I’m glad you practice “safe sex” religiously, but I still think any woman or gay guy picking up tricks online OR in a bar is insane. I just rode my bike past the place where a body was found after a bar pickup. You sleep with people you know and trust or you sleep alone. Recommendations and introductions by friends is another way.
The best way that I know for you to have het sex would be with a girlfriend. You’re a nice looking guy and I’m sure that any number of your gal pals would be happy to see just how gay you really are. They’re probably curious, too.
A friend of mine had his only het experience in a threesome with one of his bi boyfriends and his girlfriend. My friend related that once his penis had been stimulated enough, “it didn’t care where it was.”
I haven’t slept with a guy, so I don’t have any direct comparison, but I know that sex with someone I know and like is much, much better than with some pickup, although that’s pretty good, too. And variety is somewhat overrated.
Actually men do have one night stands more than women, men often are having a one night stand while the woman is “begining a relationship”. As to the original question, I’m a straight guy wondering about that myself, if you find out let me know
OK, you want a straight answer, Matt? Speaking IN GENERALITIES, men and women often look at sex differently. Many women look at sex and love as intertwined. Women will often only have sex with a man they can say they love. Men will say they love her to get laid. Most men can separate love and sex. Is it better if you love her? Yes. But men can still just engage in the physicality of it. Is this in the genes? Primitive man wanted to spread his genes widely, while woman needed to have a protector when she’s pregnant? I’ve heard that too, but I’m not an anthropologist. Basically, women set the bar higher, and we’re just low-down creatures.
From what I have seen and by the evidence out there I would have to say that straight people are having sex and lots of it. Our 6 billion plus population is proof positive of that fact. You seem to think that we heteros aren’t getting any and nothing could be farther than the truth.
You seem to be having your fair share of sex and that seems because you operate under a different set of rules. You do not seem inhibited and sex to you appears to be a means to gaining personal satisfaction. There does not appear to be any deep relationship needed for you to have physical relations. You have found a means to locate like minded individuals so there is plenty of action for you.
There are many straight people who operate under the same mind set and they are probably getting laid pretty regularly although their partners may only be one nighters in nature.
I don’t think you speak for all homosexuals and people shouldn’t take your example as the norm.
I have never been into one nighters myself although there have been many opportunities in the past to have casual sex with strangers. It has never been my thing. I have been with the same woman for over four years and often joke that I am a serial monogamist. The sex just gets better and better as time goes by.
If I found myself to be single at some point later on I wouldn’t be jumping in the sack just because I found a woman physically attractive… pretty women are a dime a dozen. I guess it is quality and not quantity that appeals to me.
True enough, but I don’t see why you bring this up. I never claimed all or even most gay people are sluts like me any more than I claimed that all gay people are brown-haired, Canadian, social-democratic, pierced, polyglot, poor, or living in semi-basement 1 1/2 apartments like me.
matt - If you’re curious about het sex, maybe you should hire a hooker, if you can afford one. Or if you have a female friend (of a similar sexual nature as yours) who might not mind she could “show you the ropes”. At least you would know what you’re missing. Or not missing, if you don’t enjoy it. I’m personally of the “I don’t want sex, I want love-making” sort, so I can’t help you out.
I never claimed all or even most gay people are sluts like me any more than I claimed that all gay people are brown-haired, Canadian, social-democratic, pierced, polyglot, poor, or living in semi-basement 1 1/2 apartments like me.
Yeah, but I did. Especially the “brown-haired” part.
Matt, if you want het-sex, you shouldn’t have any problem getting it, there are plenty of “fag-hags” that it would be a dream come true for.
In response to the OP: It’s pretty easy for a woman to get laid any time she wants to. The problem is that most women aren’t in it just for the sex, that is where it becomes complicated.
If I wanted sex (mind you, I’m happily married and wicked satisfied sexually) I would probably go to a bar and just say, “Yes.” Even then, you have the problem of men wanting too much emotionally, which contradicts everything we normally assume about men. They want the relationship too. Whether it’s just a steady fuck or a “wife” thing, they want a constant.
So, taking all that into account, if I truly wanted a commitment-free one night stand, I would probably look up a swinging club. I’m not against bi-sexualtiy and I can’t think of anything more anonymous than a sex club.
At least you would know what you’re missing. Or not missing, if you don’t enjoy it. I’m personally of the “I don’t want sex, I want love-making” sort, so I can’t help you out.