Well, for ME…
It hurt like bloody hell. Took three different days of trying before we finally “broke through” (doggy style worked). I bled for about 3 days. It hurt pretty bad every time we had sex for the next dozen times or so. I think I am pretty small down there though.
Ooh, I haven’t been flirted with on this board before! 
(Though I don’t think I meant what you thought I meant.)
I’ve known several guys that I would happily have slept with, but for one reason or another it’s been just impossible. I’ve had one boyfriend, when I was in high school. I don’t think I’ve been kissed since I was 18. 
There are a few advantages to celibacy. (There’ve got to be, there must be!) I mean, I’m not exactly celibate by choice, just by lack of opportunity. On the other hand, by now I’m going to be very picky about whoever it is, since I know I can survive without it.
It would sure be nice to have somebody to snuggle with in bed, though. I’d rather have a relationship than just sex. I may be in for a long wait, if the past is any guide.
Sua, I would say that “losing virginity” would be when two people are doing things where the intended goal is to have an orgasm.
Alternately, oral sex.
Of course, if you flip between those two definitions (as I do occasionally) There are days when you’re not sure just when you lost it…
YMMV? I’ll say! I had a very loving partner, was assured by my doctor that I would “not have much trouble” and it still hurt like a bitch. I bled for days and it was a very long time for me before it stopped hurting. However, I don’t recommend letting the fear of pain overwhelm a natural sharing of love. When you are ready (really ready), then go for it. You might be one of the lucky ones like Podkayne, instead of one like me.
Wow! I was already throwing myself a mini pity party tonight, and this thread makes me feel a bit worse! I’m a 17 year old virgin who has never once been presented with the opportunity for intercourse. I am convinced that I would be amazing in bed, and some guy some day is going to be VERY lucky. I would basically do anything he asked.
What’s all this about losing one’s virginity by having received oral? Give me a break! I say, stick with the technical definition. Some of my friends bend that rule the opposite way, saying that they are still virgins although they have been partially penetrated. Come on!
I think it is pretty much a given that for herterosexuals one is a virgin until he/she has intercourse. The question about oral sex was concerning when homosexuals lose their virginity, where the technical definition does not apply.
Hi, I’m Jeff, I’m 33 and I’m a virgin. I feel no great need to change this.
FUB, just an opinion here, and I’m certainly NOT urging you to do anything you don’t want to do, but “letting your parents down” is a lousy reason for abstinance. Your sexuality is YOURS, to use or not in what ever manner you see fit. I commend you for not being pressured into something you don’t want to do, but at 16, you are very close to being your own person, and that means doing what is right for YOU-not living acording to someone else’s wishes-and this is not just about sex.
And, FTR, I lost it at…uh…[sub]14[/sub]. Good God! that was…20 years ago!
By GMU, do you mean George Mason? I have some aquaintances that are TKE’s there (I am one at a different college).
Just curious.
Oh, and on topic, I’m 20 and no, I am not.
I was 22 before I kissed a girl for the first time, and she eventually became my wife, at which point I had sex at 25. Being Christians, our reasons for waiting were spiritual/religious.
As for the kissing, I was just a geek growing up.
I should add another “me too” to the thread, but i am pissed that I cannot manage to find a boyfriend in this one-horse-town where I live.
I am especially tired of my best friend saying she must fix me up, it really makes me want to slap her across the mouth, and then when she gives me the prince charming speech, that makes me want to vomit.
you cannot help but wonder: would i be less irrritable if i got laid ? Two words: probably not.
I’m 25, and I’m still a virgin. I’m gonna make it a point to tell my TI all about it in Basic, too. He’ll love that.
…unless, of course, someone wants to help me with that little problem… 
Seventeen, female, still a virgin, not that I WANT to be. I have the desire, I have the drive, I have the frickin’ PILL (not for sex, though, for my mood swings. I’m a real brat around… well, actually always) But, for reasons beyond my control, it’s not going to happen. Though, I AM planning on getting laid before I go to college.
That’s so romantic… I’m sure it will be special
25 years and counting…the days…the hours…the minutes…God, I wish I was married…I start year 26 next month…
So, **Lunatic13 *, how you doing?
20 and female here, and never been past second base. Not for lack of opportunity, but for lack of the right opportunity. I promised myself that I would always do my best to avoid entering into any sexual relationship where I or my partner would feel exploited. That rules out having sex with anyone who is drunk, in the middle of a bad breakup, trying to make someone else jealous, or who is looking for a relationship either much more or much less serious than what I want. So far these situations are the only chances I’ve had. In my more hormonal moments I’ve sometimes regretted passing them up, but I know I’d feel much worse if I’d taken advantage of someone else or let them take advantage of me.
*It seems apt that this is the very first time I have used this popular phrase.
Well then, may I be your official flirt-buddy?
Kinda reminds me of something my friends started once. It was the Bachelor’s Club. Only guys who had never kissed a girl were allowed in. It kinda died after the president was rumoured to have recieved an illicit smooch after prom one night.
And as for YT, I’m 17 and haven gotten laid yet. My current girlfriend is fifteen and told me that she once promised her dying grandmother to stay a virgin until she’s 28 (or married).
So, I guess I can join that virgin-until-thirty club as a perspective member, no?
But seriously, she’s told me she would like to so much that if I asked really nicely she just might do it…(tee-hee!)
Um, if that’s your actual pic on your LiveJournal site, then I–um–well, you look pretty good to me.
(phew!)
What? My sex life? No no no! I come online to hide behind a fake name & appear all mysterious & stuff. Gee!
OK. I can tell you this much. I’m in my late twenties, and I’m a technical virgin. sorta.
Gee, that’s vague, huh?
No. really, I have been apparently the wrong combination of boring, flaky, self-absorbed, & psycho to get myself a girlfriend. And I, for one, am not gonna have sex just to do it–I want it to be with someone I’m willing to be with, and who’s willing to be with me, for the long haul.
I have fallen for a few women–usually after they are already in serious relationships with someone else. Oh, joy. Or there was the “sorta.” I’ll spare you the details, but we were pretty hot & heavy, & I realized that having sex with her was not a good idea, because while I had definite feelings for her, I really really wasn’t going to be able to live with her.
Ah, yes, I am thread poison.