As bad as it is to say it…I feel like I’m in a really great thread to meet women…
So where are you women located? Good looking 20 year old male here in Atlanta.
this has possibilities 
Still a virgin.
[sub]Assuming that jilling off doesn’t count.[/sub]
uh… well, umm… heh…
i guess i’m just not entirely sure… i would say somewhere between state of mind and particular acts, but more leaning toward particular acts. Everyone’s definition of virginity is a little bit different. I know some who consider even the thought of sex to be loss of virginity. For me, personally, i would say oral sex = loss of virginity of the women in a homosexual relationship, and penetration = loss of virginity for the woman in a heterosexual relationship. 'Course, that opinion would change according to circumstance… and… the truth is, i have no idea. 
I can’t vouch for anyone else here, but I know that’s not the case at GMU, or at least with the people (many of whom are the opposite of prudish) I know. I know of five people in and around to the academic team (shut up, all of you, we aren’t geeks) who aren’t currently swapping genes. And many of the people in my classes aren’t. And the ones who are are mostly married or in long-term relationships.
It happens lots, sure. But it isn’t nearly everyone.
16 year old virgin here-- thinking I might quell that in the next week or so, Whoo!
Hey, wait … I’M any guy!
So, uh, how you doin’?
16 year old virgin, not through lack of opportunities though.
Never with the right guy at the right time in the right place. shrug I probably won’t lose it anytime soon anyway… though there is this one guy…
Kitty
[the Blonde Friend]
16, virgin and yes I’ve had the chance…
What’s wrong with wanting to be alone for awhile, love can wait for me , right? Blondes do have more fun…but at least I can say it’s natural.
[The Blonde Friemd]
17 year old virgin checkin in. (18 in 3 months )
I’ve had opportunities and temptations and all that, but when it comes down to it, I’m too self-conscious. I hate my body and I’d be afraid I’d be unsatisfactory. 
(Not to mention, of course, all the unpleasant risks)
And a35362, I’m with ya on the pain thing. I’m not looking forward to it AT ALL. ::whimpers::
Hey now… wern’t we married at one point???
Well, I had my first time at age 21 (4 days short of being 22) with the man who became my husband. Just wanted to mention a couple things:
-My first time was very painful for me. I had had the gyne exam, so my hymen was broken first. But we were so nervous and anxious (his first time as well) that we didn’t wait until I was properly, um…lubricated down there. Also, he’s fairly…uh…thick, I guess would be the word. Also, we were using a condom, and it turns out that I am very sensitive to the nonoxynol 9 (or whatever it’s called.) To this day, when we make love, it takes a long time for me to be ready for penetration. Which is fine with both of us, since we love the forplay. I’m not saying this to scare anyone. I just wanted you to know that it may hurt more than you expect. I was convinced that I was a lousy lover, and that I’d never have normal sex. Thankfully, I have a great guy who was very patient, and we learned together what was good for both of us.
-A couple people have mentioned having never been kissed. My husband was my first kiss, and I was his. I was 21, he was 22. (Technically, I apparently kissed some guy as part of a “truth or dare” thing when I was 19, but I honestly don’t remember it because I was so drunk). So it’s not like there’s some “magic age” when these things happen. I have always been glad about the way it all worked out. But I remember being in high school and thinking no one would ever want me.
-Sorry if the above was TMI or sounded like I was giving a lecture to my kid sister. I just wanted to share my experience.
Good idea, but it was a reference to Cliff Richard: famously clean-living British rock star who started in the 50s pretending to be Elvis, well and truly found Jesus in the early 60s, and has remained (a) youthful, (b) virginal, and © mocked, ever since. There’s a perpetual gay rumour, but I just can’t believe someone so honest about virginity would be any less honest about homosexuality.
