For gay guys it’s easy. I got laid last night with a tall and quite attractive Frenchman. It took me a half-hour on the Internet in the priape.com chatroom and another twenty minutes of walking. It was faster than a pizza.
So why do I keep hearing attractive straight men and women complaining about not being able to get laid? Don’t you have chat rooms?
Crap. TMI, dude!
Now I want to take a shower…
Matt, sometimes you really worry me. Your faster than pizza way of meeting guys is pretty scary. Is your safety really worth a roll in the hay?
Don’t you worry about rape? What if the guy doesn’t appeal when you show up? What do you do then?
FTR, I couldn’t go to a bed with a man without feeling some sort of emotional connection to him - pick-ups in bars are out for me. I have known people who can do this, and they tend to get laid as much as they can handle.
I’ve been meeting guys off the Internet for something like a year and a half now, and I’ve had a problem exactly one time. That time I mistook this other guy for the guy I was supposed to meet and I almost ended up in a bad situation, but I avoided it by quick thinking. Other than that, the total outcome has been a wide variety of sex, ranging from mediocre to excellent, as well as one - well, not relationship; more like ongoing trick. The most unpleasant thing about the whole business is once in a while when I get stood up.
And if the guy doesn’t appeal when he shows up, I tell him so honestly, and walk. It’s a very honest deal.
Would someone like to answer the question?
Because some of us aren’t sluts, matt. 
Yeah, but not all gay people are sluts, and those that don’t, don’t use the chat rooms. What about the straight people who are sluts, or rather, who would like to be but don’t have the opportunity, or are slut-curious, or whatever? What do they do? Don’t straight people have any fora other than singles bars?
Mmmmmmmmmmmmmm…pizza…
Men are men when it comes to sex drive, whether they are straight or gay, and most guys are ready for sex at the drop of the hat so it doesn’t surprise me that it didn’t take you long to get laid. The only way a guy could get a woman that fast is if she is a professional and money changes hands. I hear women talking about how they sometimes like quick anonymous sex too, but talk is one thing and actually doing it is another and I’ve never known a woman who did anything but talk about it.
I think that when two guys get together, sex will happen a lot quicker than with a hetro situation.
There is no “song and dance” with gay men…(who meet on-line, et al) They both want it, so they get it.
When a man and a women hook up, they both may want it, but there are certain steps to take before it happens.
Those steps are not present for a gay male encounter.
Gay sex is quicker…
Het sex is dandy
My wife isn’t here…
So I’ll use my handy
Sorry Ogden
Okay, you get really flat and then… oh, not THAT kind of straight sex! Doh!
I guess it’s about the same deal if you are into that “hit and run” thing. For a lot of us sex isn’t just about sex. We want a lot more with it.
However, if you just want to get laid I guess the internet is the wave of the future.
I do think there is something to this ‘gender role’ idea - that men are willing to quickly hop in the sack, while women want more of an emotional connection (all generalizations, this doesn’t apply to specific individuals, YMMV, etc. etc.)
Question: Do lesbians enjoy ‘faster than a pizza’ sex as often as gay men? This could shed some light on the gender roles.
In my limited experience as a straight man it does appear that most women are more choosy than most men. While the occasional woman wants a roll in the hay, it is much more common for a man to want one than for a woman to grant one.
And that’s just about it, isn’t it? In the case of straight sex it is quite often the case that the man often wants it, and only gets it when the woman wants it. Again, this is a generalization, so individuals may vary, but it does seem that on average men are more ‘prete-a-porter’ than women.
Getting some is not the problem for me. I am looking for a relationship, not just the ‘pizza’.
I have an old pal who calls me once once in a while (usually around 2 am, after a night at the bars) I usually refer to this as a ‘bootie call’.
It just doesnt do it for me anymore. I want something more.
I guess matt, it all depends on what your after.
Great to hear you are getting lots though!!
I have known only one woman in my life for whom sex was as it would be in some men’s ideal world: Anyone, anytime. She once went on a singles cruise and claimed to have had sex with six different men in seven days. With her history, I had no reason to doubt it (and was mildly surprised the count wasn’t higher). She was presentable, but far from gorgeous – but since she was universally willing, she was an extremely popular girl. I don’t think there’s such an animal as a woman who can’t get laid if she’s willing and not particular.
But be very careful, Matt.
Catrandom
Huh? Did i hear someone wants to use me???
Yeah, matt, straight people can get sex just as easy. What they want however, is a relationship. Which is like real work! Real emotional work ! Plus takes major emotional intelligence to get one of those…
Shucks, for a few bucks, we can visit an escort agency & get perfect sex everytime. Only $160.00 per visit [A lady saw my web site & I asked her what the rates are locally].
Lets see, call massage place, go in, have sex, time: 22 minutes. 
handy, maybe I have to learn to dicker more, but I have been with hookers twice and it cost me $300 both times. And far from perfect sex, it was some of the worst sex I have had. The first hooker was particularly lousy as she keep talking during the act telling me how much I should tip her when we were done.
You folks need to check out the “kissing” thread, and reflect a little.
Peace,
mangeorge
Excuse me, folks, for some Pit-like language, but this is between Matt and me.
Just how fucking stupid are you? Don’t you think you have serial killers in Canada? I’m down in Chicago, so thanks to John Gacy (he trolled the same neighborhood I worked in at the same time) and Jeffrey Dhamer, just up in Milwaukee, I would be so afraid to meet, much less fuck, somebody I met online!
Or it could be an underage kid pretending he’s older, tailed by the cops. Or any of a number of VERY BAD scenarios.
Do you HAVE to live this gay cliche of random sex with strangers? That’s what got so many of your brothers killed by AIDS. It would have never spread like it did if you guys had kept it in your pants except for monogamous sex.
I don’t give a shit about your obvious lack of self-respect to fuck any asshole YOU FOUND ON THE INTERNET. It’s just that IT IS AMAZINGLY STUPID! I thought you were smart. You really disappoint me.
I don’t live by any clichés at all. If someone wants to believe clichés about gays that also happen to describe me, they may go right ahead and do that. It has no bearing on me.
Thank you for this, Dr. Laura. Actually, what could have, and did, slow down the AIDS epidemic was assiduous use of safe sex. I have never had unsafe sex with anyone - not a trick, not a boyfriend - and since I’ve volunteered both for an AIDS community service and for a gay help line, I think I know what’s going on. Thank you for your concern, but it is unfounded.
I’m not sure what you mean by “lack of self-respect”. The only way I could think of that this would make me lack self-respect is if I believed that nice girls and boys don’t do that. News flash: nice girls and boys do do that. When I have sex with someone, it means I respect my physical and mental desires and am attempting to fulfil them. I’m interested to know how you are diagnosing me otherwise from across a message board.
Now then: I’ve had exactly one relevant answer to my OP (escort services). All the rest has been hemming and hawing about how straight people (or straight women in particular) don’t have casual sex. Which is fine to know, as far as that goes. But if nobody else can come up with a relevant answer, I will ask the moderator to lock this thread.
(I’ve been advised to make the following clarification: In gay slang, trick = partner in a one-night stand; nothing to do with prostitution.)