 75 year old husband of the home’s director. The wife who ran the home was also arrested, because the woman, known as JDS, was not given pre-natal care until she was 5 months old (although in fairness, it’s possible they didn’t know she was pregnant until that time.)

Now guess who has come crawling out of the woodwork like a big black smelly millipede? The mother of JDS. She hasn’t seen her daughter since she was 2, her parental rights were terminated in 1995, but now, she wants to take “care” of her daughter.

With help, of course, from a successful turn out of a lawsuit against the state.

Bitch. I hope the judge laughs his ass off as he kicks you out of his courtroom. You abandoned your severely disabled daughter ages ago, and now, with the promise of a hefty court settlement, you want her back. You may have been 14 when she was born, but she’s in her 20s now, and you haven’t seen her since she was two.

It’s a little late now to be maternal. Let those who really care about your daugther’s welfare stay in charge, and you can keep playing the lottery in hopes of your big break. You’re not going to get it by using your daughter.

JDS is the mentally handicapped woman. (took me a bit to sort that out)

But other wise.
Yeah that woman is a total bitch. Maybe the judge will sing the Kyles Mom song but change Kyle to JDS.

JDS is the rape victim.

GDS is the incubator that bore her. I will not sully the term “mother” by using it to refer to her.

Well, as much as it looks like she’s money grubbing, the mother had the child when she was 14. 14 and responsible don’t often fit into the same sentance. It’s possible she just blocked that part of her life out of her mind. Upon hearing about the rape of her daughter, the mother, now in her thirties, had enough of a jolt to force some form of maternal instinct to the surface. It’s really sad that I actually consider this as less of a possibility, but let’s hold out hope for the human race before jumping to conclusions…

Nah, the real moral highground is for bystanders.

I hope you’re not looking for a big break with this ivylass.

Oh, that’ll give you closure. Won’t make a blind bit of difference to the kid’s life, but it will leave your sonorous goat-kicking cry of “Bitch” echoing in its Solomonic splendour.

Or have you been concerned about the oversight of guardianship for some time?

Hawthorne, I have no idea what you’re trying to say. This story has been ongoing for some time in the state, and I’ve been following it.

Are you saying because I’m not directly involved I have no right to be disgusted at this woman’s sudden appearance in her daughter’s life now that there’s money to be made?

Yes, she was 14 when the child was born. But her parental rights were terminated only eight years ago. She’s made no contact with her daughter since she was two, and I find her sudden resurfacing very suspicious, especially when it’s followed by her plan to file a lawsuit.

While I agree that this woman is despicable, I really don’t think bringing up her race was appropriate.

Millipedes are, if I recall correctly, black. I think ivylass was not making a reference to the race of the mother, but simply comparing her to a crawly insect. I did not read that sentence myself as having any racial references.

Hey Hawthorne, are you insane? If you don’t at least suspect that this is a case of “let me pretend that I want to take care of my daughter, who I abandoned ages ago, so I can get closer to the money”, then you must be from Mars (or Australia).

Wha-huh?

No, Thurgood, I was not referring to her race. I saw some foot long black millipedes at the Science Center once that made my skin crawl off my bones. IIRC, if you step on a millipede, it has a rather noxious odor.

That’s the analogy I was trying to draw. Race has absolutely nothing to do with this.

My thoughts too.

I have no criticism at all for a 14 year old girl who couldn’t cope with a severely handicapped child. It looks like she struggled for two years before passing her on to (what she probably thought was) better care.

The fact that she was pregnant at 14 suggests she may not have come from the most supportive background. I’m twice her age - with great support - yet the thought of coping with a child with severe disabilities is terrifying. Switch back to when I was 14 - there was NO WAY I would have coped.

The mother of the handicapped lady has suffered a multiple tragedy: first, becoming pregnant so long, secondly, having a handicapped baby, thirdly, having to give her up, fourthly, having a similar tragedy happen to this child years later.

Shouldn’t she be commended for now trying to care for her daughter and granddaughter, instead of turning her back?

I agree that Thurgood’s remark is foolish.

My comment was not to dispute the idea that the mother is a gold digger. Maybe she is. I’m inclined to hold off putting the boots into then-14 year-old mothers of intellectually sub-normal kids, but I readily concede they’re no better than the rest of us.