24, female. I haven’t met a guy I consider worth all of the risks, both physically and emotionally, actually especially emotionally. So…a question for you other “ladies in waiting” have you ever met a guy you wanted to sleep with? I don’t mean thinking “I could imagine sleeping with him,” but really wanted to. A friend and I were discussing never having met a guy we’ve felt that way about…a guy each, I mean, we’re not that willing to share
roaring with laughter Me too, me too! I’m 16 though. hides face
Yeah, and deflowering is actual penetration, correct? That’s how I’ve understood it from a medical-quasi-legal standpoint, yes? Am I wrong? Will someone…educate me?
And yeah, I’ve had quite the opportunities, and gotten pretty damn close, but not yet. Not ready and I know it. Yay! rolls eyes
Let’s make a Virgin Club. We’ll throw you a kicking-out party once you do it. Anyone up for it?
Last week I watched an episode of “The Critic” that I’d never seen before. Jay’s younger sister was forced to have a coming out party by her mom when she turned 16. There’s one scene where they’re talking to the dress salesman, and he sends the mom out. Then he goes through this spiel about there being two colors of white, virginal, and an off-white “hussy white.” After he explains the difference, he asks the girl “Which is it going to be? White or off white?” then waits. She eventually says " White…except for the gloves." Not something I expected in a cartoon!
Speaking as a male, the amount of pain has to do with a lot of variables. (Not that I’ve slept with a lot of virgins, mind you, but I do have some understanding of the matter.) With the first virgin I slept with, the pain for ME was excruciating and the act didn’t go to completion (God knows what it must have been like for her!). We split up shortly after that, so I have no idea how her next time compared.
The second virgin I slept with was, uh, slightly “roomier” and it was a little snug for me and some pain for her. It didn’t take too many times for it to go away (so she said).
The second one was more athletic than the first one and that may have had something to do with it. I’d imagine that the size of the guy has something to do with it as well. Pee Wee Herman would probably be more comfortable (though a lot stranger, perhaps) to lose your virginity to than John Holmes.
- 21 in October. Still a virgin. Never had a boyfriend, blah, blah, blah (I have said this all before in many threads.) Of course, I am not a ravishing beauty(contribute this to low self-esteem), but I would love to find and love someone who thinks I am and loves me just the way I am (and get married). That doesn’t mean it will happen, but I have my fingers crossed, my toes, my eyelashes…
- Female. Virgin. Never even been kissed. Never been in any kind of relationship or even psuedo-relationship.
I’m about 90% sure I’m a lesbian, but I don’t really feel comfortable applying the label to myself until I’ve, ya know, uh, field tested that theory.
There’s this girl at school that I’ve kinda been in love with since I met her two years ago. I won’t see her again until the fall, but, god, I think about her all the time. We’re kinda aquaintances/almost-friends, but I don’t have a frickin’ clue about how to advance our relationship in the direction I’d like to to take; I have no idea what her orientation is and I don’t know how to casually broach the subject. We’re both kinda shy–me more than her–so that makes any conversation difficult. And besides that, I’d like to be friends with her if nothing else, because she’s a really amazing person, and if she’s not, ya know, receptive, I don’t want to freak her out by saying “I adore you, I adore you, I adore you…” But beseides all THAT, I think that by admiring her from a distance for so long, I’ve idealized her as some kind of goddess in my mind, so that even if we were both able to overcome our shyness, and even if she WAS recepive to my advances, I’d probably still be stuck in the mindset that she’s so perfect, and I’m so unworthy…
::sigh:: If real relationships are as complex as crushes, I don’t think I’m ready…
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Hm. Well, depending on the standard you use for virginity, I’ve only ever had sex with one guy, or else I’m a total slut. I prefer “total slut”, myself…
Virgin here, with a very good reason.
I’m 14. In, at absolute most, 17 years, I won’t be one anymore. My best friend and I made a deal that if I was still a virgin when I was 31 (ala the Waterboy :)), she’d sleep with me, and I’m not arguing :p.
Teehee, practically same predicament. 14-virgin. If still a virgin by 25, my friend and i have made the same deal.