Gay men want relationships too. Sometimes this comes through tricking (does not involve prostitutions as Matt already said). I met my first longterm boyfriend (over 5 years) by cruising. It is not the straight culture that you guys are used to seeing.
HUGS!
Sqrl
How do you get straight sex? Act like a man.
Okay. I’ve never done this–this is just what I’ve heard from folks who do.
Personal ads. Ever read the alternative weekly newspapers? Most of them will have a section of people who are just looking to get laid, and quite a few of those are het. Same thing with personals on the internet. Mind you, there are many more men than women on those things, but there are enough women who are looking for a good time that the men get laid every now and then.
Not sure about chat rooms, because I’ve never met anyone who did it that way.
matt, Im not sure what you mean by safe sex; but condoms are SAFER sex, they are not safe sex. They fall off, they rip, etc. Plus, wearing a condom a person can still get HPV 16 & 18, HPV 7,9 [genital warts], Mono, Herphes, lice, etc…
Handy: As I mentioned, I’ve been a volunteer both for an AIDS organization and for a gay phone line, so I do know this, thank you. It’s not a problem for me, since I keep myself safe by -
Wait a minute. Let’s go up and reread the OP. What do we see there? Is it a request for advice, opinions, or criticisms about my sex life?
As it happens, no.
I don’t mean to jump on you in particular, Handy, but as I already told Dropzone, this is let’s-answer-Matt’s-questio-about-straight-sex day, not let’s-examine-Matt’s-safe-sex-behaviour-across-the-Internet day.
Did I post this in the wrong forum? If I did, let me know. I’ll have this thread locked and repost it in GQ, if that’s what I ought to do to get an answer.
Vestal: Is this an answer or an admonishment, and to whom?
Drain: Thank you. I now have two answers.
Like DB, never done this, but…
Chat rooms online. Most people will ask if you’re close, and if so, will agree to meet you that night.
Personal ads. Takes a little longer, but same idea.
Going to a bar and seeing who you can pick up. Old standby, but still works.
When I was in my early twenties, I just went to a bar and went home with someone. I’m one of those anytime, anywhere girls and the bar was the quickest way to accomplish this without all the bullshit.
Now, I’m married and cannot imagine sex with a stranger, or even a casual acquaintance. For me, sex gets better the longer I do it with the same person. Now, if I were the single, I’m thinking I wouldn’t have sex very often, even though I continue to be one of those anytime, anywhere girls.
I think that often, casual sex for women happens the majority of the time when they are younger…and since not all men are younger, and not all men want a 20 year old, it becomes more difficult to do the stranger sex thing.
Please, everyone, this is just my opinion…your life may completely differ.
trisha
matt, sounds like you have a nice thing going. Glad I never thought of you as a “fuck machine” though, 'cause I would have been so wrong… 
Sili
matt - for me, back when I was younger and just interested in “sex”, not relationships, getting laid was very easy. Go to a bar. Simple. Now, if you are looking for a relationship, that’s a whole different story.
Oh, as for the internet part of it, call me crazy but I wouldn’t have gone that route, only because it’s just scarier to me. I know it sounds stupid - what’s scarier about picking up a person on line and sleeping with them versus picking up someone in person and sleeping with them - but it’s true for me, going the internet route just seems inherently more “dangerous”. Like I would be more at risk with the internet person. Maybe it’s because you can actually see what the person in the bar looks like and don’t have to deal with them if you get a funny feeling about them, but if you hook up with someone on line, then meet them and decided you get a funny feeling it’s more of a rejection - kind of a “you brought me all the way here now you are gonna put out!!!” kind of thing. What the heck do I know - I’m 34, single, and fighting with my boyfriend.
Take it as you see fit.
No, no, no, Tradesil. Regarding #2 on your list, expensive gifts are never EXCHANGED. They are GIVEN by the man (read: sap) to the woman (read: ingrate).
As for “exchanges,” well, that’s what the woman does at the store if she does not like the color or the size of the expensive gift.
OK, yes, dammit, I’m jealous!!! Bloody shot-to-shit heterosexual world!!!
::stalks off fuming::
stuyguy, you funny. I like your keen analytical observations, but watch what you call my wife!
Sili
OK, thanks for the answers, folks.
The reason I’m asking is because for the last little while, I’ve been curious about what sex with a woman is like. Considering how interesting I find bi-curious guys, I supposed that some str8 women might find a bi-curious gay guy as interesting.
I don’t know if I’m going to give it a try, but I might. Thanks for the suggestions.
Given that info, matt - I’d say that the internet is yer best choice for finding people. Just my opinion. 
The other night I was watching “The Science of Sex” on Discovery (actually, it was a marathon of that show–fascinating!). Homosexuality was the topic of a portion of one show, and some interesting studies were quoted.
In these studies, it was discovered that regardless of sexual preference, men tend to behave sexually as men. Meaning, straight or gay, a man has an entirely different approach and expectation of sex than a woman (studies also reflected that lesbian women also typically behaved “as women” when it came to roles, expectations, timing of meet-to-sex, etc.). Men are far more likely to engage in one-night stands and otherwise have sex simply for the sake of having sex. Studies also showed that gay men are typically far more promiscuous–not because they have increased libido, but because they have increased opportunities.
To answer the question,
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Obviously the researchers didn’t hang out at the Lexington.
It’s the only dyke bar we have here in SF. My god a lot of sex goes on in those bathrooms. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone with some girlfriends only to be abandoned for a quicky in the toilet. 
Well matt, if a het wants sex we can also have sex with gay guys cause you know they love us for tricks
My answer would be bars as well. Sure, it’s old, but it’s a classic. Now that I’m in a relationship, I actually go to bars to DRINK
matt, I would be really curious how you would experience sex with a woman. I have an uncle who’s gay (“Some of my best friends are gay, but…” :D), and he has had sex with some women throughout his life and times. Notably, he had sex with Bianca Jagger somewhere in the 70’s. He was in the fashion business (don’t you love them stereotypes, dahling?), and in NYC for a fashion show. He met her at the fashion show, went out with her afterwards, and she invited him to her hotel room. His words: “Sure, it was gross. But this is the sort of thing you want to tell your nephew about 20 years later. This was Bianca Jagger! Of course I fucked her!”.
Laughed my ass off. Uhm, sorry for the hijack. Carry on - although I still find it hard to believe that someone is turned off by the idea of having sex with a woman. Guess that’s why I’m straight, huh
Quoth Ruffian:
In the heterosexual world, at least, this is absolutely not true: Men have hetero one-night stands exactly as often as women. Perhaps what you meant to say, is that men try to have one-night stangs more often?