I was just a little piqued by the tone of the OP. Ok, she hasn’t abandoned a child recently. But how does she get to stand with the righteous? As a mere observer of the case and the system, why does she get to clothe herself in the indignation due those who’ve been busting their hump for the forgotten? Until this ugly fruit of the neglect of the polity rotted its seed onto the newspapers, did she give a second’s thought to the issue? My point was that ivylass appeared to be a bystander, and that that seems to me to afford little in the way of pissing-on-from-a-great-height rights.

[sub]Maybe getting the email yesterday chiding me for not making the do-gooder meeting this month had something to do with it.[/sub]

Is she trying to care for her daughter and granddaughter or tying to care for the the huge settlement she hopes to win?

Ah, hawthorne. Let me explain.

It was long explained in this case, in past news stories, that this woman had no guardian. One should have been appointed for her when she was 18, but DCF dropped the ball, as the judge rightly scolded them for.

Since she had been in homes since she was a small child, I thought that her parents were no longer in the picture. That her disabilities were too much for them, and that they were long gone.

Yes, I am a bystander in this case. But that does not forbid me the right to be outraged that after years, GDS pops up, simultaneously looking to file a lawsuit and get her daughter back. This case got wide publicity in Florida, but beside the point, I do not think one can forget one has a child. If someone has a cite to prove me wrong on that, I will stand corrected.

But, it seems very fishy to me that the top priorities on GDS’s list are not her daughter’s and granddaughter’s welfare, but both the welfare (perhaps) and the lawsuit. To me, it seems she sees an opportunity and is trying to take advantage of her daughter, who has been through enough grief in her life.

Boy. The Florida DCF sure does do some stellar work, don’t they?

Actually a milliopede is not an insect. It’s a … um … diplopod. Meaning it has 2 legs per segment. An insect has only six legs in total attached at the middle section, the thorax.

Here’s a picture, if you like.

Carry on.

I’m sorry, but I’m not seeing the evilness of the birth mother that some of you apparently are. And I love the hyperbole the article uses. A 14 year old CHILD delivers a severely disabled baby (cerebral palsy, autism & retardation) and when she places this child (that she’s CLEARLY not equipped to care for herself) into a home, it’s called “abandonment”. Right. I’m sure every teenager who’s had a baby and given it up for adoption and gone on about their lives would love to know that they “abandoned” their children. That’s such utter crap I can’t even express how pissed off it makes me.

Ok, so the child has been in a home under the “care” of a state-licensed “caregiver” for all these years. The woman claims she was never notified that her parental rights were being terminated. She also says she never voluntarily gave up her parental rights.

Now she has learned that her child was RAPED and she has a granddaughter. She and her sister want to remove the child and the grandchild from the “care” of the state, and care for them themselves, in their own home – NOT a task to be taken lightly.

The owner of the state-licensed home has been arrested on a charge of neglect of a mentally defective person and the husband in in jail on a charge of sexual battery of a mentally defective person. But you’re not here ranting about the horrifying treatment this poor child received in the hands of these monsters. No, you’re here ranting because the biological mother learns of her child’s fate and wants to do the right thing by her and her grandchild.

I guess you’ll try to say, “too little, too late,” huh? Good g-d, I’m just stunned. Or next you’ll call her a gold-digging bitch because she’s supposedly only suing for her parental rights so she can get money. Nevermind that her attorney has probably advised her that she should seek some kind of damages so that she at least has some means to support this child once she’s back in her care. Nevermind that she will be taking on a huge burden in bringing this now grown child into her home, along with a baby. Nevermind that she was 14 FREAKING YEARS OLD when she made these MAJOR decisions that are only now coming back to haunt her.

Where the FUCK is the anger and vitriol that should be aimed at the sick FUCK who raped this defenseless child in the first place?!!

Jesus!

You used “black” and “smelly” to describe someone you find contemptable. We’re all adults here, and capable of reading between the lines. I think it’s pretty obvious to most people that you were making racist remarks. You can cut her down for her behavior all you want, but if you’re going to make an issue out of her race, I think most will agree you’ve crossed the line.

You’re kidding, right?

She was clearing talking about a stinky black bug, not race. Would you have claimed white racism if she had said “slimey pink worm”? What if she had said a mean yellow jacket? Asian racism? Disgusting green grasshopper? People who drink skunk beer then spin around too fast racism?

The fact that you picked out racism out of that remark is a lot more telling on you.