Well, we all know that those insensitive, shallow white men only pick those women that are the model of the soceity at large as evidenced in the fashion magazines, sheesh, no wonder there are some many black men with obese white women, they wouldn’t be able to get laid otherwise.
So, are some of you calling my mom fat? cuz I’ll have to take you out to the back alley!
HubZilla, just out of curiosity, what exactly are you hoping to learn by asking this question? Are you trying to date overweight white women and getting dissed because you’re not black? Thinking of starting a dating service? Writing a book?
And why wasn’t your question addressed to actual black male dopers, to find out if they do find overweight white women more attractive and if so, why? I mean, if you’re curious about how people of different backgrounds think, it might help to actually talk to the people you’re curious about, instead of just talking about them to other people like yourself.
If you really want answer, why not take to the streets? When you see a black man and a white woman together, just ask him what he prefers and why. If she’s heavy, ask if he’s only dating her because he can’t do better, or if he truly prefers her to others. It’s a perfectly innocent question, right? You have every right to be curious about these things – it’s your business to know. It’s about time someone had the courage to address these matters.
I agree with the “you’re noticing it more” theory. It’s like buying a car; after you buy it, it seems like there’s nothing but that type of car on the road. And in closing, I just want to say that we could learn a lot from dogs and cats. Do they care if the object of their affection is the same breed as they? No, they do not; they just hump away.
- A card-carrying white woman (I got cards, baby; Safeway Club card, debit card, airmiles card, Club Zed card, Visa card, movie rental cards,…)
See, I think this is usually a perfectly good arguement. But I have to say, in all honesty, with absolute certainty, that in my anecdotal experience, I HAVEN’T seen “just as many” asian men with white women, or white men with black women, or black women with asian men, or any other mixed combination you can come up with. (And I attended a large university and have never lived in what you’d call a rural area). In fact, in all of my years I don’t think I’ve EVER seen a black woman with an asian man. I’m not saying couples like this don’t exist, I’m sure there’s lots out there. However I don’t think it’s a “bad thing” to say that, in general, there may be racial pairings that are more common due to cultural perceptions. (I would also guess that monstro has it pretty close).
[disclaimer]And not that I even care why way or the other.[/disclaimer]
Derrrr… care why ONE WAY OR THE OTHER…
Black men often tend to like larger sized women of any color. Black men are usually too busy getting harassed by pigs and followed around stores to read Vogue and see who they should date. Black men do tend larger penises in general and Asian men do have smaller ones in general and Moderators do have small penises and no life other than to ban people out of small penis/ugly woman frustration.
Hey, I get to be the first one to bid TuboDoucheBag goodbye! :wally
This is ridiculous. In a perfect world, we would ALL be…well, PERFECT! But…what IS perfect? Therein lies the rub. PERFECT is different to each individual person. Thank the good God.
I do not believe that black persons are any different than white persons. They are bright/dim, smart/dumb, fit/slugs, nice/nasty…and on and on.
Race has nothng to do with attraction. Nor does it have anything to do with intelligence, character, sexual attraction, altruism or the “hug” factor.
Who cares what color your skin is? We are all the same inside.
Sheesh.
Scotti
I was going to start a “What’s with Polish guys and Bolivian chicks?” thread, but I guess now is not the time…
While I have no complaints whatsoever about my girlfriend’s “rack” (YOUR words!! :)), it was not the deciding factor.
Truth be told, I’ve never been able to laugh so hard and have so much fun with a girl before. Silly, huh? 
[sub]So she’s a total babe. Don’t hold that against her.[/sub] 
This debate, in one form or another, has been going on for decades, or at least since the Internet brought people closer. It is always the same. Black people do this … and white people do that and a very verbal hostile (similar to biggirl) group rises up to vehemently say that there are no differences and no they don’t though the majority see differences and yes they do or it would not be brought up over and over again.
There are differences between black and white and the way they feel about many things, even though there is common ground in many other areas. I worked in a large black community and there were a lot of salt and pepper couples there and the white women always got fat even if they did not start out that way. Only when the woman was Asian with a black guy did they not swell up like a balloon.
It just is! Screaming that it is not is a bunch of crap because enough of it exists for people to question it. It seems to me that most of the black women I know, upon marriage also stopped being slim and trim and turned into blimps within a few years of marriage. How about that?
I found it worth noting, when working at the clinic, that among black guys who cheated on their hefty wives, they almost always went out with a skinny woman or a thinner one at least. I noticed that the compliment to black guys here went unnoticed by the ravers I.E.; good looking, muscular black men. Compliments to blacks in any discussion such as this usually get trampled in the mud in the savage rush to call the ‘whites’ liars or worse.
What the he----???
hehehe Blatantly false.
Giraffe said: “If you really want answer, why not take to the streets? When you see a black man and a white woman together, just ask him what he prefers and why. If she’s heavy, ask if he’s only dating her because he can’t do better, or if he truly prefers her to others. It’s a perfectly innocent question, right? You have every right to be curious about these things – it’s your business to know. It’s about time someone had the courage to address these matters.”
Amen.
HubZilla, hon, please take Giraffe’s advice. Take it to the source. Just be up front and very specific with your questions to the brothers. For example, structure your questions like so:
“Why is it that you are with a whale? Is it because she reminds you of your mother?”
Oh, and once you’ve done so, come back and tell us what you’ve found out. I’m really curious to see what kind of answers you’re going to get.
Otherwise, I’ve found this to be a most fascinating and hilarious thread. [giggle] I honestly don’t understand what this obsession with size, be it “whale” or “stick,” is all about, but okay. Whatever.
Carry on.
[sub]celestina tiptoes out of this thread as quickly as she can. As the door closes behind her, loud guffaws can be heard reverberating in the hallways of cyberspace. But of course anything as unladylike and unrefined as that could not be coming from her.[/sub]
As a card-carrying Jew of Guamanian descent, my opinion is that this thread not only invited trouble, but actually placed a full-color two page spread in USA Today that says,“Will Pay Big Bucks For Trouble-Respond at The Straight Dope Message Board For The Opportunity Of A Lifetime!!”
I don’t think anyone will mind if I close this down.