After watching Science of Sex on TLC last night (in which they alluded to studies that showed women can actually control the amount of ejaculate they lose when they stand up after intercourse*), and rereading Cecil’s column on the hymen in which he poo-poos Desmond Morris’ theory of why women have orgasms, (to keep them lying down, giggling while the sperm do their thing) I have some questions:
*Can they actually do it? How?
If so, why don’t they? (And, more importantly, why do they always not do it on my side of the bed?
Is the incidence of women who can achieve orgasm increasing? There used to be quite a lot of talk about those who couldn’t, but I don’t hear much about that anymore. Did they just shut up? Did men become more considerate lovers? (I personally never met a woman who absolutely could not orgasm, but a few who damn sure had to work at it). Be gentle, ladies.
Get a big enough bed (a California King is nice) and you don’t have to worry about the wet spot. You leave the wet spot in the middle, the you go to one side of the bed and she goes to the other side and no one has to deal with the wet spot until it longer is wet.
Granted, you sorta eliminate the cuddling afterward, but sacrafices need to be made.
So, the wet spot is the woman’s fault.
I see, I see - I imagine with that attitude it’s not a problem you encounter all that frequently.
Sorry, mg, you’ve been checking the wrong reference books. In “The Handbook of Complete and Utter Domination of Men” it clearly states the woman is obliged to take the wet spot if and only if it is largely made of saliva.
Aseymayo, you are too funny! I’ll take a saliva spot ANYTIME!!!
Re: the wet spot: my husband and I just throw a towel over it and go to sleep. From personal experience it is possible to retain the semen for a little while. But, I’m the type that hops out of bed as soon as he’s out and cleans up on the potty (had a history of bladder infections in early marriage vis. my habit of quick clean-up)
…breaking my personal rule of not participating in the sex threads…
Ok, the thing about the wet spot is that it’s mostly caused by the motion of the penis - kinda like when you’re stirring something in a bowl and not paying attention, and it gets slopped all over the place. Well not exactly like that, but it’s the image that comes to mind. Yes, women are perfectly capable of retaining liquids inside after sex, but the act of withdrawing a penis cancels out any retention action and causes a wet spot. After withdrawl, the wet spot doesn’t need to get any bigger.
I would also note that the wet spot can be avoided altogether by utilizing the “woman on top” position, or, as someone else pointed out, the kitchen floor. (Although the last time a partner and I enjoyed ourselves on the kitchen floor, we found that the noise made by bare skin on linoleum incited more mirth than sexual pleasure.)
Handy, I don’t think depth has anything to do with it. That final thrust before ejaculation is usually “the big one” and since most men average a penis size of about 6" (I’m saying “average”!! I don’t want to hear about how anyone out there is ahead of his grade! ), it would seem that the depth would be relatively the same. Maybe you’ve gotten lucky? Or maybe you’ve been so overcome with emotion and/or sleep that you never noticed. . Just my .02
This is to theoperaghost…
Shame on you! Sacraficing cuddling!
(ours only lasts long enough to put the other one to sleep)
If you can manage to keep it to one side of the bed or the other, you can have your cuddle time without the “wet spot”. Then by the time your done cuddling, (if you have wiped it off) the “wet spot” is dry.
I am basically new here, but you all are much to funny!!! Thanks for the laughs!
If the sex is worthwhile…the whole damn bed should be wet…Or table cloth, carpet, where ever…And if it’s Really good, who can tell???And who cares after 4 or 5 big O’s?
Unless your talking about that hetero type o’ thing. I don’t suppose there is all that much to get wet over, is there?
If the world were a logical place, Men would ride side saddle…Rita Mae Brown
This reminds me of the story of the couple who just couldn’t conceive a child. After numerous tests and head scratchings, the doctor discovered that they thought the entrance point for the semen was the belly button…
), it would seem that the depth would be relatively the same. Maybe you’ve gotten lucky? Or maybe you’ve been so overcome with emotion and/or sleep that you never noticed.