Wow. I’m pretty amazed at the one-sided answers here. I, personally, would have gone with a 60% female to 40% male in the easy-lay quotient.
As some may know, and others could care less about, I’ve worked most of my college days as a bartender in a few different bars here in Minneapolis. Popular bars, pick-up bars, sophisticated bars, you name it (I worked more than one bar on a couple of occasions).
When I first started bartending, at the tender age of 21, I, too, shared in the idea that any woman could go out and get laid any day of the week. I, too, also thought it was the job of the guy to win over the girl and seek out going home and getting laid.
Spend a few nights behind the bar people. Women are just as bad, if not worse, than the guys. I never would have believed it had I not witnessed it myself.
I have seen any number of good looking guys get hit on to the point of being somewhat pissed and begin completely ignoring the gals. The vice versa is also true, but the equality of activley seeking it out accross the board seemed pretty damn equal to me.
Women fall all over the good-looking guys much like the guys fall all over the good-looking gals. It may have been different in the past, but todays world seems to have balanced it out between the sexes.
Trouble is, in our culture, a girl who likes sex and has lots of it is branded a slut. Generally, it’s not guys who’re doing the branding, either…it’s other chicks. (My personal theory is that they’re jealous because they wish THEY were having as much as we are.) Anyway, most of us are brought up thinking that we’re not supposed to get laid a lot.
Guys, on the other hand, are not brought up with that belief. If they score lots, nobody talks trash about them. (People may call him a playa, but he won’t deal with the same group censure as a girl who gets around does.)
It’s like guys are actively encouraged to be horny, and girls are actively discouraged from doing anything about it.
Who wants to subvert the dominant paradigm with me?
Gotta weigh in here in total agreement. Not being too far removed from university myself, women were just as aggressive in trying to get laid on Thursday-Saturday night and not substantially more successful.
The reason guys always think that girls can get laid anytime they want to is that they are only thinking about the girls who turned them down when they tried to have sex with them. Go to a bar and watch: the women in the top 25% charisma-wise (and I mean both looks and personality) are being hit on by the majoprity of the guys there–the other girls, just like the lower 75% of guys, charisma wise, are SoL. Bluntly, most people only consider people more attractive than themselves as potential mates–I know plenty of people of both genders that would never meet thier own qualifications.
I have heard men joke about the “ugly friend” or the “fat friend”–the girl with the pretty chick everyone is flirting with. Trust me, when you are that woman the dry spells can be pretty long. Those of us who are not beauties or who have the sort of personalities it takes another eccentric to appriciate do not get laid whenever we want. And it is more or less the same with guys–those with charisma flowing out thier ears can get laid pretty easily, and the rest have to wait.
Amber Skye, you mentioned “co-workers”–how old are you? I’ve been assuming around 15, and cutting you a lot of slack because of it.
