I’m not making a value judgement on exact specifics of birth control. I am just saying, that in my specific case, I have an aversion to using my genetic material to create any sort of fertilized egg, and sort of new combination of DNA using my genetics. I do not want to create a new set of genes, even if it doesn’t result in implanting and pregnancy. Why is irrelevant.
So I’m looking at options for birth control that prevent my sperm cells from ever reaching an egg, not just ensuring that it never develops into a pregnancy.
So, the methods:
Condoms - any sort of barrier methods obviously prevent the sperm from reaching the egg, so this suits my need. Also, they suck when using it in non-dangerous (potential STI) situations. I would like to move beyond this method.
Non-hormonal IUDs. Copper IUDs. In the US, apparently this is only one particular brand, Paraguard. My understanding is that the copper creates a hostile environment that reliably kill or otherwise disable sperm before they can potentially find the egg. I’m not sure if the copper IUD has any sort of way of preventing implantation or preventing pregnancy other than disabling the sperm. Does the 99%+ effectiveness rate come strictly from ensuring the sperm never get to the egg? If so, this may meet my requirements.
Vasectomy: This is probably the ideal option, since it’s something I can do myself and not ask my partner to do. It’s reliable and requires no effort once it’s done. However, it’s permanent. I’m very likely at peace with its permanent nature, but I’m kind of going through a weird transition period in my life right now, and I’m not quite 100% sure about that, so I hesitate to jump right to that option.
Related: I know you can pay a service to freeze your sperm for IVF in the event that you want to use it later to conceive. And that vasectomy reversal is effective in some cases. But… if the testes are still producing sperm, they’re just cut off from the seminal fluid, why can’t we go retrieve sperm from inside the testes, or the surrounding tubing for IVF? At least what I’ve read hasn’t mentioned this as an option.
Various forms of hormonal birth control: This is mostly what I don’t know about. I know there are multiple types of hormonal birth control. Multiple pills, shots that last a long time, patches, hormonal IUDs.
My understanding is that hormonal birth control has several mechanisms of action. It makes the various parts where the sperm have to travel a more hostile environment for sperm. It reduces the chances that an egg is “dropped” to be available for fertilization. And if sperm fertilizes an egg anyway, it hardens the uterus walls so that the newly fertilized egg can’t implant in the wall and basically gets ejected/discarded. Is that correct?
Do all hormonal birth control medications work this same way? Are there some that reliably prevent fertilization in the first place and do not rely on ensuring that fertilized eggs do not lead to pregnancy after fertilization?
What degree of effectiveness does each effect have on preventing pregnancy? By this I mean, does the hostile uterine environment prevent 50% of pregnancies? 90%? Is it common for sperm to make it to eggs, fertilize them, but ultimately not result in pregnancy? Are some types of medications better at preventing fertilization in the first place?
As you can see, this concerns me because while I understand that most people don’t care, I don’t like the result of a fertilized egg being discarded, because I would strongly prefer not to fertilize an egg. So if some hormonal birth control reliably prevents fertilization, that’s an option. But if some significant fraction of the time, it permits an egg to fertilize, and then only works by discarding that egg, that’s not okay for me.
Other methods - I’m not familiar with other methods (other than less reliable ones like timing cycles and pulling out), but I’m open to be educated on them.
So please, educate me about birth control and specifically the differences between birth control that prevents fertilization and birth control that sometimes allows fertilization but prevents pregnancy.